Don’t run back to him when you are feeling weak and you are looking for something comfortable and familiar to feel loved. Don’t run back to him when you feel like you are drowning in sadness and sorrow and all you wish to do is to call them, something which you will regret soon after. Don’t run back into his arms just because you think you won’t meet someone better.
Don’t run back to him when you feel sad, lonely, or when your heart is aching. Never go back to them because they cannot fix what they broke. They cannot heal your heart and glue the broken pieces together.
If you go back to him thinking that things will be different this time around – you are probably wrong. You may think that they have grown and matured but, in my experience, once a relationship has been broken, once the trust is lost, and the love is taken for granted – it can rarely go back to normal.
Even more so, there is a very good chance that you will hurt yourself again by going back. And this time the pain might be even stronger than the last time.
Yes, you may believe that they’ve changed, that they are different now. But people rarely change their behaviors. Perhaps, in the beginning, they will try their best to fix the things that annoy you, but once the “magic” wears off they are still the same person as they were before.
If, however, you decide to go back to them, they might think that they can do whatever the hell they want, and you’ll still be there because you love them. You shouldn’t base your decisions and answer all the questions with “Because I love him.”
And he shouldn’t treat you in a disrespectful manner. He shouldn’t expect you to jump through hoops for him and always be there for him no matter what. Especially not if he is not treating you the way you deserve to be treated.
Don’t worry. You are not weak for trusting them again and thinking that they have changed. It’s only human to think the best of the people we love.
But you cannot keep on going back into their arms knowing that they are someone who repeatedly breaks your heart and lets you down. You can’t be with a person who only cares about meeting their selfish needs and doesn’t care about yours. Don’t allow them to drag you down. You deserve better than that.
Because you owe it to yourself. You should protect yourself and your heart because they never will.
I understand that this is hard, especially if you still love them so much and you miss them, but please don’t go back to a person who doesn’t bring out the best in you. Being in a relationship with someone who drains your energy and inflicts hurt into your heart is toxic and it can be fatal for you.
Therefore, girlfriend, stand up for yourself and know your worth!
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move the fuck on! And I promise you, you will be better off without them. Because your happiness is your own and no one has a right to steal it away from you and make you feel like you are not enough.