It is okay to not want to rush into things. It’s okay not to be the person who falls hard and fast for someone. If you are confused and not sure what to do, then take a step back and try to make sense out of your feelings.
It is okay to not be sure if the person you are dating is the one.
The thing is, we tend to romanticize everything. We romanticize falling in love at first sight. We romanticize losing our heads to someone instantly without knowing too much about them. We call it love. We call it an instant connection. We call that recognition of two souls…
Sadly, the reality is very different. We cannot possibly know a person in a very short period and say to ourselves that we love them. How can one love a person that they know nothing about?
So, we make up stories in our minds. We tell ourselves that we are living the fairytale. That we’ve met a person and we instantly knew they were the one. We are desperately trying to live in a romantic movie, we want to be the next Noah and Allie, Jack and Rose, Romeo and Juliet.
And rather than living in a fantasy, we are failing to see the beauty of falling in love slowly with someone. We don’t appreciate the beauty of just hanging around with someone and having a great talk. We want to label things too soon.
As for me, I want someone who won’t turn my world upside down in the first two weeks. I want someone who will be there for me for a long time, soothing my mind, heart, and soul.
I want to take things slowly but surely. The kind of slow that doesn’t make you feel burdened and anxious. The kind of slow that is not overwhelming. The kind of slow that makes it all feel real.
The truth is, many people are out there, desperately looking to find someone they can hold onto, anyone. And when they find a person that strikes their interest, they fall in hard and quick. They lose their mind. They obsess. They are scared to let go of their hand not realizing that first, they must learn how to hold their own hand.
Don’t do it. Don’t let them convince you that you must rush into things to keep the passion alive. Remember that the candle that burns twice as bright burns half as long.
And that slow and steady always wins the race.