“Growing up means realizing a lot of your friends aren’t really your friends.”
– Anon
I’ve always been a chatty person. I’ll make conversation with the person working at the grocery store or with someone who’s waiting for the same bus as me. Whenever I see someone who seems a bit nervous or introverted, I’ll do my best to talk to them and make them feel included. Because of my talkative nature, making friends hasn’t been all that hard for me. However, making real friends is something that I’ve struggled with.
The world is completely riddled with fake people. They’re absolutely everywhere and will come into your life without you even realizing it. Quite honestly, I’m completely sick and tired of them. I don’t have time in my life for fake friends.
I Want to be a Good Person
It’s not in my nature to turn people away. If someone shows an interest in me, I’ll have no problem speaking with them, bonding with them, and maybe even forming a friendship. Maybe it’s naïve of me, but I want to assume the best of people. I want to see the good in them and believe they have my best intentions at heart.
Despite that, not everyone is good. Sometimes my wish to be a nice, sociable person leads me to give my kindness to people who don’t deserve it. I end up becoming friends with people who only care about themselves.
I end up surrounded by fake friends who don’t really care about me.
Life is Busy
As a child, most of your time is filled with socializing. In school, you spend all your free time and lunch breaks talking to your friends and playing little games. Afterward, you’d probably go to a friend’s house or to play outside.
We can’t stay children forever though.
The older we get, the less free time we have. First, we grow into teenagers that need to spend more and more time studying. Then, we grow into adults that have responsibilities, jobs, children, and routines. I myself have almost no free time anymore because of all the things that I need to do every single day.
With so little free time, I can’t afford to waste it on fake people. The time that I have available to socialize is precious to me and I want to spend it with real friends.
I’m Lucky
Yes, I have found myself with a few fake friends in my life. Thankfully though, for every fake friend I’ve had, I’ve had a hundred more authentic friends. Now, I’m lucky enough to say that I’ve surrounded myself with people who really care about me.
My friend group now is as close as can be. We’re completely honest with one another, sometimes brutally so, and trust each other with everything. We talk about love, loss, parenthood, everything. When one of us needs advice, the rest of us give it gladly.
I’m so blessed to have friends who are so kind and caring. They’re the kind of people that I want to spend my time on, not fake people.
They say that life is too short for fake cheese and fake friends. There’s no real reason why anyone should have to subject themselves to people with bad intentions. That’s especially true when your life is busy and free time is scarce. So, don’t let yourself be fooled by fake people. Instead, surround yourself with friends who love you and care about you. Your free time is much better spent on people like that.
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