I know it’s hard. I know it’s hard to say ‘no’ to the person who you once loved so much and probably you still do. It is very hard to ignore their calls and text messages. It is immensely hard to ignore someone who once was a big part of your life.
No, my friend. Slap yourself if you think this way. Let’s stop with all this craziness and see the things as they are.
Yes, hard may be an understatement. Relationship pain is fucking awful and heartbreaking. However, the truth is – the one who once hurt you and broke your heart cannot fix you. They cannot heal the pain they caused you. Don’t be naïve to think that things will be different the next time around.
They will never be. They will never change. They will never be able to heal your heart and make all the pain go away.
That’s why you must be strong enough to resist them. To resist the temptation which they are giving to you. Because one bite and you are poisoned.
I am not here to judge you. I am not here to tell you that you are weak if you keep running back to them. Because I’ve done it many times. I know the struggle. I know the pain. I know the agony. I’ve chased a person who proved me time and time again that I was a fool to go back to them.
I haven’t learned my lesson until one day I just couldn’t do it. I couldn’t go back to them. I felt tied to my chair and my insides were refusing to let me run into their arms and get my heart broken again. Even in that place of total agony, pain, and love I knew that I had come so far for someone who didn’t deserve me. I’ve reached my limit. I was done.
And it was at that moment that I knew it was finally over.
No one worthy of your time and love will ever inflict so much pain into your heart.
Therefore, don’t allow anyone who has shown you they are a hurtful person back into your life.
Because, when you let them come back – you are letting yourself down. You are suppressing your happiness and peace for comfort and familiarity. Don’t be afraid of the unknown. You will find someone better and worthy of you.
It’s the one who has hurt you once that will continue hurting you. That’s the cycle of pain. The magic will eventually disappear, the promises will fade away, and the butterflies in your stomach will die. And it will all spiral downward making you feel like you’ve lost control over your life.
Be better than that. Know better.
You are strong. You are smart. You are capable. Don’t let anyone deceive you and manipulate you. You deserve a healthy love. One that is composed of two healthy hearts filled with love and compassion.
Please, don’t go back to the person who hurt you.
You deserve so much more. So, so, so much more.