Singlehood is an important stage in life that we should all experience throughout our journey. Because, regardless of what other people say, single is not a relationship status on Facebook. Nor it is a weakness.
Singlehood is a journey to self-contemplation and self-love. It means that a person is strong and brave enough to detach from everyone else and live life according to their own rules.
However, not all of us have the same opinion on this subject. Some people believe that being single is the equivalent of having no luck in life. They perceive single people as miserable, desperate and sad beings who only want one thing – to find someone who would love them more than they love themselves.
If you are a single person who is enjoying life, you probably know what it feels like to face these people. Here are some of those frustrating and annoying things that happen when you’ve been alone for a long time:
1. PEOPLE CARE ABOUT YOUR LIFE MORE THAN YOU DO
Every time you go to a family dinner or you meet an old friend on the street, the first thing that they say to you is “How is your love life?” and “When are you getting married?” and “Oh, poor you, you will find someone. Don’t worry.” This list goes on and on. It’s never-ending.
It is as if finding a partner, getting married and procreating are the most important things in life. Nobody actually bothers to ask you about your career, your passions in life or your friends.
2. THEY THINK YOU NEED THEIR POINTLESS ADVICE
For some reason, the same people that I’ve mentioned before think that you couldn’t survive without their pointless advice about dating. They actually pity you. So, they share their dating tricks with you.
They tell you to go out more. To download Tinder. To be more open to meeting new people. To smile more. To join thousands of useless dating sites.
They believe they are helping you, but little do they know, you don’t need any help. You are actually doing great. You’re alone, you’re focused on doing the things that you love and you’re fabulous. What more could one ask for?
3. THEY TRY TO SET YOU UP WITH RANDOM PEOPLE
The worst thing is, they believe that it’s their job to find you a partner. So, they try to get actively involved in your love life. They take your phone, swipe through Tinder and look for ideal matches.
They try to set you up with some people they believe could be perfect for you. They even have the nerve to set you up on a blind date with the random cute guy who is working at your fave café without asking you. It is exhausting.
4. THEY PITY YOU AND GIVE YOU BIZZARE, INSINCERE COMPLIMENTS
They don’t really think before they open their mouths. Some ask you how you could possibly be single when you are so attractive and smart. As if, finding a partner is the only goal you have in life.
They tell you that you are pretty, funny and amazing but you can actually feel their condescending tone of voice. They don’t really mean it. Most of them are only pretending to be kind, while deep down they’re nothing but weak and miserable human beings who are too afraid to change their lives and get out of their pathetic relationships.
5. FRIENDS START BEHAVING STRANGE AROUND YOU
Particularly your couple friends. Suddenly, you are not really welcome to join their gatherings because you don’t have a partner to rant about.
It’s not like they’ve said that to your face. You just feel it. They are not sure if you’d feel cool with them talking about their boyfriends, so they keep their stories to themselves.
They try not to make you feel awkward, but at the end of the day, it is exactly their behavior that makes you feel misunderstood and rejected.
6. THEY ASSUME YOU HAVE FEELINGS FOR EVERY PERSON YOU TALK TO
This is probably the most frustrating thing people usually do. How could someone assume that being polite to another person is a sign that you are having feelings for them?
It’s downright rude and humiliating. But, regardless of how disrespectful it is, people still do it. They force you to interact with someone just because you looked at them in a certain way. They tease you about your new colleagues at work.
They act like being involved with another person is much better than being alone without knowing that singlehood is the most liberating phase that you’ve experienced in life.