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If You Don’t Like Where Your Life Is Going, It’s Your Responsibility To Change It


I’m sick and tired of seeing people settling for a mediocre life.

We’re are so damn terrified of making a mistake or worst, failing that we actually forget what this life is all about. We don’t dare to get out of our comfort zones and question our choices because that requires hard work and a hell of a time spent on self-reflection.

Changes are frightening to us because there is always a possibility to fail. And you know what people say – “Better safe than sorry”.

And so, we sacrifice our happiness. We sacrifice our lives. We choose the status quo because of the sense of familiarity and safety make us feel calm. It gives us a feeling that we’ve got everything figured out.

But, in the process of convincing ourselves that this state of silent suffering is okay, we forget about the most important person – ourselves.

And as much as we like to think that we are living our lives to the fullest, we are not. We are surviving. We are pretending. What’s worse, deep down we hate ourselves for doing that.

Well, I’ve had it with the victim mentality!

Life is too damn short to be anything but happy!

If you are not satisfied with the career path that you’ve chosen, change it. If your job is turning you into an exhausted, miserable and a crazy person, do something about. Quit it, take a course, transfer to another college, explore the field that you’re interested in and educate yourself. It’s never late to make these changes. You have a whole life full of thousands of opportunities ahead of you. Do something about it.

If you don’t like the people you are surrounded with, CHANGE YOURSELF. I am sorry to be the bringer of bad news but changing places won’t bring you better friends. Remember, you attract what you are. The people in your life are exactly the people that you deserve to be surrounded with. The fact that you don’t like them says more about you than about them. So, start with yourself. Be honest, embrace your flaws and work on yourself.

If you don’t love your partner the way they love you, end your relationship. Stop holding onto it just because you’re too afraid to be alone. Stop suffering. Stop pretending. Stop trying to make a dead relationship work. If there are no feelings left inside your heart when you look at this person, it’s obvious. You need to release attachments and move on. After all, they’re not the last people on earth. There are plenty of other fish in the sea. Don’t settle for a mediocre love. You deserve to experience love in all its splendor.

If you are not happy with where your life is going, it’s simple. Change your direction. Whether it’s a field you’re working in, or college, or a relationship, or even a friendship, if it’s making you feel unsatisfied, drained and miserable, then that is a perfect reason to turn around and find a new path in life. If something doesn’t make your soul flourish, if it doesn’t inspire you to become a better version of yourself and fly even higher, then trust me, it is not worth it. If you are not where you thought you’d be a few years ago, change the direction in life.

There is no right time for this. There are no rules in life. You can stop or start whenever you want. And it’s your choice whether you make the best or the worst of it.

Don’t be afraid! If you are not happy in life, it’s your responsibility to change it. I know that sounds scary, and quite frankly, it is truly scary. But, when you understand that you are the only mastermind behind your life, you will realize that the only person who is stopping you from living the life of your dreams is YOU.

You don’t always have to know where you’re going as long as you keep moving forward. Make the step!

Stephanie Reeds