As humans, we go through life with perplexing and troubling thoughts, so having a person to whom we can confide and let our soul out, can sometimes be very soothing.
However, there are things in life that are better left unspoken.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not suggesting you should isolate in a world far away from people, but rather draw a certain line around you that should not be crossed and should be guarded by any means necessary.
You see, no matter how kind can people be, they are unpredictable as the wind. And no matter how big our people circle is, in the end, we all are on our own. So that’s why we should strive to take care of ourselves.
Some of our deepest secrets and desires, as well as actions, should not be shared with the rest of the world. With no one, if you ask me. It’s the only thing we have as a memento of our being and it should reside deeply inside our souls.
Oversharing is not essential for bonding, on the contrary, it can only make a mess.
Here are 8 things you should always keep to yourself:
1. YOUR RELATIONSHIP ISSUES
Whatever you go through in a relationship, it should be resolved between you and your partner solely. Sharing bits of your daily life on certain occasions is okay, but don’t take the wrong way and start complaining about your partner to other people.
Everything you have to say to them, just say it in their face. There’s no reason why other people should know the intimate part of your relationship. Keep it to yourself.
2. YOUR HONEST DEEDS
If you’ve done something honorable and kind, you don’t have to brag about it. Telling a few people is fine, but you don’t have to tell the whole world. Being humble instead of a tattletale is a rare virtue. You don’t need recognition from everyone.
3. THE JUICY BITS FROM YOUR PERSONAL LIFE
Sharing a certain life event with your friends is nice, but you shouldn’t share every health problem or issue from your personal life. What is happening in your life is only your concern and nobody else’s.
Talk only about the things you are comfortable with, but do make boundaries. Don’t let people get inside your private space.
4. YOUR BANK ACCOUNT BALANCE
Your finances are something that affects only you. Keep your financial balance to yourself and avoid greedy and envious comments from people who can’t hide their jealousy inside them. What goes inside your wallet is nobody’s business but yours.
5. YOUR FAMILY PROBLEMS
Despite being awkward, sharing family problems is also inconsiderate to your family. Your friends, no matter how close they seem to be, shouldn’t know everything that’s going on behind closed doors.
We all have our own madness and point of view which make us different from one another. Revealing too much can sometimes create a certain unwanted image and it can create much trouble than you can imagine.
6. YOUR BELONGINGS
The reason why it’s better for you to keep these things to yourself is that talking about your belongings can be easily turned into bragging about the things you own.
And while you show off what you possess, that guy behind you could be struggling to make ends meet. Always choose to stay modest. It is a virtue that will never go out of style.
7. YOUR WEAKNESSES
One of the most important things you should be careful about. Carefully judge to whom you can confide about your biggest weaknesses and troubles in your life. Not everyone who presents themselves as a kind and honest person turns out to actually be one.
The same goes for your most desired goals in life. Have you ever felt that the more you share a certain goal to people, the less motivated you become to actually reach it? I certainly have. I’ve felt that the moment my secret is out there, there’s this daunting pressure around me.
First and foremost, learn to concentrate on yourself and the things you like to achieve. And then, when the job is done, decide with whom you’re going to share that information. But, whatever you choose to do, keep the juicy and intimate bits to yourself.
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