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You Are Neither Broken Nor Weak: You Just Need More Self-Love

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I know how you feel. I know you feel like you’re stuck in a deep, dark, bottomless hole – a hole from which you can’t find your way out.

I know you feel like your world has been wrapped in darkness. You feel like you’re drowning. You feel like some strange force is preventing you from breathing. You feel like the whole world has turned against you.

I know you feel like your life is falling apart and like no one notices it. You can’t stand the situation you’re currently in. You can’t think about your past because it brings back painful memories, and you’re too afraid to think or fantasize about your future.

You feel like you’ll never be your old self again. And this makes you feel helpless, powerless, and hopeless. This makes you say to yourself: “I give up.”

But, NO! Giving up is not an option.

I know it’s easier to give up than fight. It’s easier to give up and let go of everything than stay strong and do everything you can to heal your wounds and fix the cracks in your heart.

Yes, I know you have deep emotional wounds – wounds that you feel in the depths of your being. But just because you have wounds and cracks in your heart doesn’t mean that you are broken. It doesn’t mean that you can’t heal your wounds and mend your broken heart. It doesn’t mean that you don’t have what it takes to shake your pain and move on with your life. It doesn’t mean that you can’t be happy again.

Yes, it’s true – the world can sometimes be dark and difficult, but there is a lot of light in it – you just need to be willing enough to see it.

You may have placed your faith in people who didn’t deserve that. You may have made a priority people who didn’t even deserve a minute of your attention. You may have given your heart to people who didn’t know how to take care of it and protect it. You may have given your love to people who didn’t know what to do with it and who couldn’t care less about breaking your heart.

You may have unconditionally loved and trusted people who showed you what indifference, rejection, disrespect, and loss meant. But you’re a lot more than all these things. You’re more than your insecurities, your sadness, your pain, or your fear of being rejected, abandoned, and hurt again. You’re more than every bad, harrowing experience that you’ve ever had in your life.

You are better than all this. You are smart, strong, resilient, and brave.

Remember that even when you get manipulated and betrayed, especially by someone who’s very close to you, and even when your heart gets bruised, the bright flame that burns inside you will never go out. It’ll flicker but it’ll never die.

Therefore, don’t allow whatever has happened to you so far to define who you are and shape your happiness. Instead, allow it to make you even wiser and stronger than you already are. Allow it to give you the courage to face whatever challenge, problem, and pain life sends your way in the future. Allow it to give you wings to fly away to new places where you’ll find happiness and peace and reconnect with your old self.

Remember – there will always be people who won’t be able to see your worth. People who won’t be able to see how compassionate, caring, and amazing you are. People who won’t be able to see the purity of your soul.

There will always be people who will try to change you. People who will tell you how to look, talk, smile, act, and move. People who will criticize and judge you for your insecurities, fears, and mistakes. People who will tell you that you’ll never be good enough.

There will always be people who will try to take advantage of you. People who will pretend that they care about you only to get what they need from you. People who won’t care whether they’ll hurt your feelings with their manipulations and lies. People who will try to break you.

Yes, sooner or later you’ll face this kind of people on this journey called life. But remember: Even if you stumble and fall, you must never give up. You must pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move on.

You must never let anyone make you doubt your strength and your worth. You must never let anyone make you feel weak and unimportant.  You must never let anyone destroy your happiness, your enthusiasm, your energy, your power, your uniqueness, your grandeur.

And remember: Whenever you feel like your life is falling apart, don’t ignore your emotions. Instead, let them run through your body freely, feel them, and accept them. Cry if you want to, shout if you want to – but never give up.

You have what it takes to win every battle life sends your way!

Should you have any questions regarding this topic or one of your own interest, feel free to email me at [email protected]  

Riley Cooper