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Why Women Who Remain Single For Large Gaps Of Time End Up The Happiest


Maybe they are not accustomed to being someone’s ‘girlfriend.’ Maybe they were single their whole life. Maybe they have an ex who abandoned them, and nothing turned serious after him. Or, maybe they just need a break from the dating world because they got overwhelmed.

These women who remain single for large periods of time end up the happiest. And here’s why.

They end up the happiest because they are comfortable with who they are and their solitude.

They can spend many nights alone and not get lonely. They can have lunch at a restaurant or go shopping by themselves without feeling awkward or uncomfortable that they don’t have a company. Actually, they love being alone and taking themselves on dates.

They end up the happiest because they have all the time in the world to act selfish and focus on themselves and their goals.

They know what they want and what is important to them, so they go for it. They are the go-getters of the world – both devoted and passionate. They work on themselves, learn new things, improve their skills, go after their dreams and make them true. 

They end up the happiest because for them love is not the sole center of the universe.

Their purpose in life has nothing to do with finding a boyfriend. They don’t chase after guys – they chase after their dreams and the future they are striving to build for themselves.

Women who are single for large periods of time get used to living their single life (and enjoying it!). The idea that they may never get married doesn’t scare them. They enjoy living alone. The silence is not deafening but inspiring.

And when they do meet someone and decide to be in a relationship, it is going to be someone who will challenge them and push them forward. Someone who will have their back while encouraging them to go and conquer the world. Someone who will be proud and happy for their success. Someone who will find it appealing that they don’t sacrifice themselves and their plans for him.

Because these women are strong individuals. They never lose themselves in the process of loving someone. They won’t ever minimize their morals, hopes, or dreams to match those of their partner’s.

These women end up the happiest because they are looking for someone who will add even more happiness and joy in their life than they already have. Someone who will make them feel even more loved and stronger than they are. Someone who is fulfilled and happy on his own.

And this kind of relationship, I think, is the kind of relationship that is worth the wait!


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Mary Wright


  1. May I suggest speaking to older women, 40+ who are single and ask them their thoughts on the subject?

  2. I am 50 and have been single the last 8 years and love it! Wouldn’t have it any other way. So happy and totally agree with what’s has been written

  3. I couldn’t agree more with what’s written here! I’m almost 40, and I have always been the happiest when I’m single. I’ve never wanted children and I’ve never cared whether or not I get married. I’m not completely opposed to marriage, even though I think it’s an outdated concept. It’s just never been important to me. I do love living alone. I love that I do what I want, when I want, and I don’t have to answer to anyone but myself.

  4. Being single is awesome… but it’s not for everyone. Many people get frightened and lonely on their own. But for some of us, it’s paradise knowing that what you put in the fridge on Sunday, will still be there after work on Wednesday!

  5. I’m 45 and I haven’t been in a ‘relationship’ as far as society standards go for over 20 years. I like my freedom and when I do feel lonely I just go out and meet up with friends or go shopping or to the markets. It’s great coz when I’m over the socialising I can just leave when I please.
    I have sole use of the remote control which is important lol and if I do want to have some ‘fun’ there’s always someone to call. I don’t have kids (not that I didn’t want to when I was younger) and I’ve never been married. However, if I did find a man that made me feel like the centre of his universe then that may change. After all – A relationship is not about how you make someone feel that matters, it’s about how your partner makes you feel about yourself when you’re together.

  6. Yes this just described me to a “T”! It’s such a peace of mind. I love the saying just because I’m alone does NOT mean I’m lonely.

  7. Yesss, whatever written on the above articles is absolutely true because lm happy with my single life ,I have no boyfrd and I really don’t want to make it,so I feel that yess I m strong no tension of any things,and I want do something in my life ,itmake me proud my self ………

  8. Read the article,and yes think it great to be alone again after having been married for 62 years, I married when I was 17 years of age. Was happy to be married and now am enjoying, My free time with traveling and spending time with my kids ( grown) and friends. My kids said Mom maybe be nice to have a partner again….. I said No Born Free now and want to keep it that way. Like a bird let out of cage😀. Although now some one approached me way younger and has asked me to marry,I have said No 3 times. Yes think it great person…..but ?….. Thinking? How in a nice way which I have done say No to proposal. Thanks M H


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