Lately, I’ve been thinking about relationships.
Love is truly one of the most magical things a human being can experience. It is the biggest blessing in life. Yet, it seems to me that we don’t really believe in that anymore. We live in a society that raises quick quitters.
Just look around you. Modern relationships cannot survive more than a few months. I am not saying that there aren’t exceptions to the rule… It’s just, we’ve become really busy and impatient.
We no longer care about a true, genuine connection with another human being. We are only after thrilling, unpredictable and fun experiences that make our lives more interesting. Our relationships usually last until we get bored or something better comes along.
We are unwilling and unable to love unconditionally. We don’t have the time to invest ourselves in a loving relationship and wait for things to develop. We want it all and we want it now. And if we can’t have it, we cannot be bothered to wait around for it.
The truth is, we live in a society where it has become truly difficult to maintain a healthy and functional relationship. Here are the three main reasons why modern relationships are easily falling apart:
1. WE DON’T KNOW HOW TO COMMUNICATE
The first and foremost pillar of a healthy and successful relationship is communication. Being open and honest with your partner is something that is essential for one relationship to thrive.
Why? Because as humans, we are not capable of reading minds. It is simple. It is incredibly hard to understand another human being and find out what they really desire or make them happy without talking to them.
I don’t know why, but people nowadays prefer to keep quiet about everything that bothers them instead of being open about it. So, just like a domino effect, the longer we repress those emotions, the more resentful we become. Ultimately, this backfires in the most horrible way. We burst out causing serious damages to our relationships that are often unrepairable.
2. WE STAY IN RELATIONSHIPS THAT DON’T MAKE US HAPPY
I’ve been over this subject with so many people that I hold dear, and I still cannot understand. How can ending up alone frighten people more than ending up with the wrong person? How can being comfortable in a relationship bring someone more satisfaction than finding real love?
I know a lot of people who had no trouble settling for a comfortable relationship because they felt that it is the right thing to do. And let’s not forget the ones who have forced themselves to be in relationships with people they are not in love with… All for the sake of not being alone. All for the sake of following society’s standards.
This is probably the number one reason why nowadays most people struggle to maintain healthy and functional relationships. The foundation of their relationships is not strong enough to begin with.
3. WE DON’T TRUST PEOPLE
And so, ultimately, all of the previously mentioned in(actions) lead us to this. The loss of trust.
We stop believing in people’s real commitment because they avoid showing their real feelings. We stop believing in people’s intentions because we know they could easily fake a relationship. We stop believing in people’s promises because they are often broken. As a result, we find no reason to keep fighting in order to make things work. So, we choose the easier way and we give up.
We give up without even thinking what would our life be like if we’d only tried harder. We give up without wondering what our relationships would be like if we’d only put more effort into making things work.
Sadly, this is the world that we’re living in. It has become more and more difficult to find real love. But even more so, it has become difficult to preserve it.