Best friends are undoubtedly a blessing, but sadly, not every friendship is meant to last forever. And that’s okay.
Sometimes, you may not get along with a friend the way you once did. Sometimes, you may gradually begin to have a less close bond with them and you grow apart. And sometimes, the friendship may become toxic for no apparent reason.
Whatever the reason may be, at some point in your life, you may need to cut a friend out of your life. And that’s okay.
Because you have the right to end friendships that drain your energy and suck the happiness out of you. You have the right to remove people from your life who couldn’t care less about you. You have the right to break the ties of friendship between you and another person if they’re fake and manipulative.
So, the question is: What makes a friendship fall apart?
Following are some of the most common reasons for this:
1. They become too dependent on you.
Undoubtedly, you should always be there for your friends. They need to know that they can rely on you for anything. They need to know that your love for them is selfless and unconditional.
But, holding on to a friendship with someone who is heavily dependent on you is needless and even absurd. Because that kind of friendship is not deep or close, but overwhelming and draining.
2. You feel like they don’t understand you.
A friend is someone who is supposed to truly understand who you are. They’re supposed to understand your needs, feelings, ideas, and desires. They’re supposed to know what makes you happy and what fills your heart with joy. They’re supposed to know your deepest insecurities and fears. They’re supposed to know all your good and bad sides.
They’re supposed to know all of this so that you know that you’re not alone and that you have someone in your life who truly cares about you. But, if you’re stuck in a friendship with someone who doesn’t understand you, then what’s the point of being friends with them?
3. They load all of their baggage onto your shoulders.
Yes, friends are supposed to be there for each other, but that doesn’t give anyone the right to load all of their worries, problems, and pains onto your shoulders.
We all have problems. But sharing them with someone we completely trust and hold dear is one thing and loading our own issues and pains onto someone and expecting them to solve them for us is another. It’s unfair. It’s unreasonable. It’s selfish.
4. The friendship negatively affects you.
Friends are supposed to bring out the best in you and lift you up when you fall. They’re supposed to stand up for you and protect you from every evil in the world.
They’re supposed to stick with you through thick and thin. They’re supposed to bring happiness and a sense of fulfillment into your life. They’re supposed to make your life easier, more meaningful, and more exciting.
But, when your friend constantly puts you in a bad mood or drains your energy, removing them from your life is the best thing you can do to preserve your happiness.
5. We change.
Everyone changes. We all grow. We all mature.
Sometimes, you and your friend may grow away from each other since you no longer want the same things and have the same interests.
Sometimes, you simply stop bothering to keep the ties of friendship between you and someone you’ve called a BFF for years from breaking. And that’s okay.