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Stop Ghosting On People And Have The Dignity To Tell Them How You Really Feel

Stop Ghosting On People And Have The Dignity To Tell Them How You Really Feel

Ghosting is one of the worst things you can ever do to another human being.

Say what you will, but I believe that there is nothing more painful than not getting closure after a breakup. I am not exaggerating, that’s just how I feel.

In fact, it is my belief that it is somehow easier to be told that you are no longer loved than just be abandoned without a word…

I’ve been broken before. And at that moment I couldn’t think of worse pain than not being loved by the man I loved the most. But that was until I found out the real meaning of the word ghosting.

But, let’s go back to much simpler times. Shall we?

Remember when we had no social media to rely on? Remember when life was actually real that we didn’t need an app, a filter or a cellphone to be happy?

Remember when people actually meant everything they said and stood by their own words?

Oh, how I miss those days.

Those were the days when people appreciated honesty. They were humble. They followed the real values in life. They respected one another. But, most importantly they took responsibility for their actions.

Because people back then were raised with the golden rule. “Treat others the way you want to be treated.”  And there was something called accountability.

By definition, accountability is “the quality or state of being accountable; especially an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one’s actions”.

It means being responsible for every action that you take, and at the same time being able to give your reasons for it, as well as being able to take the blame if something goes wrong.

It means being aware that the consequences of your behavior will always be yours to bear. It means having the dignity to actually keep your promises.

In a nutshell, it is characteristic that is slowly dying.

Now, I get it. Sometimes the person you thought was the one turns out to be just another frog you need to kiss before you find the prince. Sometimes you think that you are ready for an emotional commitment when in reality you’re terrified. And yes, sometimes life just gets super busy and you simply forget.

It happened to the very best of us. It’s life.

But there must be something terribly wrong with your head for you to just peace out of someone’s life without saying a word. I mean, come on. How insensitive and cruel you have to be to just leave someone hanging while you are somewhere out there moving on with your life?

In my opinion, this generation needs a good slap in the face.

I understand that some words are too hurtful to be spoken because some people never did anything to deserve such pain. But, believe me, being honest and open about a certain situation will not hurt them as much as ghosting them will.

I’ve been through all of it. I’ve been on both sides. Being left out in the cold without a single word hurts like a damn knife cutting through your skin.

 So, let’s stop this, right now.

Let’s be more accountable. Let’s learn to respect people. Let’s realize that being compassionate should be more important than one’s own needs. Let’s be more understanding of other people. Let’s stop pretending that we have no emotions, because if we don’t… apathy will destroy us all.

Instead of leaving someone hanging, let’s find the courage within our hearts and tell them the truth. Even when it’s sharp like a razor blade. Even when it hurts like hell.

Believe me, sometimes even a white lie is better than leaving someone without an explanation. It is time for you to put on your adult shoes and face the painful side of life. It’s dark, it requires sacrifices and a lot of work, but in the end, everything pays off.

So, let’s be better than we were yesterday. Let’s stop ghosting each other.

Stephanie Reeds