No one ever said that love would be easy. There’s no handbook to tell you who you should be with or how you should love them. Likewise, most people don’t understand what true love really means. As a result, people can often fall for those who aren’t right for them without realizing that their relationship will never survive.
The truth is that when you really love someone, you love them for exactly who there are – not who you want them to be. That’s why you should stay single until you find someone who doesn’t want you to change but still hopes that you grow.
Wait For Someone Who Fully Appreciates You
Perhaps you’ve dated people before who haven’t really accepted the real you. They decided that all the qualities that they liked about you weren’t enough to make up for what they didn’t like. So, they tried to change you. Instead of being happy with the love that they found with you, they were always trying to make you be someone that you weren’t.
That kind of relationship is soul destroying. I’ve been there too, and it was one of the most hurtful things that anyone has ever done to me. No one deserves that.
Please don’t settle for that kind of person. You deserve someone who understands exactly who you are and loves every part of it. Sure, you have your flaws, everyone does, but they should care about you enough to love those too. Most importantly, they should love who you are, not who they want you to be.
That Doesn’t Mean That You Should Always Stay the Same
Yes, love means loving who your partner is, but people don’t always stay the same. As humans, we’re meant to grow and evolve as we get older. Our experiences are meant to change us, and we’re supposed to learn how to improve ourselves every day. If we didn’t do that, we’d all still be acting like children.
When you’re with the right person, they aren’t going to give up on you when you begin to evolve. In fact, they should grow with you. In a committed relationship, two people should change together. If you grow apart, then that just means you were never right for one another in the first place.
Wait until you find someone who isn’t afraid of your personal growth. Find someone who will encourage it and support you in your journey too.
Find someone who loves the innermost part of your soul – the part of you that will never change.
You should never have to change who you are for the person that you love. If that’s what they expect from you, then that’s not true love. Sure, it’s important to grow with time, but that shouldn’t mean forcing yourself to change when you’re not ready to. So, wait until you find the person who will love you for who you are and give you room to evolve. That is the only kind of relationship worth being in.
So many people falsely believe that they need to change who they are in order to find a relationship. Share this article with your friends to show them that that’s not true. They need to find someone who would never try to change them.