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Please Don’t Be So Hard On Yourself, It’s Okay To Fall Apart Sometimes


As children, we all tended to break down when seemingly unimportant things didn’t go our way. If we dropped something or couldn’t buy a new toy that we wanted, we would have screamed or cried. As we age, that begins to change. We learn to force back those unwanted emotions in favor of seeming calmer and more collected. As adults, many of us remove ourselves from those feeling altogether.

It’s gotten to a point now where people are ashamed of feeling upset, angry, or afraid. So many people, perhaps even you too, have forgotten that being human means feeling terrible at some points. So please, don’t be so hard on yourself, it’s okay to fall apart sometimes.

Allow Your Heart To Feel Broken

Love is one of the most beautiful gifts that you could ever receive in life. Not only that but learning how to give your heart to someone is the most rewarding thing that you’ll ever do. However, it can be easy to stop yourself from experiencing those things simply because you’re too afraid.

Perhaps you’re too afraid to give your heart away in case it gets broken in the process.

I won’t lie, that could happen. You could love someone so much yet still have them shatter you in every possible way. Despite that, that doesn’t mean that you should give up on love.

Heartbreak is painful, but it’s something that we all experience. It serves as a lesson that will help you to grow and develop into a tougher, more mature, and more knowledgeable person overall.

So, don’t stop yourself from experiencing those things. Sure, it won’t be pleasant, but it’s part of being human.

You Don’t Always Need to Heal

When you feel hurt, your initial reaction can often be to overcome that pain immediately. Understandably, you can want to rid yourself of everything that’s making you feel that way as soon as possible. Although that may be many people’s reactions too, it’s not always what you should be doing.

Sometimes you just need to take a step back and ask yourself “Am I really broken?”

More often than not, pain does not mean that you are broken. Pain means that you are going through a terrible experience that is changing you as a person.

It means that you are becoming stronger.

Think of what you feel as being growing pains. Without experiencing them, you can’t evolve and transform into someone new. So, don’t think that you need to heal yourself, because sometimes you were never really broken to begin with.

Falling Apart is Being Alive

Take a moment to look at who, where, and what you are – you are breathing, you are human, you are alive.

More so than that, you are a person who can feel anger, happiness, love, sorrow, pain, and everything in between. That ability alone is beautiful. The fact that you can feel both light and darkness within you is a wonderful thing.

Being alive means taking all the bad with the good. Falling apart may not be the most pleasant thing in the world, but it means that you are alive.

Let yourself be alive. Let yourself feel every part of what it means to be human.

Sometimes in life, you’re going to feel like you’re falling apart. You’re going to feel like everything around you is crumbling and that you may not be able to handle it, but that’s okay. It’s okay to feel that way sometimes because that’s something that everyone will need to go through more than once in their lives. Please, don’t look down on yourself as a result of your emotions. You are allowed to fall apart sometimes.

So many people feel like they need to deny their human emotions. Please share this article with the people you love to remind them that it’s okay not to be okay sometimes.

Eva Jackson