Relationships are difficult and sometimes you have to try hard to make them work.
This is the biggest misconception I’ve ever heard.
Yes, relationships are hard, but not every relationship is worth fighting for. The most important thing that you have to understand is that making the decision to stay or go will be without a doubt one of the hardest decisions that you will have to make. Fact is, you will experience many different loves while you are here on earth. But not all of them will be just the way you’ve dreamed.
Some of these loves won’t be worth fighting for.
Love is beautiful. Love is kind. Love is patient… but sometimes, love is also cruel and painful. It comes and goes without giving us the reassurance that we can always rely on it and feel safe. Sometimes love disappoints us and sometimes it breaks us to pieces.
That is why you need to be careful who you give your love to.
The truth is, no love is simple, steady and calm. Every kind of love, even the truest love out there is imperfect. The key to enjoying it and eventually finding happiness is in recognizing the difficulties and falls in each and every relationship and learning how to make a difference between the ones that can be fixed and the ones that simply need to be accepted. Once you master that, you will know exactly what you need in your life.
The fear of letting go and walking away from someone you’ve been for too long is completely normal. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. I know how bad it hurts to leave, even if you’ve been treated the worst. I know how bad it feels to say goodbye to someone you’ve known for so long, even if you’ve been utterly disappointed.
The truth is, no matter how unfulfilling and monotonous you feel around that person, you will still need some time to get over them… you will still miss them. And that is fine. It is a normal part of the process.
But you know what? No matter how hard it feels to let go, that is not a valid reason for you to stay when there is nothing left to hold onto.
When love turns into jealousy, passion is replaced with routine, and being close to one another feels like a burden rather than joy, that is when it is more than clear that it is best for both of you to just let go and move on.
After all, not every relationship is worth fighting for. Be careful who you give your time to.