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Narcissists Will Convince You That You Are The Problem, Not Their Abusive Behavior

Narcissists Will Convince You That You Are The Problem, Not Their Abusive Behavior

If you’ve dealt with a narcissist and find your way out of that hell, I salute you. You are truly lucky, my friend.

You’ve been stuck in the nest of one of the most toxic human beings alive and yet, you survived the struggle. You’ve endured the pressure and got out of it even stronger. So, right now you probably know exactly how manipulative and deceitful these individuals are. The good news is, you made it. You won the battle. Learned the lesson. And got out of the whole experience wiser and stronger. Good for you. Not everyone succeeds in that. Not everyone finds a way to save themselves before it is too late…

However, if you haven’t had the opportunity to meet a narcissist or even worse engage with them in any way possible, there are some things that you need to be warned about. If you haven’t felt what’s like to be manipulated and gaslighted by someone, you too are lucky. However, you still have to be very careful. You never know what tomorrow may bring. And you never know when exactly you are going to come across a person like that.

That is why it is of great importance that you understand the way their minds work.

If someone asked me to describe narcissists with a few words, the first thing that always comes to mind is their lack of empathy. Their inability to put themselves into your shoes and feel for you. Their incompetence when it comes to expressing love and being there for someone.

These individuals are strangers to love. They don’t know how to love. They don’t know how to commit or be loyal to someone. They don’t know how to care for another person. They don’t know how to give without expecting anything in return. And the reason for that? It’s obvious really. They’ve been raised with anything but love. They’ve been hurt, they’ve been neglected, they’ve been raised believing that love is a weakness. That’s how they’ve grown up to be the bitter, self-absorbed, and toxic people they are.

And that’s is why they enjoy hurting others.

One thing you must know about narcissists is that they will never ever admit to their mistakes. They’d rather die before taking responsibility for their actions. In their head, they are sinless. They are perfect human beings who aren’t capable of making a mistake. In their head, there is no such thing as self-reflection. Everyone else is guilty but them. Trust me, no matter what you say and no matter how much you try to convince them, you won’t change their minds. That way you’ll only trigger their rage and make them angry. And, the truth is, you don’t want to be there when that happens. Because when a narcissist gets angry and starts losing control over you, they will do anything, and I mean anything, to get it back.

They will stomp on your heart, take everything from you, make you feel like you are not worthy, hurt your feelings, destroy your world, and convince you that it is all your fault. That you are the one responsible for what they’ve done to you. That it is not their abuse that is the problem, but your emotional response.

And this is only scratching the surface. God knows what else they are capable of doing once they lure you in their web of manipulation.

Bottom line is, these people cannot feel empathy towards others. They are not capable of being compassionate and understanding of other people’s feelings. And they should not be a part of your life. So, don’t let them.

Protect yourself from their toxicity. Cut them off from your life. Stay away from anyone who tries to manipulate you. Be careful who you confide in.

Stephanie Reeds