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It’s Okay To Feel Lost: After All, We’re All Just Trying To Figure Life Out


It’s pretty easy to think that other people have it all figured out when they go through life with a big smile on their face and a positive attitude. It’s probably even easier to jump to the conclusion that you are the only one who feels lost and terrified in this world.

But here’s the truth. You are not on your own.

I don’t know exactly what you’re going through right now, but whatever it is and no matter how scary it seems, I want you to know that that it’s okay to feel lost.

It’s okay to be confused. It’s okay to not know where you are in life.

We’re all fighting a battle inside of us. Just because someone seems like they have their life in order doesn’t mean that they have it all figured out yet. Believe me, we’re all lost and confused. But we’re doing the best that we can. In the end, that’s all that matters.

Here are 5 common reasons why we often feel lost and what we can do about it:

1. We try to measure up to the unrealistic standards of society. Let’s admit it. One of the reasons we often feel lost and confused is the fact that we tend to live our lives based on what others think we should do. Okay, I won’t generalize. But I am pretty sure that 60% or 70% of people nowadays need to be validated by others to know that they’re doing the right thing.  On top of that, society is doing a pretty good job making us feel even more miserable by shoving their unrealistic standards of power, wealth and beauty down our throats. If we want to get ourselves out of this mess, we need to accept who we really are.

2. We surround ourselves with people who drag us down. The second reason why we often feel lost is our poor choice of friends. We are who we hang out with. Like it or not, that the bittersweet truth. Negative people drain the life out of us. Positive people add value to our lives. It’s your choice who stays beside you and who leaves your life. You are the only one who is responsible for the consequences of your actions.

3. We let fear control our lives. We hold onto those ingrained insecurities and fears that are a part of an old programming not realizing that we are the only ones who hold the power to let go of them and finally free our souls. Just like everything else, there is a way out of this as well. It includes a change of attitude and big shifts of perspective.

4. We don’t step out of our comfort zone. We are stuck in a rut that we’ve dug for ourselves while trying to avoid every mistake and every risk along the way. We hide in our comfort zones because that’s where we feel safe. In the meantime we forget that the more isolated we become, the less confident we feel about ever living that place. I know it sounds scary as hell, but the only way for you to start living is to break the mold and experience life as it is.

5. Our sense of self is distorted. As a result of our toxic surroundings and the fear inside of us, we begin to lose every sense of self. We forget our own worth. We no longer appreciate our own beauty, our own intellect, our own existence. We’re simply not good enough.  

And while this is something that we’ve all been through and eventually survived, I have to say that it takes more than patience to do it. It requires real determination and courage to win this fight. It’s not hard, but it’s not easy either.

So, get out there and keep trying. Figure out who you really are and what makes your heart sing. Then go after those things. And always remember. You are worthy. You matter more than you think. Don’t let anyone or anything convince  you otherwise.

Stephanie Reeds