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Stop Blaming Yourself For Every Heartbreak And Every Failed Relationship


Everything in life happens for a reason. Everything you go through, all the darkness, all the failures, all the setbacks, all the struggles, they’re all for something.

So, stop blaming yourself for your failed relationships.

I am not saying that you’re sinless, there’s got be something you did wrong too to get to where you are now. All I am saying is that even though you might be the one who triggered this disaster, the one who contributed to this mess, you shouldn’t have to bear this weight on your own. You shouldn’t have to beat yourself up for every failed relationship and every heartbreak you experience in life.

Perhaps you weren’t good at creating and maintaining your boundaries. Maybe you chose to avoid the red flags along the way. Maybe you were the one who enabled bad behavior. Or maybe you knew that getting together was a mistake and you did it anyway.

Whatever the reason is, it is not worth it. Even if those things are on you. Even if you are guilty. Blaming yourself and beating yourself up for something that already happened will not bring back time and fix it. It will only make your life miserable.

Instead, get up, dust yourself off, take a deep breath and carry on regardless of how painful it feels. I know it sounds easier said than done, but you will never know until you try. Plus, the only way you need to move is forward.

First, start by learning your mistakes so you don’t end up repeating them a few times over again. Go back to the moment you first met this person. Analyze your relationship and find out where it went wrong. Make sure you do your best to discover the real reason for your unfortunate experience. This is a lesson that will help you keep going forward in life. It is crucial that you learn it. Whether you hurt someone, or someone hurt you, this experience will be one of the many others that will pave your path in life. Learning from your mistakes instead of blaming yourself for them is the first thing that you have to learn and start practicing in order to move on. Doing that will give you the strength to get out of your comfort zone, face life’s challenges and grow as a person. It will help you release yourself from all the blame and accept your mistakes and failure as inevitable parts of life.

So, stop blaming yourself and just let it go. Accept the fact that not everyone you meet in life is meant to stay with you forever. Some of these people are only here to teach you a lesson and leave.

Count your blessings, be grateful that you’re still alive and well and carry on.

Your journey doesn’t stop here.

This is just the beginning of something beautiful!

Stephanie Reeds