Love is the most vigorous force in the universe. It’s a magical process of transforming a stone into gold. It is alchemy. It is the most sublime feeling, yet it holds the power to destroy us, at any given time.
It is scary how something so close to perfection, a feeling so pure and magnificent can either make us the happiest person on the Earth, or the most miserable individual in the universe.
Naturally, when I first think of love, all that comes to my minds is a fairytale about two people destined to meet on their journey of life. I visualize a brief second when their souls connect.
I visualize genesis.
The beginning of something incredibly profound. A pure, one-of-a-kind connection.
However, contrary to the popular wishful thinking, love isn’t always a fairytale. It’s not that it doesn’t exist, it’s just that not all of us are blessed to experience it.
And that’s exactly how some people discover the ugly side of love. The dark side of love.
The pain of loving so intensely, but not being able to enjoy that love with the other person. The excruciating feeling of loving someone you can never be with.
The kind of love that doesn’t manifest as a beautiful, new beginning. But, instead, a kind of love that will probably end way before it starts, or in some cases a love that can never be returned.
You can love someone from the bottom of your heart and still never get the chance to be together. You can expose your soul and give them a part of yourself, and not have shot at love with that person.
Because the sad truth is, sometimes, love just isn’t enough. Despite all its pureness, despite all the infinity it promises.
There comes a time when you realize that every fairytale, every romantic story or movie you’ve ever heard or watched, is made up. That magic they show doesn’t just happen to us with a blink of an eye.
We have to work for it. And sometimes we have to work hard to achieve it.
We are all unique beings with a different set of traits and beliefs. The infatuation at the beginning might make us fall in love with person’s flaws and quirks, or make us think we love them, where in reality we’ve only agreed to accept them.
Unfortunately, we live in a world, governed by rationality and pure logic. And, love as we know it, it’s an irrational feeling.
So, it is only a matter of time until the irrational sensation fades away and reality strikes.
And, when reality does strike us, we begin to see them for what they really are. We realize that the flaws we thought we loved about them, are actually things that kind of bothered us.
The thing is, you’re never going to find someone who will be 100% compatible with you. And love won’t always be a quick bandage for the things that don’t work. The only thing you’ll be able to do is to compromise.
And, compromising is always a choice. You either agree to compromise in order to make it work, or you break it off.
You try, and you try, and you try, but when something just doesn’t agree with you, compromises become useless.
There a lot of reasons why people who love each other can’t be together. It depends on us whether we’ll be brave and determined enough to accept the haunting past and terrifying mistakes our partners made.
Some you’ll accept, but some will always be there to haunt you. They will cut you deep. Because once someone we loved, hurts us, we immediately lose our faith in them and our hopes for the future.
We become strangers to love because our trust was shattered to pieces.
But, chances we all have scars that have never fully healed. The only thing we can do about it is to live with it.
However, the painful feeling of loving them even though you know you will never be together, makes your soul burn. You might wait for a new love that will eventually heal you, but it won’t.
Because the feeling you have for “the one that got away”, will never ever die.