We love each other but can’t be together.
Love is the most vigorous force in the universe. It’s a magical process of transforming a stone into gold. It is alchemy. It is the most sublime feeling, yet it holds the power to destroy us, at any given time.
It is scary how something so close to perfection, a feeling so pure and magnificent can either make us the happiest person on the Earth, or the most miserable individual in the universe.
Naturally, when I first think of love, all that comes to my mind is a fairytale about two people destined to meet on their journey of life. I visualize a brief second when their souls connect.
I visualize genesis.
The beginning of something incredibly profound. A pure, one-of-a-kind connection.
However, contrary to popular wishful thinking, love isn’t always a fairytale. It’s not that it doesn’t exist, it’s just that not all of us are blessed to experience it.
And that’s exactly how some people discover the ugly side of love. The dark side of love.
The pain of loving so intensely, but not being able to enjoy that love with the other person. The excruciating feeling of loving someone you can never be with.
I know we can’t be together but I love you.
The kind of love that doesn’t manifest as a beautiful, new beginning. But, instead, a kind of love that will probably end way before it starts, or in some cases a love that can never be returned.
You can love someone from the bottom of your heart and still never get the chance to be together. You can expose your soul and give them a part of yourself, and not have shot at love with that person.
Because the sad truth is, sometimes, love just isn’t enough.
Despite all its pureness, despite all the infinity it promises, we can’t be together
There comes a time when you realize that every fairytale, every romantic story or movie you’ve ever heard or watched, is made up. That magic they show doesn’t just happen to us in a blink of an eye.
We have to work for it. And sometimes we have to work hard to achieve it.
We are all unique beings with different sets of traits and beliefs. The infatuation at the beginning might make us fall in love with a person’s flaws and quirks, or make us think we love them, where in reality we’ve only agreed to accept them.
Unfortunately, we live in a world, governed by rationality and pure logic. And, love as we know it, it’s an irrational feeling.
So, it is only a matter of time until the irrational sensation fades away and reality strikes.
And, when reality does strike us, we begin to see them for what they really are. We realize that the flaws we thought we loved about them, are actually things that kind of bothered us.
The thing is, you’re never going to find someone who will be 100% compatible with you. And love won’t always be a quick bandage for the things that don’t work. The only thing you’ll be able to do is to compromise.
And, compromising is always a choice. You either agree to compromise in order to make it work, or you break it off.
You try, and you try, and you try, but when something just doesn’t agree with you, compromises become useless.
There a lot of reasons why people who love each other can’t be together. It depends on us whether we’ll be brave and determined enough to accept the haunting past and terrifying mistakes our partners made.
Some you’ll accept, but some will always be there to haunt you. They will cut you deep. Because once someone we loved, hurts us, we immediately lose our faith in them and our hopes for the future.
We become strangers to love because our trust was shattered to pieces.
But, chances we all have scars that have never fully healed. The only thing we can do about it is to live with it.
However, the painful feeling of loving them even though you know you will never be together, makes your soul burn. You might wait for a new love that will eventually heal you, but it won’t.
Because the feeling you have for “the one that got away”, will never ever die.
Loving someone but couldn’t be together with them can break your heart. Because maybe you had dreams and plans with them to get married and be a family. To have that peaceful home filled with love, understanding, and respect with one another. To be each others’ best friends and lovers.
I’ve been in situations like that, situations where it seemed impossible for our relationship to work, but I know that we weren’t doing our best to make it work. And we decided to go our separate ways because we weren’t willing to compromise ourselves.
A relationship can be a successful one only if both partners are doing their part. Otherwise, it is best to walk away and find someone who will be there for you through thick and thin. Someone who will cherish you, respect you, and love you the way you deserve.
Because, when two people love each other it will be easy. They will be together.
We Love Each Other But We Can’t Be Together…
When you love each other but can’t be together it can hurt like hell. It will make you question everything. You can even start obsessing and overwhelming your mind with questions such as, ‘Why we can’t be together?’ ‘What am I doing wrong?’ ‘Why the love we have for one another is not enough?’ and so on.
I noticed that when I get into that state of experiencing an emotional rollercoaster, I help myself by letting my emotions out and then controlling them. Because when I am in a state of being angry and sad, I can’t think rationally. So, first, I must let all those emotions out so that I can see things more clearly.
And when all my emotions are out in the open, when I took the time I needed to heal, then I look at the situation for what it is. Because the thing is, I don’t believe it. I don’t believe when someone says “we love each other but we can’t be together.”
Of course, there could be numerous obstacles along the way, like one person or both are married, or the relationship is long-distance. I am not talking about those situations. I am talking about when two people love each other but can’t be together even though the “obstacles” they think they have are minor and can easily be overcome. That’s not love in my opinion.
So, let us look into the obstacles that can stop two people who love each other to be together.
We love each other but we can’t be together because we live at a distance from one another.
Yes, long-distance relationships are difficult. However, they are not impossible. You can make it work. If you love each other the thought of not being together will be unfathomable and you will do anything to make it work even at a distance.
Plus, in this era of mobile phones, the internet, and all kinds of applications for staying in touch, you can make it work easily. You can communicate daily, see each other on camera, and make the distance between you less disturbing until your next meeting in person.
We Can’t Be Together Because We Are Of Different Faiths.
There are people who make it work, and there are those who don’t. It all depends on how big a part does having the same faith plays when you choose a life partner. It all depends on your core values, your views of the family, your lifestyle, and so on.
So, best is to discuss openly with your partner about your views and how your faith will impact your future together. Because, this issue can be solved if you are willing to compromise and possibly convert. If not, your relationship will become a conflicting one.
We Can’t Be Together Because They Are Emotionally And/Or Physically Abusive.
Sometimes, we can’t help ourselves. We tell ourselves that we love our abuser and stay stuck in the toxic cycle with them because we don’t want to be with anyone else and we don’t want them to be with another partner.
But, true love is never abusive. Love doesn’t equal hurt. It doesn’t equal black eyes. Love does not spell disrespect. Love is not manipulation and gaslighting. It is not walking on eggshells around your partner. Don’t fool yourself. It is best to leave and never look back.
Live your life and surround yourself with positive people and don’t give the abuser another chance to destroy you because they didn’t succeed the first time. Don’t go back to someone with whom you are not safe.
We can’t be together because they are married.
Maybe it is not your fault. Maybe you didn’t know they were married. However, the fact that they have a spouse at home, and maybe children are involved, is a sign that you should step away and leave them. Protect yourself and your heart. A relationship with a married man or a woman is headed to disaster every time.
Why? Because for one thing, they are a cheater. Second, they are also a liar because they lie to their spouse and they lie to you. And finally, if they are cheating on them, there is a high possibility that they will also cheat on you. So, this love is simply not worth it the inevitable heartbreak that follows.
How To Walk Away From SomeoneYou Love But Can’t Be Together?
Remember both the good things and the bad things. Because if you make a decision to remember only the bad things, you’ll poison yourself and you’ll start having negative thoughts about love and relationships. And you will never get the closure that you need to move on with your life and be happy.
Nothing is black or white. Life is full of wonders and beautiful surprises. So, be grateful for the experience that that person gave you and move on. Be grateful for the lessons you learned from them. Everything happens for a reason however cliché this sounds.
And constantly keep on reminding yourself that love is a beautiful thing. That when you are with the right person everything will fall into place.
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