When Two People Love Each Other But Can’t Be Together

We Love Each Other But We Can’t Be Together…

When you love each other but can’t be together it can hurt like hell. It will make you question everything. You can even start obsessing and overwhelming your mind with questions such as, ‘Why we can’t be together?’ ‘What am I doing wrong?’ ‘Why the love we have for one another is not enough?’ and so on.

I noticed that when I get into that state of experiencing an emotional rollercoaster, I help myself by letting my emotions out and then controlling them. Because when I am in a state of being angry and sad, I can’t think rationally. So, first, I must let all those emotions out so that I can see things more clearly.

And when all my emotions are out in the open, when I took the time I needed to heal, then I look at the situation for what it is. Because the thing is, I don’t believe it. I don’t believe when someone says “we love each other but we can’t be together.”

Of course, there could be numerous obstacles along the way, like one person or both are married, or the relationship is long-distance. I am not talking about those situations. I am talking about when two people love each other but can’t be together even though the “obstacles” they think they have are minor and can easily be overcome. That’s not love in my opinion.

So, let us look into the obstacles that can stop two people who love each other to be together.

We love each other but we can’t be together because we live at a distance from one another.

Yes, long-distance relationships are difficult. However, they are not impossible. You can make it work. If you love each other the thought of not being together will be unfathomable and you will do anything to make it work even at a distance. 

Plus, in this era of mobile phones, the internet, and all kinds of applications for staying in touch, you can make it work easily. You can communicate daily, see each other on camera, and make the distance between you less disturbing until your next meeting in person.

We Can’t Be Together Because We Are Of Different Faiths.

There are people who make it work, and there are those who don’t. It all depends on how big a part does having the same faith plays when you choose a life partner. It all depends on your core values, your views of the family, your lifestyle, and so on.

So, best is to discuss openly with your partner about your views and how your faith will impact your future together. Because, this issue can be solved if you are willing to compromise and possibly convert. If not, your relationship will become a conflicting one.

We Can’t Be Together Because They Are Emotionally And/Or Physically Abusive.

Sometimes, we can’t help ourselves. We tell ourselves that we love our abuser and stay stuck in the toxic cycle with them because we don’t want to be with anyone else and we don’t want them to be with another partner.

But, true love is never abusive. Love doesn’t equal hurt. It doesn’t equal black eyes. Love does not spell disrespect. Love is not manipulation and gaslighting. It is not walking on eggshells around your partner. Don’t fool yourself. It is best to leave and never look back.

Live your life and surround yourself with positive people and don’t give the abuser another chance to destroy you because they didn’t succeed the first time. Don’t go back to someone with whom you are not safe.

We can’t be together because they are married.

Maybe it is not your fault. Maybe you didn’t know they were married. However, the fact that they have a spouse at home, and maybe children are involved, is a sign that you should step away and leave them. Protect yourself and your heart. A relationship with a married man or a woman is headed to disaster every time.

Why? Because for one thing, they are a cheater. Second, they are also a liar because they lie to their spouse and they lie to you. And finally, if they are cheating on them, there is a high possibility that they will also cheat on you. So, this love is simply not worth it the inevitable heartbreak that follows.

How To Walk Away From SomeoneYou Love But Can’t Be Together?

Remember both the good things and the bad things. Because if you make a decision to remember only the bad things, you’ll poison yourself and you’ll start having negative thoughts about love and relationships. And you will never get the closure that you need to move on with your life and be happy.

Nothing is black or white. Life is full of wonders and beautiful surprises. So, be grateful for the experience that that person gave you and move on. Be grateful for the lessons you learned from them. Everything happens for a reason however cliché this sounds.

And constantly keep on reminding yourself that love is a beautiful thing. That when you are with the right person everything will fall into place.