Men often complain that they can’t understand women. They give their partners and husbands silent treatments and when the man asks her what’s wrong and whether is she okay, her typical response is ‘I’m fine’ which of course means that she is not fine and that she is angry at her husband about something.
The majority of women use indirect communication and the man feels like he is fighting for something but he doesn’t know for what. And they can’t understand why women do this because their way of dealing with problems is by using logic and facts. And when they realize that something is up, they don’t know what to do because when they ask their woman about it, she says that it’s nothing.
And so, men are left clueless no matter how hard they try and want to solve the problem. They can’t because they often don’t know what the problem is.
The solution? Living the truth.
You should go back to your religion and follow the example of God who always communicated what he expected from his people through the prophets. He clearly communicated his wishes to his people. And that should be the path that His children are following because it is the path of righteousness and love.
Couples should communicate directly and clearly to avoid any misunderstanding that may arise. But you must do it by first creating a safe space between you.
And the husband should create a safe zone to help his wife to open up and discuss everything that bothers her openly and without fear of being judged or told that she is wrong. He can do that by being honest instead of getting defensive. He must never respond to his woman’s words with an attack or verbal or physical abuse. He should be actively listening to what she is saying and then choose compromise and finding a solution together.
And when you create the safe zone between you and you are both committed to speaking lovingly and honestly to each other, then you are ready to solve everything that is separating you. As apostle Paul in Ephesians 4:15, 25 encouraged us: “Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ. … Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body.”