“I breathe therefore I care what other people think of me.”
Let’s not kid ourselves. As human beings, we always rely on our emotions. And as truly emotional and irrational creatures, we always seek approval from everyone around us. Even when we feel cool, calm and collected. Even when we feel like we have it all under control. Being faced with someone else’s opinion does trigger us. That’s a fact. Only, not all of us choose to show those insecurities to the world.
However, even though this is a part of our nature, we often forget one very important fact. What people say or think about us has very little to do with us and everything to do with who they are. That’s just their perception of reality, their own viewpoint, their perspective.
So, why do we think that our self-worth is determined by others?
Why do we let people’s opinions influence us in any way?
I believe it’s time to wake up, hush those insecurities inside of you, accept the fact that we are all flawed and simply be the person that you’ve always wanted to be…
1. Find the root of your insecurities. Start by asking yourself why. Why do you say or do things? What makes you act that way? Is it because you desperately need to feel liked and accepted by others? Is it because you are afraid that people might see the real you and make fun of you? What is it about you that forces you to seek people’s validation for every little thing that you do? Look within and you’ll find your answers.
2. Trust your inner voice. It pains me how ignorant we humans often are. We have such a wonderful, incredible inner guidance tool that we can use whenever we feel like, and yet we don’t use it. Wake up! Everything that you need, every answer that you search for I already inside of you. Focus on sharpening your intuition, listen to what your gut says and learn what works the best for you.
3. Find a role model. This journey will be unlike everything you’ve been through in life. That’s why it’s okay to look for help. It doesn’t matter whether it’s a mentor, a friend, a loved one, a psychiatrist or a role model, as long as it’s someone that helps you realize your self-worth and accept your differences. In moments of weakness, just ask yourself… How would they react?
4. Do your best in every given situation. No matter what happens, always know that you’ve done everything that you could. And by everything, I mean everything you could in that given situation, under those exact circumstances. There is nothing worse than realizing that your recklessness is the root of all your problems. Instead of sabotaging yourself over and over again, do your absolute best, act with integrity. Only then you’ll be able to truly accept yourself and stop giving a damn what anyone else thinks.
5. Love yourself harder than ever. Simple as that. Love yourself for who you are. Love yourself for what you are. Love yourself the way you’ve loved others. Love yourself without trying to change the real you. Just love the real you. I know it’s easier said than done, but the sooner you start accepting yourself in this very moment, the sooner you start embracing each and every part of you, both your demons and your angels, the sooner you’ll be able to find your happiness.
In the end, it all comes down to what you care about, not others… Stop wasting your time obsessing over people’s opinions about you. You are the only one responsible for defining your self-worth.