You may think that you have what it takes to win at their game, but the truth is… you most likely don’t.
Narcissists have no soul. They have no empathy. They don’t feel the same things that we do. They don’t understand what love is. They don’t care about anyone else but themselves. The only things they know how to do best is manipulating, manipulating, and manipulating.
That’s what makes them different than us. And unfortunately, in some cases that is what makes them more powerful than us. What gives them the advantage and makes them one step ahead of us.
If you are someone who is going through this experience right now, I completely understand your need to get back at them in any way possible. But here’s the truth. You cannot win with a narcissist. The only person you are going to hurt in that process is yourself. No one else. So, my advice is to stop before you make the wrong move and think things through.
The best thing you can do right now is leave. Slowly and quietly. Without making any scene. Without letting them know about your plans. If you try to explain yourself and make your intentions clear, know that you are going to lose… For a narcissist will never let you go.
A narcissist will seek your attention. They’ll use your vulnerability to change your mind. Not only that, but they will also do whatever it takes to make you realize that you are doing a mistake. They will call you, send you messages, and convince you that they’ve changed. They will put an entire act for you. They will beg for you in tears. They will promise you to do whatever you wish. But they will lie. Every little thing they do will be just a part of their methods to get what they want.
A narcissist will trick you into believing every word they say. Their sweet words and sugary lies will erase every doubt you have in your head and will convince you that they indeed care for you. They will persuade you into staying and giving them one more chance.
A narcissist will promise to change, but they won’t. Lastly, once they trap you and get you back with their empty promises and their sweet lies, they will finally show their real face once again. They will get back to their arrogant, selfish, and evil selves. And the games will start all over again. They will blame you for everything and try to weaken you once again, for that is the only way they’ll gain back control over you. They will isolate you from the entire world around you, especially from your loved ones. And you will find yourself in the same mess all over again…
But hey…There is a bright side to all of this. It doesn’t have to be this way. You don’t have to go through this again. It all depends on you and your choices.
So, choose yourself. Choose to let go without leaving any trace. Choose to turn into another direction. Choose to abandon the life that you once knew. Choose to not waste your time on people who don’t add any value to your life.
Choose to be free.