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Kindness Makes Everyone Beautiful No Matter What They Look Like

Kindness Makes Everyone Beautiful No Matter What They Look Like

Kind people are the most beautiful looking ones. Their kindness shines through them and makes this world a better place.

Here are 7 ways how to be kind to yourself and to others.

1. LET GO OF YOUR BAGGAGE

Your past baggage can hold you back and stop your inner light from shining through. We’ve all experienced hardships and pain, but the important thing is that we heal ourselves and start a new life.

2. STOP WORRYING ABOUT YOUR APPEARANCE

You are beautiful inside and out. After all, physical beauty is faltering, what matters is what we carry inside ourselves. A good and kind soul is the most beautiful thing in the world.

3. KEEP A HEALTHY SELF-IMAGE

Accept your flaws. No one is perfect. Love yourself for who you are. Love your body, your face, your hair, your kind heart, your loving soul!

4. HAVE FUN

Be yourself. Have fun. Go out with your friends. Dance. Have a drink. Go to a movie. Go skiing. Have a good time doing what you love.

5. BE KIND TO YOURSELF

Being good to yourself is essential for your happiness. You can’t have meaningful connections with others if you don’t have a good relationship with yourself. Focus on yourself. Eat healthy. Drink water. Take a vacation. Go on spa weekend. Pamper yourself.

6. STOP OVERTHINKING

Let things unfold naturally. Don’t rush anything. Don’t worry about things that may or may not happen in the future. Overthinking won’t help you. Just have faith, stay calm, and believe in yourself.

7. LISTEN TO YOUR HEART

Your heart is always talking to you. You should have courage to listen to it and follow its advice. Your heart knows what’s best for you.

And when you are in tune with your heart and mind and at peace with yourself, your aura will change and you’ll attract positive and beautiful things into your life.

I Am Happy With My Single Life And I Stopped Looking For Love. This Time I Am Letting Love Find Me

Lately, it seems to me as if all my friends suddenly got into relationships. Some out of love, some out of not wanting to be alone, someone because of fear that time is passing them by, and it is time to find someone. Don’t get me wrong, I am happy for them. If a relationship is what it takes for them to be happy, then excellent.

As for me, I am single as a Pringle. And I am perfectly fine with it. Finally, after many, many years of being single, I can sincerely say that I have not been happier with my singleness than I am now.

Yes, I am happy and fulfilled with my life as it is now. I wouldn’t change anything. I am not saying that everything is perfect, but I stopped obsessing over things and expecting from people things I should first give to myself.

I stopped chasing after love because a love that you must chase is not true love. That’s why I stopped looking for it and instead, I decided to live my life in the most beautiful way I know. Love is still the most precious feeling for me, but I decided to stop chasing it and instead, to enjoy my life and live it with an open heart.

There isn’t anything wrong with being single. There isn’t anything wrong with focusing on yourself and taking care of you. Knowing yourself. Accepting yourself.

I stopped looking for love because I want to heal my past wounds first. I want to explore new depths of me and follow my own destiny.

I stopped looking for love because this time, I am letting love find me.

I am opening my heart for the people who are meant to be in my life to enter. I am no longer searching for love because I began living my life without following rules and other people’s opinions about what I am supposed to do with my life.

I am no longer looking for love because I learned how to be whole on my own.

In my solitude, I found happiness. I learned to love myself. I regained my confidence.

Yes, true love is still something I desire to experience, but it is not my priority. Happiness is. Joy is. Health is. Loving life is.

Me, choosing not to focus on love doesn’t mean that I am disappointed in people or that I am scared of getting hurt. No. This decision means I don’t want to have just anyone in order to be in a relationship. I am looking for the real thing. I want to have something deep, meaningful, and long-lasting. I am done with temporary relationships and short-time pleasures.

My heart is open for love, but only the kind of love that is based on trust and respect.

Until that love enters my life, I will continue choosing myself every single day.

A Grown And Mature Woman Won’t Settle For Your Excuses

I’m A Grown Woman And I’m Not Settling For Your Excuses

When a woman realizes she’s made it, and by ‘made it’ I don’t mean achieving some kind of financial gain or professional success, then she is unstoppable.

When she reaches a point in her life when she simply doesn’t care about anyone’s bullshit and she is done playing games and entertaining people who don’t deserve her time – then she is a powerful and unshakeable force.

Her motto in life is simply – “I am a mature woman and I won’t settle for your nonsense.”

She won’t settle for your drama. She is not a fan of constant arguments. She doesn’t like wondering where you are and whether you’ll call. She knows who she is and what she deserves, and she doesn’t deserve to be treated as an option.

She doesn’t want a bigger apartment, a bigger salary, bigger anything. She is satisfied with her life as it is. Because you know, some people want a normal and simple life.

She knows she’s not perfect nor she wants to be. She also doesn’t expect her partner to be perfect. She knows every person is flawed in their own way and she is not there to judge. What she does expect though, is love, empathy, kindness, and compassion.

She is confident in the way she looks and doesn’t need anyone that tries to change her. Yes, she has wrinkles, yes, she has under-eye circles, but she doesn’t need anyone to give her a lesson on skincare.

She also doesn’t need anyone to tell her to exercise and eat healthily. She exercises because it makes her feel good, not because she has some beauty standard to achieve. She is happy in her own body regardless of her weight. And yes, she will eat whole chocolate if she feels like it.

She surrounds herself only with people who truly love and understand her. She doesn’t need any toxic or unkind people in her life.

She loves herself and her life and she won’t allow anyone to toy with her.

Men, Romance Is The Thing That Keeps A Relationship Bouncy And Dynamic

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Romance should exist in a relationship and this goes to both men and women. We all need to light up the romance from time to time and make date nights appear a lot more often on our schedules.

Coming up with ideas of how to rekindle the passion in a relationship can be hard, especially for men, so here’s a list of things you should do occasionally for women whose standards you are going to come up to and who are going to secure you a place in their hearts.

1. HOME COOKED MEAL FOR TWO

Every once in a blue moon, try cooking for her, and I don’t mean fake cooking, like ordering from a restaurant and then throwing the boxes out, so she won’t notice. Include a dessert and, of course, – her favorite wine. This won’t cost much, but she’ll be thrilled.

2. DO THE HOUSE CHORES

She must be tired of cleaning around the house, plus cooking, plus going to work every day. So, wash the dishes, throw out the garbage, or organize the closet. You can even try ironing the clothes; if you don’t do them right, she’ll find it funny and sweet because you actually tried. Now, don’t do this while she is in her PMS because then she may not handle it well – but the rest of the days you can give it a go.

3. ROMANTIC WEEKEND

Going somewhere for the weekend from time to time is really important. You can go on a picnic somewhere in nature or get out of town. Hot springs and spas are a really good idea too. It’s the process of planning you did that will make her excited and in love with you now more than ever, so the trip doesn’t have to be somewhere exclusive. It’s your effort that matters.

4. COMPLIMENTS

Complimenting her on her looks will only come as a bonus for you, especially if you are not ashamed to do it publicly. It would be a wonderful reassurance about how much you love her and how proud you are of her. Another plus is the benefit you can get in bed; her sex drive is likely to be higher if you compliment her on her dress, her perfume, or how well the lipstick accentuates her lips.

5. FLOWERS AND LOVE NOTES

Surprise her by sending her flowers at work accompanied by some love note. You’re not a poet, we get it, but something like good morning, love or have a great day can do wonders.

6. GEMS AND JEWELS  

Women love jewelry, so that’s a start, but it’s certainly not the only option you have. Even something simpler and less costly can be a wonderful gesture. A scarf, or that book she said she wanted to buy, or some coffee mug can do the magic. No doubts.

7. MASSAGE

This one speaks for itself, so yeah. Don’t be lazy and give her a massage after she comes home from work.

8. BUILD SOMETHING FOR HER

We all know you, men, are dexterous, and you know how to use all those tools, pliers and wrenches, so making a small library for her books or a new jewelry box would make her jaw drop.

9. DANCING

Yes, dancing, and don’t you dare skip this one. If she thought your dancing is terrible, well go and prove her wrong. Practice your moves and then dance with her from time to time. Some nice, smooth blues or whatever. Very important.

10. MAKE A LIST

Make a list of all the things you like about her or a list of all the things you want to do with her.

11. WATCH A SHOW WITH HER

Even if the show is great and you can’t wait to watch the next episode, sustain yourself. You can also add: Honey, I’ve been waiting for you to watch the show together, in case she thinks the show is not a big deal for you. Well, you go and tell her that you want to watch it, but you’d much rather watch it with her.

So, men, if women didn’t ask you to do any of these things, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do them.

Come one, level up – it’s not as hard as it seems. Also, if women see this kind of effort you make, they are going to reciprocate as well!

6 wedding blessings, prayers, and readings you will love

The order of the wedding is one that is meticulously planned, to make the day a fulfilled one. But while planning, three essentials must be present — wedding blessings, wedding prayer and wedding readings. These three items each have their importance to the couple, and you have to get it right. While you can borrow already made ones, there’s also space for leaving your touch, by writing your own.

Whichever choice you make, see our lineup of prayers, readings, and wedding blessing ideas below. If you are the hopelessly romantic type, you’ll also find unique wedding poems for your delight. They are either religious, romantic or traditional to suit your preference!

The Wedding Readings

Wedding blessing readings are sweet and heartfelt words that distill your relationship. Readings are sourced from different materials like the holy book, literature, movies, music and more. They can also be written by you if you intend to personalize it. With this, we’ve rounded up examples of wedding readings. Get inspired, whip out the cute diary from your bride’s box, and put something down.

  1. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

Two are better than one,

because they have a good return for their labor:

If either of them falls down,

one can help the other up.

But pity anyone who falls

and has no one to help them up.

Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.

But how can one keep warm alone?

Though one may be overpowered,

two can defend themselves.

A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

  1. By Rumi

May these vows and this marriage be blessed.

May it be like sweet milk,

this marriage, like wine and halvah.

May this marriage offer fruit and shade

like the date palm.

May this marriage be full of laughter,

our every day a day in paradise.

May this marriage be a sign of compassion,

a seal of happiness here and hereafter.

May this marriage have a fair face and good name,

an omen as welcome,

as the moon in a clear blue sky.

I am out of words to describe

how spirit mingles in this marriage.

 

The Marriage Blessings

Marriage blessings are more-or-less wedding wishes to the couple. The bulk of them is religious and traditional because they are well-grounded for generations. If you’re coming through wedding blessings quotes or texts, see some suggestions here.

  1. From The Church of England

Blessed are you, O Lord our God,

for you have created joy and gladness,

pleasure and delight, love, peace, and fellowship.

Pour out the abundance of your blessing upon the bride and groom in their new life together.

Let their love for each other be a seal upon their hearts

and a crown upon their heads.

Bless them in their work and in their companionship;

awake and asleep,

in joy and in sorrow,

in life and in death.

Finally, in your mercy, bring them to that banquet

where your saints feast forever in your heavenly home.

We ask this through Jesus Christ your Son, our Lord

who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit,

one God, now and forever. Amen.

  1. By Dave Willis

May your marriage always bring glory to God, joy to one another and blessings to your family for many generations to come. May love and laughter fill your hearts and your home for all at the days of your lives. May you face every challenge hand-in-hand and side-by-side knowing that with God’s grace, you’ll conquer all obstacles together. May the world be forever a better place because the two of you fell in love. In Jesus’ name, Amen

The Wedding Prayers

Prayer for the wedding ceremony is the blessing of your union. This is very important if you intend to honor your faith and connect it to something spiritual. Wedding prayers are full of positivity and suit any wedding. They aren’t always religious, as you’ll see below.

  1. By Max Lucado

Would you take these two,

of dust and bone,

Born of flesh, then you,

Would you make them one?

Would you speak again

The words you spoke

When Adam slept

And Eve awoke?

Would you let your wine

Replace our water.

And look with grace

On this son, this daughter?

Oh Lord of Eden

In your majesty

Create again

Your tapestry

One heart

Where there were two.

This is the prayer

We lift to you. 

  1. By Robert Louis Stevenson

Lord, behold our family here assembled.

We thank you for this place in which we dwell,

for the love that unites us,

for the peace accorded us this day,

for the hope with which we expect the morrow,

for the health, the work, the food,

and the bright skies that make our lives delightful;

for our friends in all parts of the earth.

Wedding blessings, prayers, and readings have been given in this post. Borrow or use them as templates for your wedding.

Being Aware of Date Scammers

Dating, in general, is hard enough already without all the creeps and back alley negotiations going on, so why add all the drama on top of it all? Well basically, because there are weirdos out there that get a thrill and kick out of it without taking into consideration the consequences and negative impact they are making on lives.

What is dating?

It is the stage in life where you are putting yourself out there to meet a person in a social situation and see if you are compatible as humans as well as assess whether there is the prospect of being together intimately in a relationship.

Courtship and courting these days are where the relationship develops and grows and you begin to realize the long-term possibilities with this person. Read about the etymology and history in this link and how behavior patterns have changed and evolved over the years.

Although nowadays it is done in public through social events, occasions and for sure the social media platforms, it can also be built privately within traditions and no intrusions with the exception perhaps to family approval.

Online Dating.

This system of introductions and creating personal connections via the internet has seemed to take over the need for chivalry, long gone are the days where to get someone’s attention you made an effort of flowers, a card or even a serenade under a window sill. Now it’s all emojis and sexting and chatting to a person who might not even be who they claim to be.

Many of these dating apps and websites allege to be legitimate companies with real people looking for a life partner, but so many are being exposed these days for the corrupt and illegal activities they offer, it can be a worry not to get scammed.

Online Dating site scams.

Being wary when it comes to searching online for the love of your life is an understatement, you have to be real and alert. Many victims fall prey to the charms of others and it can seriously damage your life, with some cases being the end of it, take a minute and see what a brave woman who spoke out on being caught, experienced.

The unfortunate issue with this is that the reputable companies and dating sites out there are being roped into it all and getting a bad reputation along with the rest of them. The fake profiles, the false identities, and the illusion of emotions are all copied and cloned in these fake sites and because they seem so similar you doubt yourself into believing it is genuine.

Signs of a Scam Dating site and its Users.

  • Love in a short time. Scam artists will proclaim to have strong feelings for you and even be ‘falling in love’ with you after just a short period, they will ask to have you to themselves and move the conversation to a more private method such as phone and texts, this is a red flag.
  • As you get to ‘know’ them, details will start to not add up. Indicating in the profile they have a degree in a certain subject but when asked they avoid the subject or seem to not remember. Photos that don’t match the description or photos you’ve received, and are brushed off as being taken back in college are a rookie mistake.
  • No Contact Info. You’ve come across an issue, and the website has no contact info, tell-tale sign its fraudulent. Fortunately, some do get caught and publicized which you can educate yourself on here http://www.datingcop.com/yesbackpage-review and see just how they try their tricks and get away with it.
  • Personal issues. A sudden problem has come up with a family member and their money is tied up there, asking if you can help financially in any way should have you packing for the hills.
  • Or lack-there-of for customers including bad reviews will help make your decision not to use them easier and more comfortable, do your research, be thorough and don’t give these con-artists a chance.

      Karma has a funny way of tying the two ends together at the end of the day, these scammers will get what’s due to them, just be safe and happy dating.

Why Are So Many Smart And Attractive Women Still Rolling Solo?

Have you ever wondered why so many smart, confident, and attractive women are often single? Well, let’s get this straight – they aren’t single since they think they’re better than the rest, but because they can’t find men who deserve their attention, respect, and love. 

It’s not that these women fear that someone might betray their trust and break their hearts. Or that they are solely interested in building a successful career and achieving high social status. The truth is that their high self-esteem and intellectual abilities prevent them from beginning a relationship with someone just for the sake of being in a relationship. You can find more about this relationship in this review. 

They don’t want to waste their energy and time on a man that can’t keep up with them in all aspects of life. A man that’s afraid to wear his heart on his sleeve. A man that lacks confidence. A man that doesn’t bother to commit.

So, if you’ve been wondering why so many intelligent and gorgeous women are often single, make sure you read the following reasons:

1. They have very high standards.

These women are aware of their worth and they won’t accept to be with someone who isn’t compatible with them. Their partners must possess all the necessary characteristics this type of women are looking for in a man. Being strong, confident, independent, and driven matters a lot.

2. They put in a great deal of effort and energy in becoming accomplished in different spheres.

Super smart and gorgeous women like doing whatever they can to become more independent and improve themselves on a personal and professional level. They don’t wait for things to get done by themselves. On the other hand, it seems that men lack that ambition and commitment to shoot for high goals. This is something these women can’t stand.

3. They already feel complete.

This kind of women doesn’t need a guy to feel emotionally complete and accomplished. They already have amazing friends and careers. They always look for new goals and passions to pursue. If they decide to be with someone, then he must respect and know how to deal with this.

4. They can’t tolerate bulls**t.

Hell yeah! Why would you think otherwise? These women would never allow someone to play little devious mind games with them. They’ll never let anyone juggle with their feelings, cheat on, and lie to them. They’ve had this kind of crappy experiences many times before and now they won’t let be manipulated again.

5. The childish dream of marrying the prince on a white horse does no longer exist.

Hah, they’ve grown up. They don’t believe in these delusions anymore. They don’t need a husband to feel safe and protected. They don’t need someone to watch them while they sleep at night. They even know that they don’t need a guy to have kids. They’re not afraid to be single mothers and pave the path to their happiness on their own.

6. They are never a second option.

These women always come first and will never settle for anything less than that. If most guys are so naïve to believe that they can easily replace these women with the first one they find on the social media, they’re awfully wrong. These women have a sixth sense and if they feel something strange is going on behind their backs, they’ll stop that even before it begins.

7. A lot of guys feel intimidated by smart and attractive women.

This kind of women is aware of their power as well. Yet, they’ll never consent to act as if they’re naïve or stupid so that they don’t diminish the confidence of some guy or make him feel inferior to them. These women know what they deserve and if men can’t deal with it, then I’m sorry, but it’s their loss.

Don’t Push Genuine People Away, They’re Harder To Find Than You Think

Don’t Push The Real People Away, They’re Harder To Find Than You Think

Love hurts equally for men and women. There are no real ways of softening the pain after a breakup and whoever tells you that they are over their ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend is probably lying. 

Breakups are like open wounds; they bleed with the mere mentioning of the person that hurt you.

But someday, all of the pain will go away. I can’t tell you when exactly or how, but I know that time plays a key role here. Believe me, I’ve been there.

One day you’ll wake up knowing that you’re over that person and you’ll be ready to move on.

Men have one way of coping with breakups: they go out, they drink, they have fun, they avoid talking about it. Women, on the other hand, cry in their rooms for days and overthink.

Truth is, we all need to do what works for us. The general rule of thumb is: don’t start hating on the opposite sex just because of one person.

We are all human beings, we all want to be loved. If someone did something that hurt you – if they cheated on you, manipulated you, or guilt-tripped you – let them go

We all love in the same way. The only thing we differ in is how we treat others. Women can cheat and lie too. They can be emotionally unstable or emotionally unavailable. They can be psychological abusers too. These are not male or female traits, these are people’s traits. Very ugly and negative ones, I give you that, but everyone chooses their own path.

So, you choose your own path too. You don’t have to hate the rest of the world because of one person. Let them be. They will eventually realize the chaos they’ve created and what they’ve lost. It’s your job to get free of the negativity and to find someone better.

Good, loving, caring people don’t just fall into your laps, you have to search for them. But know this, once they enter your life – don’t let them slip through your hands.

Cherish those tender, hardworking, romantic men, cherish those caring women who are not going to play some mind games with you or act like they are hard to get.

Embrace simplicity, embrace modesty. In a world full of people pretending to be someone they are not, in a world full of people faking wealth and stressing over brands, be real. Be humble and gentle in heart. You will attract fewer people, but you will attract the real ones.

It’s those people that will love you endlessly and that won’t pay attention to the material things you possess but to your soul. They will love you the way you love them and they will reciprocate with the same intensity.

Genuine, mature, and caring people aren’t motivated by ego, stigma, pride, and narcissism.  They are motivated by equality, humbleness, and mutual understanding.

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The Unbearable Pain Of Trying To Forget Someone You Never Even Had

I Am Not Looking For ‘Almost’; I Am Looking For Forever

Last night, it happened again. I couldn’t fall asleep because I was thinking of you. I don’t even know why you are still on my mind. I promised myself that we are over and that I will move on, but somehow, I can’t. I’ve spent so much time looking down at my phone, hoping to see your name on my screen. I was missing you so much that I didn’t realize that I was losing myself in the process and letting myself down.

When I first met you, you were the light in my life. I had so much faith in us and our future together. I never thought we would ever grow distant. But we did. And it was brutal. It was one of the most painful breakups I have ever had even though we were never officially together.

And do you know how difficult it is for me to explain this to someone? How can I tell someone that I am grieving over someone I never even had? I spent many months with you, and when you were not with me, you were in my mind. We were texting and talking constantly. I shared everything with you. But, slowly, it all started to fade away until we stopped seeing each other entirely.

And what pains me the most is the fact that we could have been great together. We could have built something lasting. I believed in us. I believed in you. I fought for us and our connection, but I stopped when I realized that I was fighting alone.

The hurt from losing you is not any less just because we were not in a relationship. I loved you. I was physically, emotionally, and mentally invested in you. I enjoyed spending time with you that I ignored everything you said when you told me you didn’t want a relationship. And perhaps that’s where I made a mistake. Perhaps my hope that one day we will be together screwed me up.

How could I be so dumb? I am here, writing about you, thinking of you, losing sleep at night because of you while you are probably out there, dating and sleeping with someone else. You are with another girl while I am here still hurting while trying to get you out of my head and my heart.

I was looking for forever. I was looking for love and commitment and you involved me in a friend with benefits situation. I knew I didn’t deserve it but still, it was hard to let you go.

Now, a few months passed since we last kissed and held hands. I still talk to you from time to time, just so we make sure we are okay, and I see you around in town sometimes. We hug, we greet, we ask each other cliché questions. Our connection is lost and we both know that. And we are not trying to rekindle the fire that once burnt between us.

I wish you well, of course. But now I know what I want and what I deserve. And I am sorry that I couldn’t get it with you.

A Real Man Treats His Lady The Same Way He Wants Another Man To Treat His Daughter

A Real Man Treats His Lady The Same Way He Wants Another Man To Treat His Daughter

A real man always puts his lady first. He always treats her with love and respect. She is the priority in his life.

Here are some quotes about how real men treat their ladies.

“Being a good husband is like being a good stand-up comic: you need ten years before you can even call yourself a beginner.” –Jerry Seinfeld

“You spend time with your family?” Good. Because a man who doesn’t spend time with his family can never be a real man.” –Don Vito Corleone, The Godfather

“A real man won’t date the most beautiful girl in the world – he’ll date the girl that makes his world beautiful.” – Anonymous

“A real man loves his wife, and places his family as the most important thing in life. Nothing has brought me more peace and content in life than simply being a good husband and father.” –Frank Abagnale

“If you want to be a real human being – a real woman, a real man – you cannot tolerate things which put you to indignation, to outrage. You must stand up. I always say to people, ‘Look around; look at what makes you unhappy, what makes you furious, and then engage yourself in some action.’” – Stephane Hessel

“The real man is one who always finds excuses for others, but never excuses himself.” – Henry Ward Beecher

“You can’t be a real man if you don’t look out for your kids. They need you.” – Bill O’Reilly

“Remember those black-and-white films with Frank Sinatra? Those guys looked like men and they were only 27! Listen to Otis Redding singing ‘Try A Little Tenderness.’ That was a man who understood what a man has to know in the world. Show me a real man now! Where are they?” – Chrissie Hynde

“Having two daughters changed my perspective on a lot of things, and I definitely have a newfound respect for women. And I think I finally became a good and real man when I had a daughter.” – Mark Wahlberg

Take All The Time You Need To Heal Your Heart And Feel Like Yourself Again

We, human beings, are not made of stone. We have feelings and oftentimes our feelings get hurt. We all have experienced incredible sadness and we still crumble down and drown in sorrow. But, it’s during those times that we learn how to embrace our emotions.

Be angry. Be sad. Cry. Let your emotions out. They are there to remind you how you shouldn’t be feeling. Your emotions are there to humble you and break your heart so that it can open for new experiences and better things.

I also went through an emotional rollercoaster. The person who I thought loved me broke my heart. I was devastated. I never thought I could move on with my life. I realized that they never cared about me and what they could get from me. I was only a temporary convenience and they never planned on loving me the way I deserve to be loved.

And I think that this realization was what hurt me the most – when I found that I was not what they wanted. And that is okay. Now, I understand that I can’t be good and wanted by everyone I love. I can’t force someone into loving me. I can only control myself and my feelings.

During moments of deep pain and sadness, it is essential to do small things that make you happy. Go out with your friends. Buy yourself something. Book tickets for your next trip. Anything that will make you happy. Moreover, surround yourself with positive people who will make you forget all the pain that is in your heart. People who will make you smile again and show you that life is beautiful. Hold on to those people.

And never, never feel guilty for taking the time you need to heal and make yourself feel okay again. Everyone has a different pace in life and everyone’s healing is different. The only thing that you should remember is to be patient and know that good things come to those who wait.

5 Tips to Help You Break the Ice on a First Date

Going on a first date can be a nerve-wracking experience, especially if you’re not sure what the first words out of your mouth are going to be. Unfortunately, the longer you think about what you’re going to do next, the more awkward the situation can become. On the other hand, not saying much at all isn’t a good move, either.

Sometimes, it isn’t what you say or do, it’s how you approach the date in terms of appearance and demeanor that matter the most when it comes to positioning yourself to break the ice. If you can set the tone and create a positive initial impression through visual and social cues, then you don’t have to come up with the coolest or funniest things in the world to say, as you can lean on the preconceived image that you’re already projecting. With that said, here are five effective tips you can use to break the ice more easily on any first date:

1. Wear the Right Footwear and Clothing

While you might be hoping to find someone who “loves you for you” and doesn’t care how you dress, the real world usually doesn’t work like that on a first date. In fact, numerous dating and social surveys have revealed that people base their initial opinions and perceptions of others primarily on their outer appearance, which is mostly influenced by the shoes and clothing you’re wearing and how well-groomed you are. Of course, you’ll probably get a warmer welcome if you’re wearing a brand new pair of Givenchy sneakers than if you were to show up sporting decrepit ice fishing boots from your storage shed – after all, we’re not literally trying to break ice (frozen H2O). Why not check out SSENSE and see what designer pieces catch your eye?

2. Use Fragrances in Your Favor

Science has proven that pheromones and other natural scents are cues that the body uses to attract mates. While you don’t want to go back to the caveman times and utilize your body’s natural stench, you can still leverage the same concept by choosing an appealing cologne or perfume. There have also been social experiments done where people who had neutral or offensive odors were treated worse than people who had an attractive scent. However, be careful not to overdo this tip, as excessive fragrances could nauseate or annoy your date.

3. Don’t Talk Too Much

Your goal is to break the ice a bit, not completely melt it into a boiling lake of awkwardness. Don’t put yourself in the hot seat on purpose with long drawn out lectures. Try to think of breaking the ice like ice fishing: you put a line out there and wait a bit to see how the fish respond – you don’t just keep throwing lines out all willy-nilly. To bring the analogy even further, one properly placed line is all it really takes to put your catch on the hook. In more basic terms, the more you talk, the more likely it is that you’ll say accidentally something stupid or offensive, so try to keep your opening lines and responses short and sweet.

4. Choose the Right Setting

No, we’re not talking about your smartphone settings here. Instead, we’re talking about the environment in which the first date takes place. Naturally, it’s harder to break the ice in some places than it is in others. To build upon the previous analogy, you don’t want your date to take place in a frigid area where breaking the ice will feel like chipping away at Antarctica with an ice pick. Instead, you want to choose a warm and welcoming temperate zone that will ignite a heat wave which softens the ice just enough for you to gently break through it. In general, “warm” places are secluded, serene, peaceful, or entertaining, whereas “cold” places are crowded, hectic, noisy, or boring.

5. Be the First to Open Up or Ask a Question

You don’t want a horde of crickets standing in your way when you’re trying to break open the ice with a shovel. In case you’re socially clueless, “crickets” is the term used to describe that horrible void of silence that happens when neither person can think of something to say or muster up the courage to say it. Thus, the first step to breaking the ice properly should always be to clear the crickets out of the way. Of course, in the real word, you’d probably never encounter a horde of crickets swarming atop an ice sheet, but hey, you get the point – somebody’s got to be the big enough person to open up or start the discourse. You should never feel hesitant during this step because, in all actuality, your date expects you to say something, so don’t let them down.

Be Ready to Answer Questions, But Not Over-Eager

Eventually, after a few dates you can cut loose and not really give too much thought to how you’re answering questions, but for the first date it’s always best to look at it like a job interview – try to sound good without disqualifying yourself. When it comes to answering questions, sometimes less is more. You don’t want to be that person who tells their entire life story when someone asks them what kind of restaurant they want to eat at.

It’s Your Fault That She Left. Now, Nothing Will Make Her Come Back

How could you let her go? How could you fail to see everything that she was giving to you? How could you not see all the love that she had for you? How could you be blind to all the times she was desperately holding onto you and the relationship fighting with all her might to make it work? How?

According to you, she was desperate. She was suffocating you with all her love and care. “I don’t need another mother”, you said. Her empathic personality has become a problem for you to deal with. It was easier to blame her and dismiss her wonderful personality than having to step up to the plate yourself and be a better man for her.

First, you drained her out of all the positive energy and then you had the audacity to tell her that ‘she is crazy’ and that ‘you can’t recognize her anymore.’

I think I can understand what your problem was. You couldn’t be with a woman who constantly pushed you forward and out of your comfort zone to be a better man. She wanted you to live up to your potential while you were fine living your mediocre life.

Unlike you, she saw the potential. She knew that you two could work it out if you made the effort. She was sure that it was all worth it. You, on the other hand, ceased to make the effort and started looking outside of the relationship for temporary pleasure. Why? Because you weren’t able to handle how ‘serious’ and ‘real’ the relationship started to become. You wanted something easy, something casual, something drama-free.

And while you may be telling yourself that you were always a ‘gentleman’ who did everything that he could to make her happy, you know deep in your heart that this is not true. The only thing you did flawlessly was finding the perfect way to escape from the responsibilities of the relationship and leaving her with questions, insecurities, and heartbreak.

You got her to a point when she was hurting and bleeding while trying to heal you and bandage your wounds from the past. And even though she was doing all that to help you, you were throwing excuses and lies at her until she couldn’t take it anymore.

And no matter how many times you succeeded in bringing her back after tearing her apart, the damage in her heart was still there. And one day, it turned into something you could see for yourself – indifference.

Suddenly, she had so much pain inside of her heart that she had to let it go together with her love for you. 

And it’s your loss, really. You lost a strong woman, a genuine woman who truly loved you and was always there for you. Now she is gone and you will have only yourself to blame because she is never coming back.

Simple Yet Cute “Good Morning” Texts That Will Melt Her Heart

good morning texts

1. Good morning beautiful.

2. You look so lovely when you are sleeping.

3. I love waking up next to you.

4. I hope your day is as beautiful as you.

5. I had a wonderful time with you last night.

6. You’ll be on my thoughts today.

7. Knowing that you are mine makes me so calm and peaceful.

8. I love lying in bed next to you.

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9. I can’t wait to see you.

10. I wish we could stay in bed all day and be lazy.

11. Kick ass at work today.

12. You are always, always on my mind.

13. I love hearing your sleepy voice in the morning.

14. I enjoy having my pillows smell like you.

15. When will I see you again?

16. Your presence feels so good.

17. I just love watching you sleep.

18. I hope you slept well.

19. I can’t wait to see you.

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20. I am missing your snuggles.

21. Is it normal that I just woke up and I miss you already?

22. Good morning gorgeous.

23. Have a great day, sunshine.

24. I love being with you.

25. I am so happy with you.

26. You are the most beautiful after you wake up.

27. You are the most beautiful woman I know.

28. Everything is better with you by my side.

19. Every morning is a good one when you are next to me.

30. I will love you.

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I Don’t Give A Damn About Other People Anymore. I Am Focusing On Me

I Am Focusing On Me

I am slowly realizing that I stopped thinking twice about people who don’t give a damn about me. I am not putting in any effort for someone who doesn’t deserve me. Period.

Before, I was doing the opposite. I was giving my time and energy to all the wrong people. I was doing everything for someone who couldn’t bother to even ask me about my day. I was there for people who when I needed them, they turned me down and walked away.

Now I know better. I will no longer waste my love on unhealthy relationships with people who don’t love me back. I will no longer hope that they will change their mind and fall in love with me after they see how wonderful I am. I am done with that. Those toxic relationships nearly killed me. Every time the person on the other end of the relationship will use my good nature and then toss me like a used mop after they get bored or find a new victim.

I am done. I will never make someone a priority in my life when it is clear that I am not a priority in theirs. The truth is, I am exhausted from always giving all of me to someone who took me for granted and leaving myself feeling empty and drained. I realize that I don’t want to live a life like that and therefore I am changing my old ways.

I Don’t Give A Damn About Other People Anymore. I Am Focusing On Me

I will be the real me without caring whether someone likes me or not. I will not follow any dumb rule made up by someone who wanted things to be easier for them. It is not easier for me, so I am not doing it. From this moment on, I will do things my way.

I will no longer conceal my feelings because they are not something I should be ashamed of. I will express them when I feel like it. I won’t hide my soft heart under a hard and cold exterior just because someone thinks that’s the way to not get your heart broken.

Well, if I get hurt, okay. I will get over it. What I won’t get over, however, is not living my life the way my heart tells me to just because I am scared what other people will think of me.

I will cry when I am sad and smile when I am happy. I won’t pretend I am okay when I am not. I don’t give a f*ck anymore.

I stopped giving a damn about things over which I don’t have control. If someone doesn’t care about me, why should I care about them? I am cutting off anyone who doesn’t make me happy or doesn’t bring meaning into my life.

Because, the thing is, I worked hard for everything that I am and everything I have. I am working hard every day to become the best version of myself. I have goals. I have dreams. I know where I want to be. I am not a lost and naïve soul one can decide to screw over and walk away.

I realize now that I am surrounded by manipulators and emotional abusers who lack the emotional capacity to care about anyone, including themselves. They are there to hurt people and I won’t let them hurt me anymore. I will stay away from their toxicity and not let them anywhere near me. I am done with their toxic bullshit.

I am also done pretending I am okay when I am not. If someone makes me feel like shit, I won’t stay silent. I will speak up and put them in their place.

And I won’t forgive them. I am done giving second chances to people who keep on disappointing me. Some people don’t deserve second chances. Some people don’t deserve forgiveness. They deserve to stay in the past where they belong.

And I am okay with that. I finally realized I don’t give a f*ck anymore. I care about myself now and my own growth and healing.  

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