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Make Time For God Because He Loves You And He Is Always There For You

Log off from your Fb and Instagram profile for an hour. Don’t respond right away to that call. Turn off the tv. Cancel your plans for the rest of the day and just sit still. Find your quiet place and spend some time with God. God loves you very much, cares about you, and He has many things to say to you. He will calm your anxious mind and make you listen to your heart.

Always make time for Him regardless of your busy schedule. Because He also makes time for you. You could never feel His presence or hear His words if you are in a constant hurry. 

All the outside noises and disruptions are only keeping you away from Him, your God who loves you.

If you are reading this now you probably are aware of how much you are blessed by Him. He has given you life, ears to hear, eyes to see, a heart to feel, a brain to be aware and understand.

God knows the real you, and He loves and values you immensely. He knows what makes you happy. He knows what makes you cry. He knows what makes you angry. He knows how you feel at any particular time. He knows your fears. He knows your strong and weak sides.

Therefore, make time for him Because He is waiting for you. Always.

You can pray or you can just sit still. You can cry or laugh when you tell Him what happened to you during the day. You can do whatever feels natural to you because God always knows what you want to tell Him even before you tell Him.

God knows the real you. He knows who you were and who you will become. And the more you get to spend time with Him, the more you’ll start hearing His voice.

You are loved. Your unique, extraordinary, lovable, yet flawed soul is so loved by God. And He wants you to let Him in by making time to be alone with Him.

If You Want Real Love, Don’t Flaunt Your Relationship On Social Media

If You Want Real Love, Don’t Flaunt Your Relationship On Social Media” is locked If You Want Real Love, Don’t Flaunt Your Relationship On Social Media

In an Instagram world, full of bloggers and people living their “perfect” lives that they proudly flaunt by posting pictures and stories every day, we are prone to lose the touch of reality and our ability to distinguish what’s fake and what’s not.

Maybe it’s just me, but I think that by posting pictures of our lives, we are opening the door to our privacy and allowing other people in and in turn, our lives become centered on the opinions of other people. We become obsessed with impressing others that we forget about ourselves and what it is that we truly want.

By doing so, we are unconsciously missing out on people that may be good for us. People with big hearts who are loyal and want to find true love. We could be missing on them because we are not letting down our guard, we are not allowing anyone to come close enough to us where they can hurt us. We are pushing people away by being emotionally distant because society has taught us that it is the only way to survive and not having your heart broken repeatedly.

The truth is when you start dating someone, all the process of getting to know each other should be intimate and private (not in a sexual way). You should base your opinion of a certain person only by your own perception and judgment and not according to what other people tell you about them.

Because the truth is, we are not perfect. Every person has a past and has made mistakes along the way. We’ve all experienced pain and heartbreak, but we have different ways of dealing with it and protecting ourselves. We are different people and we want different things in life, and that’s why you should never look for approval from others. Do what your heart tells you to do.

And when it comes to dating, the best way is to date in silence. Don’t tell anyone until you get to know the other person well so that you will not make the mistake of letting other people’s opinions mislead you. Trust your own judgment. Even if you are wrong, at least you will know that you have tried your best and you’ll save yourself from regrets.

Date silently because the people outside are envious, judgmental, and cold enough to put out any fire that is burning around you two.

A real relationship is between two people. Period. It shouldn’t be between you, your partner, your friends, their friends, your family, their family, your ex, their ex, or Susan and Paul from Instagram.

So, give yourself time and space to choose wisely. And always, always follow your heart. Because when you date silently, the love between you is loud and clear. And when you date out loud, the love will soon be silenced.

The Unbearable Pain Of Trying To Forget Someone You Never Even Had

I Am Not Looking For ‘Almost’; I Am Looking For Forever

Last night, it happened again. I couldn’t fall asleep because I was thinking of you. I don’t even know why you are still on my mind. I promised myself that we are over and that I will move on, but somehow, I can’t. I’ve spent so much time looking down at my phone, hoping to see your name on my screen. I was missing you so much that I didn’t realize that I was losing myself in the process and letting myself down.

When I first met you, you were the light in my life. I had so much faith in us and our future together. I never thought we would ever grow distant. But we did. And it was brutal. It was one of the most painful breakups I have ever had even though we were never officially together.

And do you know how difficult it is for me to explain this to someone? How can I tell someone that I am grieving over someone I never even had? I spent many months with you, and when you were not with me, you were in my mind. We were texting and talking constantly. I shared everything with you. But, slowly, it all started to fade away until we stopped seeing each other entirely.

And what pains me the most is the fact that we could have been great together. We could have built something lasting. I believed in us. I believed in you. I fought for us and our connection, but I stopped when I realized that I was fighting alone.

The hurt from losing you is not any less just because we were not in a relationship. I loved you. I was physically, emotionally, and mentally invested in you. I enjoyed spending time with you that I ignored everything you said when you told me you didn’t want a relationship. And perhaps that’s where I made a mistake. Perhaps my hope that one day we will be together screwed me up.

How could I be so dumb? I am here, writing about you, thinking of you, losing sleep at night because of you while you are probably out there, dating and sleeping with someone else. You are with another girl while I am here still hurting while trying to get you out of my head and my heart.

I was looking for forever. I was looking for love and commitment and you involved me in a friend with benefits situation. I knew I didn’t deserve it but still, it was hard to let you go.

Now, a few months passed since we last kissed and held hands. I still talk to you from time to time, just so we make sure we are okay, and I see you around in town sometimes. We hug, we greet, we ask each other cliché questions. Our connection is lost and we both know that. And we are not trying to rekindle the fire that once burnt between us.

I wish you well, of course. But now I know what I want and what I deserve. And I am sorry that I couldn’t get it with you.

Take All The Time You Need To Heal Your Heart And Feel Like Yourself Again

We, human beings, are not made of stone. We have feelings and oftentimes our feelings get hurt. We all have experienced incredible sadness and we still crumble down and drown in sorrow. But, it’s during those times that we learn how to embrace our emotions.

Be angry. Be sad. Cry. Let your emotions out. They are there to remind you how you shouldn’t be feeling. Your emotions are there to humble you and break your heart so that it can open for new experiences and better things.

I also went through an emotional rollercoaster. The person who I thought loved me broke my heart. I was devastated. I never thought I could move on with my life. I realized that they never cared about me and what they could get from me. I was only a temporary convenience and they never planned on loving me the way I deserve to be loved.

And I think that this realization was what hurt me the most – when I found that I was not what they wanted. And that is okay. Now, I understand that I can’t be good and wanted by everyone I love. I can’t force someone into loving me. I can only control myself and my feelings.

During moments of deep pain and sadness, it is essential to do small things that make you happy. Go out with your friends. Buy yourself something. Book tickets for your next trip. Anything that will make you happy. Moreover, surround yourself with positive people who will make you forget all the pain that is in your heart. People who will make you smile again and show you that life is beautiful. Hold on to those people.

And never, never feel guilty for taking the time you need to heal and make yourself feel okay again. Everyone has a different pace in life and everyone’s healing is different. The only thing that you should remember is to be patient and know that good things come to those who wait.

Stop Chasing Him. You Are Hurting Yourself.

Stop chasing him and giving him power. If you are not happy and satisfied with the minimal amount of affection he is giving you, then walk away from him. Don’t let him get away with it and think it is okay to not put an effort and hurt your feelings.

Don’t do it. Don’t let him do as he pleases. Don’t let him get away with things like that. Because, if you are sticking with him you are telling him that it is okay to mistreat you.

Stop chasing him because that makes him lazy. When you chase him, he wouldn’t bother anymore to send you messages and plan dates with you. He won’t chase you back because you will do all the heavy lifting for him. Stop doing it. Stop making it so easy for him.

And the more you continue chasing him, the more you’ll resent him. You might think now that you are happy just by having him in your life, but this phase will come to an end and you’ll hate him for every ignored text or call. You’ll resent him for every date he cancels and for having the nerve to screw you over and over, especially after everything you’ve done for him.

One day you will get tired of everything. You will become exhausted to be the only one fighting for the relationship. One day, you will realize that it is not fair and that by staying in the unhealthy relationship for that long you have broken your own heart when you should have left.

Because chasing him will do just that – it will break your heart. Your self-esteem will go lower and lower. You’ll wonder constantly why you are the only one putting effort and doing everything while he can’t even remember your birthday.

By chasing him, you are subtly telling him that he can reject or ghost you and come back as if nothing happened. He can ignore you for a month and then call you and everything will be fine because he knows you will forgive him and take him back with open arms.

He knows he has you right where he wants you. He knows you are not going anywhere while you are constantly worrying whether he will leave you for someone else.

Stop doing it! Stop torturing yourself and calling it love.

Don’t be the only one who tries. Leave this toxic relationship behind and find someone who will love you and put an effort into the relationship as much as you do. Because real and healthy love is all about mutual trust, respect, compromise, and willingness to work together as a team.

I Didn’t Love You, I Just Loved The Idea Of You And That’s Where I Got Hurt

I loved you. I loved you with passion and ferocity. I loved you with such a depth that I got myself to a point when I couldn’t imagine my life without you. It’s like I was not only in love with you, I was infatuated by you. I was obsessed and in love with every part of your body, your smile, your eyes, your touch… everything.

And I was not only in love with you, but I was also in love with the way you were making me feel. I didn’t only love your hands and your touch, but I also loved the way my skin warmed and melted under them. It wasn’t just your laugh, but the goosebumps I got every time I saw your smile.

And sometimes I even think that I didn’t even really love you but I loved the idea of you and how you made me feel. Yes, love can be selfish like that. We love for us, never for the other person.

That’s why when you left, I felt as if the most valuable part of me was being ripped off.

And your leaving was not silent. You slammed the door on your way out. I felt like a failure and I thought that I was destined to live a lonely life full of sorrow and emptiness because I was attached to all the wonderful things that you represented to me. And when you left, it’s like you took away all the beauty with you and suddenly my life has become a barren desert.  

But now I understand. I wasn’t in love with you, I was in love with the idea of you. Yes, you hurt me when you took away the fantasy, but I will be okay.

There is still love in my heart that is waiting to be shared with someone who will be right for me.

Why God Lets You Fall In Love With A Person And Then Takes Them Away

Why God Lets You Fall In Love With A Person And Then Takes Them Away

People often say to me that when you love someone, you can’t explain why you love them. It is a feeling that goes beyond all reasoning and planning. We rarely plan to fall in love. We just do. When we meet someone special, someone with whom we ‘click’ there is an instant connection and bonding that is happening between our souls.

Sometimes I feel that these soul-connections are given to us by God. I feel that God makes us meet certain people and allows them to become a vital part of our lives and change us to the core. These people are the ones who are destined to teach us the most valuable lessons about ourselves and the world.

When I look back, every person that has come into my life has come for a reason – to teach me something and shape me into the person I am today. And the interesting part is, these people were not meant to stay, they were only there to fulfill their mission and then leave.

Most of the time, it’s the stage of our lives we are in that determines the type of people that will connect with us. Because God always sends the right people at the right time and provides us with the answers we were looking for. He wants us to grow and become the best versions of ourselves and that’s why He sometimes brings challenging people that are meant to shake us to our core and inspire us to change.

The trouble is, when we fall in love with these people and our bond, we forget that they are only temporary and we don’t want to let go. So, we desperately try to make them our forever people even though they have fulfilled their mission and need to leave us. We just can’t understand why God would bring someone amazing into our lives and then take that person away.

And perhaps that’s the point. Maybe God is teaching us how to let go. Because after all, nothing is eternal. And in order for us to learn how to detach and accept that a certain story is over, we have to practice the art of letting go gracefully.

But most importantly, God is teaching us to have faith that one day we will meet someone who will be our forever.

I Don’t Give A Damn About Other People Anymore. I Am Focusing On Me

I Am Focusing On Me

I am slowly realizing that I stopped thinking twice about people who don’t give a damn about me. I am not putting in any effort for someone who doesn’t deserve me. Period.

Before, I was doing the opposite. I was giving my time and energy to all the wrong people. I was doing everything for someone who couldn’t bother to even ask me about my day. I was there for people who when I needed them, they turned me down and walked away.

Now I know better. I will no longer waste my love on unhealthy relationships with people who don’t love me back. I will no longer hope that they will change their mind and fall in love with me after they see how wonderful I am. I am done with that. Those toxic relationships nearly killed me. Every time the person on the other end of the relationship will use my good nature and then toss me like a used mop after they get bored or find a new victim.

I am done. I will never make someone a priority in my life when it is clear that I am not a priority in theirs. The truth is, I am exhausted from always giving all of me to someone who took me for granted and leaving myself feeling empty and drained. I realize that I don’t want to live a life like that and therefore I am changing my old ways.

I Don’t Give A Damn About Other People Anymore. I Am Focusing On Me

I will be the real me without caring whether someone likes me or not. I will not follow any dumb rule made up by someone who wanted things to be easier for them. It is not easier for me, so I am not doing it. From this moment on, I will do things my way.

I will no longer conceal my feelings because they are not something I should be ashamed of. I will express them when I feel like it. I won’t hide my soft heart under a hard and cold exterior just because someone thinks that’s the way to not get your heart broken.

Well, if I get hurt, okay. I will get over it. What I won’t get over, however, is not living my life the way my heart tells me to just because I am scared what other people will think of me.

I will cry when I am sad and smile when I am happy. I won’t pretend I am okay when I am not. I don’t give a f*ck anymore.

I stopped giving a damn about things over which I don’t have control. If someone doesn’t care about me, why should I care about them? I am cutting off anyone who doesn’t make me happy or doesn’t bring meaning into my life.

Because, the thing is, I worked hard for everything that I am and everything I have. I am working hard every day to become the best version of myself. I have goals. I have dreams. I know where I want to be. I am not a lost and naïve soul one can decide to screw over and walk away.

I realize now that I am surrounded by manipulators and emotional abusers who lack the emotional capacity to care about anyone, including themselves. They are there to hurt people and I won’t let them hurt me anymore. I will stay away from their toxicity and not let them anywhere near me. I am done with their toxic bullshit.

I am also done pretending I am okay when I am not. If someone makes me feel like shit, I won’t stay silent. I will speak up and put them in their place.

And I won’t forgive them. I am done giving second chances to people who keep on disappointing me. Some people don’t deserve second chances. Some people don’t deserve forgiveness. They deserve to stay in the past where they belong.

And I am okay with that. I finally realized I don’t give a f*ck anymore. I care about myself now and my own growth and healing.  

If You Love Someone, Say It. Life’s Too Short

Have you ever loved someone and you didn’t know what you should do about it?

Perhaps it was a friend, someone with whom you were romantically involved, or someone completely new in your life and you didn’t know how to express your love to them.

Yes, we all struggle with showing our emotions and be vulnerable. We all fear loving someone and expressing our love to them and realizing that that love is not being reciprocated. It is a fear we all have, the fear of rejection.

I think, first of all, we should all ask ourselves whether we really love the person we have in mind. If we do, then we should give it a chance and say how we feel.

Life’s too short. And regret is worse than rejection. After 10 or 20 years you will regret the chances you didn’t take and the words you didn’t say to people who mattered to you.

Therefore, if someone holds a special place in your heart, make sure they know. If you are afraid of losing someone, that means something. Follow your intuition and your heart, always.  

Fight for what you love. It’s the only war worth fighting for. And you deserve to be happy.

Women Who Don’t Love Themselves Tend To Have Trust Issues

Women who don’t love themselves have trouble trusting someone because they cannot see why anyone would want to be with them and what they see in them.

When they discover that someone has a crush on them, they immediately think that they have hidden motives. They think they are leading them on, that they are playing them. They think the person who is interested in them is lying to them only to hook up with them and then leave.

They question everyone’s good intentions because it is so difficult for them to open up and trust that someone will love them because they don’t even love themselves.

Even when they are in a serious relationship, they are not calm. They easily get anxious when their partner goes out with friends and comes home late or forgets to return their call. They also feel insecure and not good enough almost every time a good-looking woman passes by. They worry because they think their partner will leave them for someone better.

And it does not matter how good the person is and how much they promise they are never going to hurt them – these women are still going to look out for red flags and signs of lying and betrayal. They can literally be their own worst enemy.

Women who don’t love themselves don’t trust other people as well because they cannot see the beauty and the goodness that lies within them. They only see their flaws and mistakes. They think they are unlovable and therefore when someone shows they love them; they are not sure what to do. Their first instinct is to escape because they think they are going to end up hurt and betrayed.

That’s why it can take some time before they start opening their heart and trusting again. They must first learn how to love themselves and accept them as they are. They must learn their value and trust that they deserve love and good things. And they deserve someone who will be patient with them and will stay with them on their path towards self-love.

Do Taller Men Make Women Happier?

Have you ever wondered why women prefer taller men? Of course, the main reason is that they can wear high heels anytime and anywhere, but one study suggested that women who were in a relationship with taller men were actually happier.

Is it true? Can a taller man make a woman happier?

One study from 2017 that included 7850 Indonesian participants said yes – the greater the height difference between the man and the woman is, the happier the woman will be. Of course, income has something to do with it because as it was found, taller people tend to have greater earning potential because they appear to be more confident, trustworthy and capable (3, 5).

Taller men are also seen as more attractive and they are generally more satisfied with their life (4, 6). Also, it is possible that women are genetically predisposed to like taller men because bigger men were better at hunting in ancient times and they want to feel ‘protected’ and ‘safe’ in their arms.

However, on the other hand, every person is different and there isn’t proof that shorter men cannot make women just as happy as taller men, especially if they are also attractive, happy, and successful.

Moreover, one 2010 study found that women don’t feel more valued or attractive when they are approached by a taller man as opposed to a shorter man.

After all, just look at the famous Hollywood couples like Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban, Chrissy Teigen and John Legend, Helen Lasichanh and Pharrell Williams, Behati Prinsloo and Adam Levine, and so on. These ladies seem to be very happy together with their shorter partners.

Finally, you shouldn’t let height determine the future of your relationships. Just go towards those who make you happy.

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I Am Strong But I Still Need Someone To Hold My Hand

I am a strong person but I still need love. I need to have someone who will be there for me. Someone who will take my hand and tell me that everything is going to be okay. Someone who will take away all my fears and worries.

I am a strong and independent person, but sometimes I need a loyal person who will hug me and show me the meaning of true love. Someone who will feel like home to me. 

You’re Not A Real Man If You’re Stringing Her Along And Wasting Her Time

If you are not ready to make her your priority, leave her alone. Don’t waste her time. Don’t make her an option. Don’t chase her and try to manipulate her by making her feel like what you two have is real. Don’t play mind games. Don’t use her so that you can feel better about yourself after breaking up with your ex. She doesn’t deserve to be a rebound; not to you, not to anyone.

If you are not ready to be in a committed relationship, don’t string her along. Don’t try to know her better. Don’t make her feel close to you. Don’t open up to her and have her open up to you as well if you are not ready to respect her and her feelings. If you are not ready to love her, don’t make her fall in love with you. It is cruel.

If she is not your first choice, don’t try to get her back when she distances from you. Don’t try to fool her with your fake words and promises to keep her in your life. That’s selfish. Don’t kiss her and hold her hand if you are not planning to love her the real way.

If you are not ready to be with her, just leave. Walk away from her and let her find her happiness elsewhere. Don’t act jealous when you see her with someone else. Don’t try to get her back only to treat her like an option again.

 First Choice

If you are not willing to make her yours, stop wasting her time. Don’t half-love her. Don’t lie to her. Just leave because she doesn’t need half-you. She needs a mature and whole person beside her. Someone she can count on. Someone she can love and who will love her more than anything.

Leave her alone if you are not ready to be with her because she will leave you when she realizes that you are stringing her along. She will leave you when she realized that your presence feels the same as your absence and that she is better off alone.

This woman is the kind of woman who is looking for real love and commitment. She believes in being faithful and committed to one person. She is someone who loves hard and deep. She wants all or nothing.

Therefore, if you are having second thoughts about her, always choose to leave her. She will be grateful for that.

I Am A Strong Woman And Here’s Why It Is So Damn Hard For Me To Find Love

Very often, people falsely thing that strong women don’t want to fall in love and get married to the man of their life. And while it’s true that the majority of these ladies are very independent and happy on their own, that doesn’t mean they are not looking for love.

I think of myself as a strong woman, independent and in touch with her feelings. I have been in a few relationships that were emotionally fulfilling but they all ended suddenly and abruptly, and it was after I decided to get back in touch with myself after a period of losing myself in the relationship.

I don’t know why I get stuck in these patterns, but I believe it all happens because deep down I am conflicted. One part of me wants to find love, while the other part of me doesn’t want to compromise my beliefs, values, and freedom.

Of course, I can’t say that this is true for other strong and independent ladies out there, but my experiences have been depressing. Whenever I meet someone I like, I get overly excited and enthusiastic about the relationship, especially if he gained my respect for his ambition, humility, and his caring but bold nature.

But I always tend to think they are better than they are and that’s my fatal mistake. I always imagine people to be better than they are, and I get disappointed when I see their true colors.

Yes, I understand that we are all imperfect human beings and we should not look for perfection because no one can be, but if someone is not ready to meet me halfway and be an equal partner to me, then why are they pretending to be?

I know that committing to someone and falling in love can be scary, but it is more terrifying for us, strong women, who have their lives together to waste their time and energy on someone who is not ready to be serious.

We are grown-ass women! We are past the point of casual dating. We are looking for the real thing.

I, myself, don’t have the time to get in a relationship with someone who is not ready to live up to his potential and doesn’t want the same things as I do. I want the real deal. I want someone as strong and ambitious as me. I want someone who won’t be scared of their feelings for me. I want someone who will match my intensity and respect my goals. I want someone who will stand beside me and match me on all levels.

Because, what I am fearing is not that I’ll end up alone, but that I’ll end up with the wrong person.

8 Things You Should Remember Whenever You Feel Broken Inside

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Life is a series of ups and downs. And when you’ve been down for so long and you are slowly falling into the dark abyss of despair, sadness, and hopelessness, please remember this:

1. Remember that your cracks will allow light to come in.

If your heart doesn’t break from time to time, then there wouldn’t be a place for the light to enter your life. Sometimes, all it takes is a painful, heart-crushing experience to remind up that we are alive. You must get broken first to be able to see and appreciate all the goodness in the world and transform yourself into a better and stronger human being. It’s not easy, and it wasn’t supposed to be easy. But you will make it and then a new door of opportunities will open for you.

2. Remember to embrace your feelings instead of fighting them.

Instead of fighting your bad emotions, try embracing them. They are what make you human. Crying, screaming, falling down to your knees in despair are all strong emotions and it is better to let them out instead of bottling them because eventually, someday they will backfire on you. Feel everything. Feel your emotions. Don’t run from them. Emotions are a vital part of the healing process and life in general.

3. Remember your “WHY”.

Whenever you feel insufficient, broken, let down, exhausted… keep remembering yourself and your purpose in life. Remind yourself about your goals and dreams. Always keep your “why” in mind and remember, every negative situation will only provide you with new perspectives and opportunities. Negative experiences are also valuable experiences, sometimes more valuable than positive ones if you are willing to learn from them.

4. Remember that your friends and family are there for you.

When you feel down and broken inside, please remember that you can always count on your family and friends for support. They will comfort you when you need them and help you find your strength again.  

5. Remember that you are not your feelings.

Remember that you don’t own your feelings and your feelings don’t own you. They don’t define you. They are only temporary, and they will pass. Happiness, sadness, excitement, pain… it all passes eventually. You are so much more than your feelings, remember that.

6. Remember the things that exist beyond your brokenness.

Just because you are in pain, it doesn’t mean that all the good things in the world ceased to exist. Remember that no matter how much darkness you are experiencing now, there is always light at the end of the tunnel. Many beautiful and good things are waiting for you around the corner. Just be patient.

7. Remember the things that make you happy and focus on them.

Often, when you feel broken inside, you focus your attention only on the things that bring you pain and despair and you forget to remember all the things that make you happy. You forget the beauty of going for a walk, chatting with your friends, enjoying your cup of coffee, riding your bike, reading a book… anything that makes your soul sing with joy. Try to heal your heart by enjoying the littlest things in life.

8. Remember that pain is temporary.

Everything passes. Everything is temporary. Pain as well. Therefore, don’t take it too seriously. Try to see your pain as heroic. See it as something that has taught you many life lessons and shaped you in the person you are today.

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