I am a strong person but I still need love. I need to have someone who will be there for me. Someone who will take my hand and tell me that everything is going to be okay. Someone who will take away all my fears and worries.
I am a strong and independent person, but sometimes I need a loyal person who will hug me and show me the meaning of true love. Someone who will feel like home to me.
1. Good morning beautiful.
2. You look so lovely when you are sleeping.
3. I love waking up next to you.
4. I hope your day is as beautiful as you.
5. I had a wonderful time with you last night.
6. You’ll be on my thoughts today.
7. Knowing that you are mine makes me so calm and peaceful.
8. I love lying in bed next to you.
9. I can’t wait to see you.
10. I wish we could stay in bed all day and be lazy.
11. Kick ass at work today.
12. You are always, always on my mind.
13. I love hearing your sleepy voice in the morning.
14. I enjoy having my pillows smell like you.
15. When will I see you again?
16. Your presence feels so good.
17. I just love watching you sleep.
18. I hope you slept well.
19. I can’t wait to see you.
20. I am missing your snuggles.
21. Is it normal that I just woke up and I miss you already?
22. Good morning gorgeous.
23. Have a great day, sunshine.
24. I love being with you.
25. I am so happy with you.
26. You are the most beautiful after you wake up.
27. You are the most beautiful woman I know.
28. Everything is better with you by my side.
19. Every morning is a good one when you are next to me.
30. I will love you.
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Don’t be flattered by that person who likes all of your selfies on Instagram.
Be flattered by that person who likes you for you: with your messy hair and no makeup, with your unshaved beard and beer breath.
Don’t be flattered by the person who sends you heart emojis and memes, or sends you a good night text. That takes a second.
Be flattered by the person who is willing to change his relationship status for you and hold your hand in public. No doubts or hesitations.
True, genuine love is not rendered by our phones and the texts we send with them. It is not rendered by virtual connections, on the contrary, it is rendered by two people going on dates, communicating, and finding their mutual hobbies and adventures.
So, don’t be flattered if someone is acting all perfect on social media, but haven’t introduced you to their friends or family yet.
Be flattered when you get to meet the inner circle of a person thanks to their own initiative.
Be flattered when they welcome you in their world and shout out from the rooftop you are together.
Modern-day dating is often about physical beauty and who gets to text first. It’s also about appearances.
What was that thing about appearances? Oh, they are deceiving.
Virtual relationships are an inevitable stage of modernity. I get that. But after the likes, the comments, and the perfect selfies, you need something more. That something “more” is what will make the difference between a fling and a relationship.
Show genuine interest in that person you want to be with, invest both in spending time, and creating memories with them.
Don’t be flattered by someone who gives you presents and plans special dinners for your birthday or for Valentine’s day only.
Be flattered if that special someone wants to spend every night with you and gives you presents on a random day.
Sometimes, what you see is what you get. So, if that special someone is not willing to go the extra mile, take things at face value. If they want to form a life with you and grow old, you’ll notice how they are more present in your life than on social media.
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Romance should exist in a relationship and this goes to both men and women. We all need to light up the romance from time to time and make date nights appear a lot more often on our schedules.
Coming up with ideas of how to rekindle the passion in a relationship can be hard, especially for men, so here’s a list of things you should do occasionally for women whose standards you are going to come up to and who are going to secure you a place in their hearts.
1. HOME COOKED MEAL FOR TWO
Every once in a blue moon, try cooking for her, and I don’t mean fake cooking, like ordering from a restaurant and then throwing the boxes out, so she won’t notice. Include a dessert and, of course, – her favorite wine. This won’t cost much, but she’ll be thrilled.
2. DO THE HOUSE CHORES
She must be tired of cleaning around the house, plus cooking, plus going to work every day. So, wash the dishes, throw out the garbage, or organize the closet. You can even try ironing the clothes; if you don’t do them right, she’ll find it funny and sweet because you actually tried. Now, don’t do this while she is in her PMS because then she may not handle it well – but the rest of the days you can give it a go.
3. ROMANTIC WEEKEND
Going somewhere for the weekend from time to time is really important. You can go on a picnic somewhere in nature or get out of town. Hot springs and spas are a really good idea too. It’s the process of planning you did that will make her excited and in love with you now more than ever, so the trip doesn’t have to be somewhere exclusive. It’s your effort that matters.
Complimenting her on her looks will only come as a bonus for you, especially if you are not ashamed to do it publicly. It would be a wonderful reassurance about how much you love her and how proud you are of her. Another plus is the benefit you can get in bed; her sex drive is likely to be higher if you compliment her on her dress, her perfume, or how well the lipstick accentuates her lips.
5. FLOWERS AND LOVE NOTES
Surprise her by sending her flowers at work accompanied by some love note. You’re not a poet, we get it, but something like good morning, love or have a great day can do wonders.
6. GEMS AND JEWELS
Women love jewelry, so that’s a start, but it’s certainly not the only option you have. Even something simpler and less costly can be a wonderful gesture. A scarf, or that book she said she wanted to buy, or some coffee mug can do the magic. No doubts.
This one speaks for itself, so yeah. Don’t be lazy and give her a massage after she comes home from work.
8. BUILD SOMETHING FOR HER
We all know you, men, are dexterous, and you know how to use all those tools, pliers and wrenches, so making a small library for her books or a new jewelry box would make her jaw drop.
Yes, dancing, and don’t you dare skip this one. If she thought your dancing is terrible, well go and prove her wrong. Practice your moves and then dance with her from time to time. Some nice, smooth blues or whatever. Very important.
10. MAKE A LIST
Make a list of all the things you like about her or a list of all the things you want to do with her.
11. WATCH A SHOW WITH HER
Even if the show is great and you can’t wait to watch the next episode, sustain yourself. You can also add: Honey, I’ve been waiting for you to watch the show together, in case she thinks the show is not a big deal for you. Well, you go and tell her that you want to watch it, but you’d much rather watch it with her.
So, men, if women didn’t ask you to do any of these things, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do them.
Come on, level up – it’s not as hard as it seems. Also, if women see this kind of effort you make, they are going to reciprocate as well!
I am slowly realizing that I stopped thinking twice about people who don’t give a damn about me. I am not putting in any effort for someone who doesn’t deserve me. Period.
Before, I was doing the opposite. I was giving my time and energy to all the wrong people. I was doing everything for someone who couldn’t bother to even ask me about my day. I was there for people who when I needed them, they turned me down and walked away.
Now I know better. I will no longer waste my love on unhealthy relationships with people who don’t love me back. I will no longer hope that they will change their mind and fall in love with me after they see how wonderful I am. I am done with that. Those toxic relationships nearly killed me. Every time the person on the other end of the relationship will use my good nature and then toss me like a used mop after they get bored or find a new victim.
I am done. I will never make someone a priority in my life when it is clear that I am not a priority in theirs. The truth is, I am exhausted from always giving all of me to someone who took me for granted and leaving myself feeling empty and drained. I realize that I don’t want to live a life like that and therefore I am changing my old ways.
I will be the real me without caring whether someone likes me or not. I will not follow any dumb rule made up by someone who wanted things to be easier for them. It is not easier for me, so I am not doing it. From this moment on, I will do things my way.
I will no longer conceal my feelings because they are not something I should be ashamed of. I will express them when I feel like it. I won’t hide my soft heart under a hard and cold exterior just because someone thinks that’s the way to not get your heart broken.
Well, if I get hurt, okay. I will get over it. What I won’t get over, however, is not living my life the way my heart tells me to just because I am scared what other people will think of me.
I will cry when I am sad and smile when I am happy. I won’t pretend I am okay when I am not. I don’t give a f*ck anymore.
I stopped giving a damn about things over which I don’t have control. If someone doesn’t care about me, why should I care about them? I am cutting off anyone who doesn’t make me happy or doesn’t bring meaning into my life.
Because, the thing is, I worked hard for everything that I am and everything I have. I am working hard every day to become the best version of myself. I have goals. I have dreams. I know where I want to be. I am not a lost and naïve soul one can decide to screw over and walk away.
I realize now that I am surrounded by manipulators and emotional abusers who lack the emotional capacity to care about anyone, including themselves. They are there to hurt people and I won’t let them hurt me anymore. I will stay away from their toxicity and not let them anywhere near me. I am done with their toxic bullshit.
I am also done pretending I am okay when I am not. If someone makes me feel like shit, I won’t stay silent. I will speak up and put them in their place.
And I won’t forgive them. I am done giving second chances to people who keep on disappointing me. Some people don’t deserve second chances. Some people don’t deserve forgiveness. They deserve to stay in the past where they belong.
And I am okay with that. I finally realized I don’t give a f*ck anymore. I care about myself now and my own growth and healing.
Going on a first date can be a nerve-wracking experience, especially if you’re not sure what the first words out of your mouth are going to be. Unfortunately, the longer you think about what you’re going to do next, the more awkward the situation can become. On the other hand, not saying much at all isn’t a good move, either.
Sometimes, it isn’t what you say or do, it’s how you approach the date in terms of appearance and demeanor that matter the most when it comes to positioning yourself to break the ice. If you can set the tone and create a positive initial impression through visual and social cues, then you don’t have to come up with the coolest or funniest things in the world to say, as you can lean on the preconceived image that you’re already projecting. With that said, here are five effective tips you can use to break the ice more easily on any first date:
1. Wear the Right Footwear and Clothing
While you might be hoping to find someone who “loves you for you” and doesn’t care how you dress, the real world usually doesn’t work like that on a first date. In fact, numerous dating and social surveys have revealed that people base their initial opinions and perceptions of others primarily on their outer appearance, which is mostly influenced by the shoes and clothing you’re wearing and how well-groomed you are. Of course, you’ll probably get a warmer welcome if you’re wearing a brand new pair of Givenchy sneakers than if you were to show up sporting decrepit ice fishing boots from your storage shed – after all, we’re not literally trying to break ice (frozen H2O). Why not check out SSENSE and see what designer pieces catch your eye?
2. Use Fragrances in Your Favor
Science has proven that pheromones and other natural scents are cues that the body uses to attract mates. While you don’t want to go back to the caveman times and utilize your body’s natural stench, you can still leverage the same concept by choosing an appealing cologne or perfume. There have also been social experiments done where people who had neutral or offensive odors were treated worse than people who had an attractive scent. However, be careful not to overdo this tip, as excessive fragrances could nauseate or annoy your date.
3. Don’t Talk Too Much
Your goal is to break the ice a bit, not completely melt it into a boiling lake of awkwardness. Don’t put yourself in the hot seat on purpose with long drawn out lectures. Try to think of breaking the ice like ice fishing: you put a line out there and wait a bit to see how the fish respond – you don’t just keep throwing lines out all willy-nilly. To bring the analogy even further, one properly placed line is all it really takes to put your catch on the hook. In more basic terms, the more you talk, the more likely it is that you’ll say accidentally something stupid or offensive, so try to keep your opening lines and responses short and sweet.
4. Choose the Right Setting
No, we’re not talking about your smartphone settings here. Instead, we’re talking about the environment in which the first date takes place. Naturally, it’s harder to break the ice in some places than it is in others. To build upon the previous analogy, you don’t want your date to take place in a frigid area where breaking the ice will feel like chipping away at Antarctica with an ice pick. Instead, you want to choose a warm and welcoming temperate zone that will ignite a heat wave which softens the ice just enough for you to gently break through it. In general, “warm” places are secluded, serene, peaceful, or entertaining, whereas “cold” places are crowded, hectic, noisy, or boring.
5. Be the First to Open Up or Ask a Question
You don’t want a horde of crickets standing in your way when you’re trying to break open the ice with a shovel. In case you’re socially clueless, “crickets” is the term used to describe that horrible void of silence that happens when neither person can think of something to say or muster up the courage to say it. Thus, the first step to breaking the ice properly should always be to clear the crickets out of the way. Of course, in the real word, you’d probably never encounter a horde of crickets swarming atop an ice sheet, but hey, you get the point – somebody’s got to be the big enough person to open up or start the discourse. You should never feel hesitant during this step because, in all actuality, your date expects you to say something, so don’t let them down.
Be Ready to Answer Questions, But Not Over-Eager
Eventually, after a few dates you can cut loose and not really give too much thought to how you’re answering questions, but for the first date it’s always best to look at it like a job interview – try to sound good without disqualifying yourself. When it comes to answering questions, sometimes less is more. You don’t want to be that person who tells their entire life story when someone asks them what kind of restaurant they want to eat at.
Very often, people falsely thing that strong women don’t want to fall in love and get married to the man of their life. And while it’s true that the majority of these ladies are very independent and happy on their own, that doesn’t mean they are not looking for love.
I think of myself as a strong woman, independent and in touch with her feelings. I have been in a few relationships that were emotionally fulfilling but they all ended suddenly and abruptly, and it was after I decided to get back in touch with myself after a period of losing myself in the relationship.
I don’t know why I get stuck in these patterns, but I believe it all happens because deep down I am conflicted. One part of me wants to find love, while the other part of me doesn’t want to compromise my beliefs, values, and freedom.
Of course, I can’t say that this is true for other strong and independent ladies out there, but my experiences have been depressing. Whenever I meet someone I like, I get overly excited and enthusiastic about the relationship, especially if he gained my respect for his ambition, humility, and his caring but bold nature.
But I always tend to think they are better than they are and that’s my fatal mistake. I always imagine people to be better than they are, and I get disappointed when I see their true colors.
Yes, I understand that we are all imperfect human beings and we should not look for perfection because no one can be, but if someone is not ready to meet me halfway and be an equal partner to me, then why are they pretending to be?
I know that committing to someone and falling in love can be scary, but it is more terrifying for us, strong women, who have their lives together to waste their time and energy on someone who is not ready to be serious.
We are grown-ass women! We are past the point of casual dating. We are looking for the real thing.
I, myself, don’t have the time to get in a relationship with someone who is not ready to live up to his potential and doesn’t want the same things as I do. I want the real deal. I want someone as strong and ambitious as me. I want someone who won’t be scared of their feelings for me. I want someone who will match my intensity and respect my goals. I want someone who will stand beside me and match me on all levels.
Because, what I am fearing is not that I’ll end up alone, but that I’ll end up with the wrong person.
Life is a series of ups and downs. And when you’ve been down for so long and you are slowly falling into the dark abyss of despair, sadness, and hopelessness, please remember this:
1. Remember that your cracks will allow light to come in.
If your heart doesn’t break from time to time, then there wouldn’t be a place for the light to enter your life. Sometimes, all it takes is a painful, heart-crushing experience to remind up that we are alive. You must get broken first to be able to see and appreciate all the goodness in the world and transform yourself into a better and stronger human being. It’s not easy, and it wasn’t supposed to be easy. But you will make it and then a new door of opportunities will open for you.
2. Remember to embrace your feelings instead of fighting them.
Instead of fighting your bad emotions, try embracing them. They are what make you human. Crying, screaming, falling down to your knees in despair are all strong emotions and it is better to let them out instead of bottling them because eventually, someday they will backfire on you. Feel everything. Feel your emotions. Don’t run from them. Emotions are a vital part of the healing process and life in general.
3. Remember your “WHY”.
Whenever you feel insufficient, broken, let down, exhausted… keep remembering yourself and your purpose in life. Remind yourself about your goals and dreams. Always keep your “why” in mind and remember, every negative situation will only provide you with new perspectives and opportunities. Negative experiences are also valuable experiences, sometimes more valuable than positive ones if you are willing to learn from them.
4. Remember that your friends and family are there for you.
When you feel down and broken inside, please remember that you can always count on your family and friends for support. They will comfort you when you need them and help you find your strength again.
5. Remember that you are not your feelings.
Remember that you don’t own your feelings and your feelings don’t own you. They don’t define you. They are only temporary, and they will pass. Happiness, sadness, excitement, pain… it all passes eventually. You are so much more than your feelings, remember that.
6. Remember the things that exist beyond your brokenness.
Just because you are in pain, it doesn’t mean that all the good things in the world ceased to exist. Remember that no matter how much darkness you are experiencing now, there is always light at the end of the tunnel. Many beautiful and good things are waiting for you around the corner. Just be patient.
7. Remember the things that make you happy and focus on them.
Often, when you feel broken inside, you focus your attention only on the things that bring you pain and despair and you forget to remember all the things that make you happy. You forget the beauty of going for a walk, chatting with your friends, enjoying your cup of coffee, riding your bike, reading a book… anything that makes your soul sing with joy. Try to heal your heart by enjoying the littlest things in life.
8. Remember that pain is temporary.
Everything passes. Everything is temporary. Pain as well. Therefore, don’t take it too seriously. Try to see your pain as heroic. See it as something that has taught you many life lessons and shaped you in the person you are today.
The order of the wedding is one that is meticulously planned, to make the day a fulfilled one. But while planning, three essentials must be present — wedding blessings, wedding prayer and wedding readings. These three items each have their importance to the couple, and you have to get it right. While you can borrow already made ones, there’s also space for leaving your touch, by writing your own.
Whichever choice you make, see our lineup of prayers, readings, and wedding blessing ideas below. If you are the hopelessly romantic type, you’ll also find unique wedding poems for your delight. They are either religious, romantic or traditional to suit your preference!
The Wedding Readings
Wedding blessing readings are sweet and heartfelt words that distill your relationship. Readings are sourced from different materials like the holy book, literature, movies, music and more. They can also be written by you if you intend to personalize it. With this, we’ve rounded up examples of wedding readings. Get inspired, whip out the cute diary from your bride’s box, and put something down.
- Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labor:
If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up.
Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?
Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
- By Rumi
May these vows and this marriage be blessed.
May it be like sweet milk,
this marriage, like wine and halvah.
May this marriage offer fruit and shade
like the date palm.
May this marriage be full of laughter,
our every day a day in paradise.
May this marriage be a sign of compassion,
a seal of happiness here and hereafter.
May this marriage have a fair face and good name,
an omen as welcome,
as the moon in a clear blue sky.
I am out of words to describe
how spirit mingles in this marriage.
The Marriage Blessings
Marriage blessings are more-or-less wedding wishes to the couple. The bulk of them is religious and traditional because they are well-grounded for generations. If you’re coming through wedding blessings quotes or texts, see some suggestions here.
- From The Church of England
Blessed are you, O Lord our God,
for you have created joy and gladness,
pleasure and delight, love, peace, and fellowship.
Pour out the abundance of your blessing upon the bride and groom in their new life together.
Let their love for each other be a seal upon their hearts
and a crown upon their heads.
Bless them in their work and in their companionship;
awake and asleep,
in joy and in sorrow,
in life and in death.
Finally, in your mercy, bring them to that banquet
where your saints feast forever in your heavenly home.
We ask this through Jesus Christ your Son, our Lord
who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit,
one God, now and forever. Amen.
- By Dave Willis
May your marriage always bring glory to God, joy to one another and blessings to your family for many generations to come. May love and laughter fill your hearts and your home for all at the days of your lives. May you face every challenge hand-in-hand and side-by-side knowing that with God’s grace, you’ll conquer all obstacles together. May the world be forever a better place because the two of you fell in love. In Jesus’ name, Amen
The Wedding Prayers
Prayer for the wedding ceremony is the blessing of your union. This is very important if you intend to honor your faith and connect it to something spiritual. Wedding prayers are full of positivity and suit any wedding. They aren’t always religious, as you’ll see below.
- By Max Lucado
Would you take these two,
of dust and bone,
Born of flesh, then you,
Would you make them one?
Would you speak again
The words you spoke
When Adam slept
And Eve awoke?
Would you let your wine
Replace our water.
And look with grace
On this son, this daughter?
Oh Lord of Eden
In your majesty
Where there were two.
This is the prayer
We lift to you.
- By Robert Louis Stevenson
Lord, behold our family here assembled.
We thank you for this place in which we dwell,
for the love that unites us,
for the peace accorded us this day,
for the hope with which we expect the morrow,
for the health, the work, the food,
and the bright skies that make our lives delightful;
for our friends in all parts of the earth.
Wedding blessings, prayers, and readings have been given in this post. Borrow or use them as templates for your wedding.
Have you ever loved someone and you didn’t know what you should do about it?
Perhaps it was a friend, someone with whom you were romantically involved, or someone completely new in your life and you didn’t know how to express your love to them.
Yes, we all struggle with showing our emotions and be vulnerable. We all fear loving someone and expressing our love to them and realizing that that love is not being reciprocated. It is a fear we all have, the fear of rejection.
I think, first of all, we should all ask ourselves whether we really love the person we have in mind. If we do, then we should give it a chance and say how we feel.
Life’s too short. And regret is worse than rejection. After 10 or 20 years you will regret the chances you didn’t take and the words you didn’t say to people who mattered to you.
Therefore, if someone holds a special place in your heart, make sure they know. If you are afraid of losing someone, that means something. Follow your intuition and your heart, always.
Fight for what you love. It’s the only war worth fighting for. And you deserve to be happy.
Breakups, one of the most unfortunate sad facts of life, require care for you to get through it. No matter the situation, breakups can prove difficult. Everyone will experience different emotions when they go through a breakup, and they may cycle through sadness, anger or even guilt. You may have built your life with this person and things didn’t pan out the way that you hoped.
Deal with the Pain in Constructive Ways
Some people make the mistake of hurting themselves after a breakup either by turning to drugs or alcohol to cope. We wouldn’t advise this strategy because of how it will have lasting negative consequences in your life. Avoid destructive behavior at all costs. Instead, look for ways to come out better after a breakup.
As Ryan Holiday, American author, and bookstore owner, puts it, “the obstacle is the way.” Don’t improve yourself to get revenge or think about the other person in bitterness. Think of how you can stay mentally strong and emerge tougher than you were going into the relationship. Let it become a step on the journey of life. Most people have experienced a painful breakup at one point or another and emerged from it fine.
Change Your Life Insurance Policy
Common especially for married couples, if you have a life insurance policy that puts the other person on as your beneficiary, you will want to change the policy. You will either want to change who inherits the policy, or you may no longer have a reason to carry the policy. In that case, you can sell it through a viatical settlement. These investors are willing to buy the policy off you for between 20 and 25 percent of its value. That will give you a good chunk of change that you can use to get back on your feet after a devastating breakup. A $100,000 life insurance policy could sell for an estimated $25,000 of its worth. You can review an online guide that explains the viatical settlement process, see who is eligible, and how it may help you going forward.
Give Yourself Time to Cope
Especially for the breakups or divorces where you were with that person for a long time, you will need time to cope with it. It could take months to recover from a breakup, and for those who divorce, it can take years. How long it takes, however, will differ for each person and one person may take longer than the next. Be sure that you are avoiding certain breakup behaviors during this time as there are post-breakup moves that can set you back in your healing process.
Keep Your Mind Busy
Read a book or head to a friend’s house to take your mind off the breakup. You want to keep your mind as busy as possible to keep from destructive emotions. Don’t suppress negative emotions, but don’t ruminate on them either. If they arise, allow yourself to feel them without destructive behavior. It is normal to feel hurt after a breakup. Even when not ready to move on, try to set the tone for a positive new relationship in the future. Heartbreak is a grieving process, and it differs from one person to the next.
A real man always puts his lady first. He always treats her with love and respect. She is the priority in his life.
Here are some quotes about how real men treat their ladies.
“Being a good husband is like being a good stand-up comic: you need ten years before you can even call yourself a beginner.” –Jerry Seinfeld
“You spend time with your family?” Good. Because a man who doesn’t spend time with his family can never be a real man.” –Don Vito Corleone, The Godfather
“A real man won’t date the most beautiful girl in the world – he’ll date the girl that makes his world beautiful.” – Anonymous
“A real man loves his wife, and places his family as the most important thing in life. Nothing has brought me more peace and content in life than simply being a good husband and father.” –Frank Abagnale
“If you want to be a real human being – a real woman, a real man – you cannot tolerate things which put you to indignation, to outrage. You must stand up. I always say to people, ‘Look around; look at what makes you unhappy, what makes you furious, and then engage yourself in some action.’” – Stephane Hessel
“The real man is one who always finds excuses for others, but never excuses himself.” – Henry Ward Beecher
“You can’t be a real man if you don’t look out for your kids. They need you.” – Bill O’Reilly
“Remember those black-and-white films with Frank Sinatra? Those guys looked like men and they were only 27! Listen to Otis Redding singing ‘Try A Little Tenderness.’ That was a man who understood what a man has to know in the world. Show me a real man now! Where are they?” – Chrissie Hynde
“Having two daughters changed my perspective on a lot of things, and I definitely have a newfound respect for women. And I think I finally became a good and real man when I had a daughter.” – Mark Wahlberg
Women who don’t love themselves have trouble trusting someone because they cannot see why anyone would want to be with them and what they see in them.
When they discover that someone has a crush on them, they immediately think that they have hidden motives. They think they are leading them on, that they are playing them. They think the person who is interested in them is lying to them only to hook up with them and then leave.
They question everyone’s good intentions because it is so difficult for them to open up and trust that someone will love them because they don’t even love themselves.
Even when they are in a serious relationship, they are not calm. They easily get anxious when their partner goes out with friends and comes home late or forgets to return their call. They also feel insecure and not good enough almost every time a good-looking woman passes by. They worry because they think their partner will leave them for someone better.
And it does not matter how good the person is and how much they promise they are never going to hurt them – these women are still going to look out for red flags and signs of lying and betrayal. They can literally be their own worst enemy.
Women who don’t love themselves don’t trust other people as well because they cannot see the beauty and the goodness that lies within them. They only see their flaws and mistakes. They think they are unlovable and therefore when someone shows they love them; they are not sure what to do. Their first instinct is to escape because they think they are going to end up hurt and betrayed.
That’s why it can take some time before they start opening their heart and trusting again. They must first learn how to love themselves and accept them as they are. They must learn their value and trust that they deserve love and good things. And they deserve someone who will be patient with them and will stay with them on their path towards self-love.
In an Instagram world, full of bloggers and people living their “perfect” lives that they proudly flaunt by posting pictures and stories every day, we are prone to lose the touch of reality and our ability to distinguish what’s fake and what’s not.
Maybe it’s just me, but I think that by posting pictures of our lives, we are opening the door to our privacy and allowing other people in and in turn, our lives become centered on the opinions of other people. We become obsessed with impressing others that we forget about ourselves and what it is that we truly want.
By doing so, we are unconsciously missing out on people that may be good for us. People with big hearts who are loyal and want to find true love. We could be missing on them because we are not letting down our guard, we are not allowing anyone to come close enough to us where they can hurt us. We are pushing people away by being emotionally distant because society has taught us that it is the only way to survive and not having your heart broken repeatedly.
The truth is when you start dating someone, all the process of getting to know each other should be intimate and private (not in a sexual way). You should base your opinion of a certain person only by your own perception and judgment and not according to what other people tell you about them.
Because the truth is, we are not perfect. Every person has a past and has made mistakes along the way. We’ve all experienced pain and heartbreak, but we have different ways of dealing with it and protecting ourselves. We are different people and we want different things in life, and that’s why you should never look for approval from others. Do what your heart tells you to do.
And when it comes to dating, the best way is to date in silence. Don’t tell anyone until you get to know the other person well so that you will not make the mistake of letting other people’s opinions mislead you. Trust your own judgment. Even if you are wrong, at least you will know that you have tried your best and you’ll save yourself from regrets.
Date silently because the people outside are envious, judgmental, and cold enough to put out any fire that is burning around you two.
A real relationship is between two people. Period. It shouldn’t be between you, your partner, your friends, their friends, your family, their family, your ex, their ex, or Susan and Paul from Instagram.
So, give yourself time and space to choose wisely. And always, always follow your heart. Because when you date silently, the love between you is loud and clear. And when you date out loud, the love will soon be silenced.
After a breakup, there are people who want to win the breakup by finding a new person quickly to fill the void that the ex-partner left.
Yes, I agree that relationships aren’t a game and after breaking up with someone instead of trying to find happiness in another person, you should focus on yourself and find a way to heal yourself while moving on with your life genuinely and gracefully.
Of course, no one wants to go through Facebook pictures of their ex with their new relationship while you are still alone and getting over it.
We all want to feel wanted and desired, especially after a painful breakup. However, the trouble comes when we start measuring our happiness by whether we have a new romantic partner.
Moving on has nothing to do with finding a new person. It is now about getting back on the dating game. And it is not about going into a new relationship, falling in love, and plan your happily ever after. No. It doesn’t work like that.
Moving on is taking back your life. It is investing in yourself and your life. It is following your dreams. Taking care of yourself. It is growing and learning. It is making peace with your past and finding love and peace within yourself.
As for me, after breaking a long-term relationship, followed by a career change, an apartment move, traveling, and a lot of reflection on myself and my life, I realized that during that process, I had forgotten all about him. And I managed to get over him without falling in love with someone else because during my grieving period, I stayed single. I haven’t even gone on dates.
So, for me, moving on had nothing to do with committing to a new person. For me, moving on meant welcoming a new phase of my life when I was in commitment to myself.
Of course, moving on is not the same for all people. Some people move on only by finding someone new. Others build a bustling career and are happy living their independent lives.
No two people are the same, and so, the healing process of moving on is different for everybody.
After all, moving on is simply being happy again without your ex. And never wanting to go back.