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I Am A Strong Woman And Here’s Why It Is So Damn Hard For Me To Find Love

Very often, people falsely thing that strong women don’t want to fall in love and get married to the man of their life. And while it’s true that the majority of these ladies are very independent and happy on their own, that doesn’t mean they are not looking for love.

I think of myself as a strong woman, independent and in touch with her feelings. I have been in a few relationships that were emotionally fulfilling but they all ended suddenly and abruptly, and it was after I decided to get back in touch with myself after a period of losing myself in the relationship.

I don’t know why I get stuck in these patterns, but I believe it all happens because deep down I am conflicted. One part of me wants to find love, while the other part of me doesn’t want to compromise my beliefs, values, and freedom.

Of course, I can’t say that this is true for other strong and independent ladies out there, but my experiences have been depressing. Whenever I meet someone I like, I get overly excited and enthusiastic about the relationship, especially if he gained my respect for his ambition, humility, and his caring but bold nature.

But I always tend to think they are better than they are and that’s my fatal mistake. I always imagine people to be better than they are, and I get disappointed when I see their true colors.

Yes, I understand that we are all imperfect human beings and we should not look for perfection because no one can be, but if someone is not ready to meet me halfway and be an equal partner to me, then why are they pretending to be?

I know that committing to someone and falling in love can be scary, but it is more terrifying for us, strong women, who have their lives together to waste their time and energy on someone who is not ready to be serious.

We are grown-ass women! We are past the point of casual dating. We are looking for the real thing.

I, myself, don’t have the time to get in a relationship with someone who is not ready to live up to his potential and doesn’t want the same things as I do. I want the real deal. I want someone as strong and ambitious as me. I want someone who won’t be scared of their feelings for me. I want someone who will match my intensity and respect my goals. I want someone who will stand beside me and match me on all levels.

Because, what I am fearing is not that I’ll end up alone, but that I’ll end up with the wrong person.

How to Find a Good Marriage Counselor That Will Solve All Your Problems

Marriage counseling can make or break your marriage. You cannot go wrong with a marriage counselor. Learn how to find a good marriage counselor here.

They say happy wife, happy life. They also say that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.

All cliches aside, divorce rates are high, so everyone in a relationship has to put their ideals aside to work together. A happy and successful marriage only happens when you put your heads and hearts together to make it work.

Knowing how to find a good marriage counselor is the first step. Here are all the ways you can get the best marriage counselor possible.

Find Someone That Has Training and Qualifications

Any marriage counselor should have qualifications that are easy to verify.

You can get advice from anyone, but a marriage counselor should be a licensed and trained therapist. Verify first what college degrees they have and where they received them.

Ask them when they passed their medical boards and how long they have had their counseling license. The longer they have been around giving professional counseling to married couples, the better they will be in a place for you to trust them.

Be Sure That They Have the Ability to Be Impartial

No one wants to feel like they are under attack. Since you are going to a counselor to make your relationship better, it has to be a safe place for both of you.

Don’t choose a therapist that choose one side or the other. Also, don’t choose a counselor that doesn’t put the success of the marriage as the top priority.

Some therapists lean toward helping people figure out if they want a divorce as opposed to the success of the marriage. Divorce should always be on the table for a failed marriage, but an impartial therapist can help you work on the strategies that will actually help to save the relationship.

Look Into Some Different Counseling Styles

Just because marriage counselors are in the same line of work doesn’t mean they go about business the same way. There are all sorts of counseling styles that professionals use.

Psychodynamic counseling, existential therapy, humanistic counseling, interpersonal counseling, mindfulness counseling, and cognitive behavioral therapy are just a few of the styles that you might get.

No school of thought is right or wrong. The thing to think about is which style fits your personality and the relationship.

A different counseling style might also work better based on your relationship goals.

Know What You Need to Get Out of Going to the Marriage Counselor

There are always different reasons for going to the counselor. It’s always a good idea to get therapy, even if you don’t have anything currently wrong that you need to work through. This will teach you how to communicate with each other and will also make it easier to understand one another.

If you do have a major problem that you need to work through, you should state the specific goal. People that are dealing with infidelity or parenting differences should specifically state these issues so that they can start working through the problems one by one.

The better you know yourselves upfront, the better you can move forward as a couple through some solid counseling.

Assess Their Personality and Communication Styles

Therapists are also human beings so don’t just put all of your stock in their medical experience. You still need to find someone that is friendly and easy to talk to.

Energetically, they should put you at ease every time you speak with them. Their personality traits should match both what you and your husband or wife respond to. This way, you can start your sessions at neutral, rather than in the negative because your counselor’s personality already rubs you or the other partner the wrong way.

Use a Counselor That You Can Afford

Make sure that affordability is something that you put as a priority.

Going to the counselor is something that you will have to do once a week at a minimum if you want it to be effective. This is another bill that you will have to add to your living expenses.

If every counseling session costs $50 to $100, you need to be sure that it isn’t an issue for you to swing it. If one or both of you has health insurance that covers counseling, definitely find a therapist that is in your network.

Think About Any Spiritual or Religious Beliefs

The bonding and unity of your marriage is also a spiritual thing. You need to be sure that your counselor matches your spiritual beliefs.

If you both have a strong faith leaning, then perhaps choose a counselor that is also faith-based. If you’re atheist, you wouldn’t want a counselor that can’t see past their own spiritual beliefs.

Make this decision early so you can feel good in your heart about who you are hiring.

Ask About Their Own Personal Relationships

How is your counselor’s relationship?

Don’t feel that this is an intrusive question. You don’t need to pry into their personal business, but it is fair for you to want to know if your counselor currently has a successful marriage.

It doesn’t have to be a dealbreaker for you. But seeing if they are able to apply their expertise in real life can be helpful in choosing a counselor.

How to Find a Good Marriage Counselor

Knowing how to find a good marriage counselor will help your relationship. Choose a counselor to help your marriage before it becomes too late.

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Make Time For God Because He Loves You And He Is Always There For You

Log off from your Fb and Instagram profile for an hour. Don’t respond right away to that call. Turn off the tv. Cancel your plans for the rest of the day and just sit still. Find your quiet place and spend some time with God. God loves you very much, cares about you, and He has many things to say to you. He will calm your anxious mind and make you listen to your heart.

Always make time for Him regardless of your busy schedule. Because He also makes time for you. You could never feel His presence or hear His words if you are in a constant hurry. 

All the outside noises and disruptions are only keeping you away from Him, your God who loves you.

If you are reading this now you probably are aware of how much you are blessed by Him. He has given you life, ears to hear, eyes to see, a heart to feel, a brain to be aware and understand.

God knows the real you, and He loves and values you immensely. He knows what makes you happy. He knows what makes you cry. He knows what makes you angry. He knows how you feel at any particular time. He knows your fears. He knows your strong and weak sides.

Therefore, make time for him Because He is waiting for you. Always.

You can pray or you can just sit still. You can cry or laugh when you tell Him what happened to you during the day. You can do whatever feels natural to you because God always knows what you want to tell Him even before you tell Him.

God knows the real you. He knows who you were and who you will become. And the more you get to spend time with Him, the more you’ll start hearing His voice.

You are loved. Your unique, extraordinary, lovable, yet flawed soul is so loved by God. And He wants you to let Him in by making time to be alone with Him.

When Two People Who Are The Happiest Together Can’t Have Their Happily Ever After

We were not right for each other. I know it. But, I still want you to know that you hold a special place in my heart. I want to thank you for all we shared and all the memories. I want to thank you for falling in love with me and being there to catch me when I fell in love with you. I want to thank you for all the laughs we shared. I want to thank you for loving me for who I am and your understanding and support you were giving me every single day. Especially, thank you for always being there for me.

Even though we were very happy together, and even though at some point we were right for each other, our love had an expiration date. And somehow, we both knew we were never going to last.

When we finished our story, I couldn’t help but wonder about all the maybes and what-ifs in our connection. I couldn’t stop my heart from feeling pain. And I also couldn’t understand how two people who were perfect together can’t have their happily ever after. I knew all along that you are not the one I am supposed to spend my life with even though I wanted with every fiber of my being.

I didn’t know then, but I know now that sometimes love is not enough. When it is the real thing, you not only fall in love with the other person, but you also fall in love with yourself. When you are with your destined person, you fall head over heels in love with the person you are with them.

Because, we can love someone, and it can still not be right. We can care about someone so much, and yet they might not be the one. Our relationship might still not be long-lasting. And that’s okay. Because maybe all these relationships and love stories are our steppingstones towards falling more and more in love with ourselves. Maybe they lead us to the right thing where we can find our true happiness.

As for me, I refused to let go of someone who was making me happy and fulfilled because I forgot that I can and I am completely fine on my own. That I can be happy on my own. Because with you, I forgot how to love myself. I didn’t live my truth. I lost my authenticity. That’s why we were not meant to be. And sometimes, we have to let someone go, so as something better can come.

But even though we didn’t last long, I will forever carry you in my heart. Because you have changed my life. You have shaped me in the person I am today and for that, I am forever grateful.

Now I know that true love is finding someone who will let you fall in love with yourself first.

A Grown And Mature Woman Won’t Settle For Your Excuses

I’m A Grown Woman And I’m Not Settling For Your Excuses

When a woman realizes she’s made it, and by ‘made it’ I don’t mean achieving some kind of financial gain or professional success, then she is unstoppable.

When she reaches a point in her life when she simply doesn’t care about anyone’s bullshit and she is done playing games and entertaining people who don’t deserve her time – then she is a powerful and unshakeable force.

Her motto in life is simply – “I am a mature woman and I won’t settle for your nonsense.”

She won’t settle for your drama. She is not a fan of constant arguments. She doesn’t like wondering where you are and whether you’ll call. She knows who she is and what she deserves, and she doesn’t deserve to be treated as an option.

She doesn’t want a bigger apartment, a bigger salary, bigger anything. She is satisfied with her life as it is. Because you know, some people want a normal and simple life.

She knows she’s not perfect nor she wants to be. She also doesn’t expect her partner to be perfect. She knows every person is flawed in their own way and she is not there to judge. What she does expect though, is love, empathy, kindness, and compassion.

She is confident in the way she looks and doesn’t need anyone that tries to change her. Yes, she has wrinkles, yes, she has under-eye circles, but she doesn’t need anyone to give her a lesson on skincare.

She also doesn’t need anyone to tell her to exercise and eat healthily. She exercises because it makes her feel good, not because she has some beauty standard to achieve. She is happy in her own body regardless of her weight. And yes, she will eat whole chocolate if she feels like it.

She surrounds herself only with people who truly love and understand her. She doesn’t need any toxic or unkind people in her life.

She loves herself and her life and she won’t allow anyone to toy with her.

The Unbearable Pain Of Trying To Forget Someone You Never Even Had

I Am Not Looking For ‘Almost’; I Am Looking For Forever

Last night, it happened again. I couldn’t fall asleep because I was thinking of you. I don’t even know why you are still on my mind. I promised myself that we are over and that I will move on, but somehow, I can’t. I’ve spent so much time looking down at my phone, hoping to see your name on my screen. I was missing you so much that I didn’t realize that I was losing myself in the process and letting myself down.

When I first met you, you were the light in my life. I had so much faith in us and our future together. I never thought we would ever grow distant. But we did. And it was brutal. It was one of the most painful breakups I have ever had even though we were never officially together.

And do you know how difficult it is for me to explain this to someone? How can I tell someone that I am grieving over someone I never even had? I spent many months with you, and when you were not with me, you were in my mind. We were texting and talking constantly. I shared everything with you. But, slowly, it all started to fade away until we stopped seeing each other entirely.

And what pains me the most is the fact that we could have been great together. We could have built something lasting. I believed in us. I believed in you. I fought for us and our connection, but I stopped when I realized that I was fighting alone.

The hurt from losing you is not any less just because we were not in a relationship. I loved you. I was physically, emotionally, and mentally invested in you. I enjoyed spending time with you that I ignored everything you said when you told me you didn’t want a relationship. And perhaps that’s where I made a mistake. Perhaps my hope that one day we will be together screwed me up.

How could I be so dumb? I am here, writing about you, thinking of you, losing sleep at night because of you while you are probably out there, dating and sleeping with someone else. You are with another girl while I am here still hurting while trying to get you out of my head and my heart.

I was looking for forever. I was looking for love and commitment and you involved me in a friend with benefits situation. I knew I didn’t deserve it but still, it was hard to let you go.

Now, a few months passed since we last kissed and held hands. I still talk to you from time to time, just so we make sure we are okay, and I see you around in town sometimes. We hug, we greet, we ask each other cliché questions. Our connection is lost and we both know that. And we are not trying to rekindle the fire that once burnt between us.

I wish you well, of course. But now I know what I want and what I deserve. And I am sorry that I couldn’t get it with you.

It’s Your Fault That She Left. Now, Nothing Will Make Her Come Back

How could you let her go? How could you fail to see everything that she was giving to you? How could you not see all the love that she had for you? How could you be blind to all the times she was desperately holding onto you and the relationship fighting with all her might to make it work? How?

According to you, she was desperate. She was suffocating you with all her love and care. “I don’t need another mother”, you said. Her empathic personality has become a problem for you to deal with. It was easier to blame her and dismiss her wonderful personality than having to step up to the plate yourself and be a better man for her.

First, you drained her out of all the positive energy and then you had the audacity to tell her that ‘she is crazy’ and that ‘you can’t recognize her anymore.’

I think I can understand what your problem was. You couldn’t be with a woman who constantly pushed you forward and out of your comfort zone to be a better man. She wanted you to live up to your potential while you were fine living your mediocre life.

Unlike you, she saw the potential. She knew that you two could work it out if you made the effort. She was sure that it was all worth it. You, on the other hand, ceased to make the effort and started looking outside of the relationship for temporary pleasure. Why? Because you weren’t able to handle how ‘serious’ and ‘real’ the relationship started to become. You wanted something easy, something casual, something drama-free.

And while you may be telling yourself that you were always a ‘gentleman’ who did everything that he could to make her happy, you know deep in your heart that this is not true. The only thing you did flawlessly was finding the perfect way to escape from the responsibilities of the relationship and leaving her with questions, insecurities, and heartbreak.

You got her to a point when she was hurting and bleeding while trying to heal you and bandage your wounds from the past. And even though she was doing all that to help you, you were throwing excuses and lies at her until she couldn’t take it anymore.

And no matter how many times you succeeded in bringing her back after tearing her apart, the damage in her heart was still there. And one day, it turned into something you could see for yourself – indifference.

Suddenly, she had so much pain inside of her heart that she had to let it go together with her love for you. 

And it’s your loss, really. You lost a strong woman, a genuine woman who truly loved you and was always there for you. Now she is gone and you will have only yourself to blame because she is never coming back.

Affordable Ways to Be More Romantic

Sometimes Christmas Is Just A Proof That We’ve Made It Through Another Year

There are many couples who would love to have more romance in their lives, but there are so many things standing in the way. Some couples have to juggle work, raising a family, and financial issues among other things, which can impact on the romance in their relationship. Others find it very difficult to afford anything but the bare essentials, which can impact what they can do as a couple. 

Many people who want to spice up their physical relationship do so by investing in things such as sensual lifestyle product, but when it comes to the romance in your relationship you need to think of more heartfelt gestures. The good news is that you do not have to spend a fortune on being romantic, as there are plenty of things you can do that are very cheap or completely free – and will mean a lot to your partner. In this article, we will look at some affordable ways in which you can be more romantic. 

Some Options to Consider 

The good news is that you have plenty of simple yet very effective options open to you if you want to add more romance without breaking the bank. One very simple thing you can do is to simply surprise your partner with a romantic homecooked meal. All you need is the ingredients and some free romantic meal recipes that are available online. You can then rustle up something fabulous and create the perfect setting with candles, romantic music, and a beautifully laid table. You could even consider having your romantic meal on the patio in the nicer weather and have fairy lights to add a little extra magic. 

Another very cost-effective romantic gesture is to whisk your partner off for picnic one sunny afternoon. All you need to do is get some simple picnic food together, pack some chilled wine and other drinks, and head off to the beach, park, or other local beauty spot. Of course, it may be that there are no suitable places that are within easy reach, in which case you can have your romantic picnic in your very own garden. This gives you a great chance to enjoy some fresh air, eat delicious and simple food, and enjoy one another’s company as a couple. 

If time allows, you could consider taking your partner away for a couple of days so you can enjoy a change of scenery as well as some alone time away from day to day distractions. You don’t have to spend a fortune on doing this – you could even go camping for a couple of days where you can dine under the stars, enjoy adventure and excitement, and take in stunning natural beauty. There are plenty of affordable options for those who are on a budget and being able to get away from the stress of your normal life for a short while can work wonders for both of you. 

So, these are just some of the options you can consider if you want to be more romantic, but you are on a budget.

2021 Valentine’s Day Ideas To Keep The Romance Alive

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This year’s Valentine’s Day will be a lot different from previous ones, as lockdown and social distancing restrictions are currently in place in different parts of the world. But despite the fact that most of us are living in a stay-at-home world, people are still looking forward to this day, with a survey showing that 55 percent of couples are still planning to celebrate Valentine’s Day in some way. While things may certainly feel a little different this year, there are plenty of ways to make your significant other feel special while you’re celebrating at home. Here are some Valentine’s Day ideas to keep the romance alive.

Make a blanket fort

Restaurant and movie dates may have been put on hold this year, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t do the same in your home. Celebrate your love in a meaningful way by putting a new spin on dinner and a movie. First, build a place for your Valentine’s Day date by setting up an outdoor home cinema or making a blanket fort in your living room.  Make it extra comfy and cozy by placing cushions and pillows on the floor, then decorate with fairy lights to enhance the romantic vibe of your fort. For your date, feast on some comfort food such as chicken pot pie, beef steak pie, cheesy fries, or beef stroganoff; then later, watch a movie on your laptop or tablet while snuggling under a blanket. Don’t forget to give your loved one a present – jewelry is always a sure hit, but don’t underestimate the power of a handwritten love letter and some chocolates to make your significant other’s heart flutter. 

Watch a livestream concert

If you and your loved one are music fans and you’re itching to hear some live music on Valentine’s Day, you’re in luck. Some of the most popular artists and singers have announced that they will have a virtual concert on February 14, so make sure to get your ticket online to have special access to these performances. Among those who will have a livestream concert on Valentine’s Day are Josh Groban, Air Supply, Dave Koz and Brian McKnight, Jim Brickman, and O-Town. Once you’ve secured your ticket, prepare a few snacks and a bottle of wine for the concert, and don’t hesitate to sing along to make your date even more fun.

Have breakfast in bed

Change things up by having your Valentine’s date in the morning. Prepare a decadent breakfast in bed by making delicious treats such as heart-shaped pancakes or waffles, quiche, a meat and vegetable frittata, and freshly baked bread. Serve the food on a sturdy tray, and don’t forget to have coffee, a smoothie, or mimosas to make your breakfast even more indulgent. Play some soft jazz music in the background during your breakfast date, and give your loved one some fresh flowers to start your day on a romantic note.

Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be any less romantic just because we’re spending more time at home. Consider these ideas to surprise your significant other and make them feel special. 

I Didn’t Love You, I Just Loved The Idea Of You And That’s Where I Got Hurt

I loved you. I loved you with passion and ferocity. I loved you with such a depth that I got myself to a point when I couldn’t imagine my life without you. It’s like I was not only in love with you, I was infatuated by you. I was obsessed and in love with every part of your body, your smile, your eyes, your touch… everything.

And I was not only in love with you, but I was also in love with the way you were making me feel. I didn’t only love your hands and your touch, but I also loved the way my skin warmed and melted under them. It wasn’t just your laugh, but the goosebumps I got every time I saw your smile.

And sometimes I even think that I didn’t even really love you but I loved the idea of you and how you made me feel. Yes, love can be selfish like that. We love for us, never for the other person.

That’s why when you left, I felt as if the most valuable part of me was being ripped off.

And your leaving was not silent. You slammed the door on your way out. I felt like a failure and I thought that I was destined to live a lonely life full of sorrow and emptiness because I was attached to all the wonderful things that you represented to me. And when you left, it’s like you took away all the beauty with you and suddenly my life has become a barren desert.  

But now I understand. I wasn’t in love with you, I was in love with the idea of you. Yes, you hurt me when you took away the fantasy, but I will be okay.

There is still love in my heart that is waiting to be shared with someone who will be right for me.

Don’t Take Rejection Personally: It Can Be A Blessing In Disguise To Start Searching For Someone Better

Don’t Take Rejection Personally: It Can Be A Blessing In Disguise To Start Searching For Someone Better

When someone says that you are not the right person for them or that they would want to move forward with their life without you in it you can do a lot of things. You can certainly start crying and yelling or you can try throwing your phone at them.

But don’t. First, because your phone is more valuable than they are at the moment and second because you should respect their decision. 

Peacefully accepting that someone had a change of heart is the most grown-up thing you can do. You respect yourself by showing that you understand the decision and you do yourself a favor when you walk away.

You take a deep breath, you smile, and you accept. And then you move forward.

Accepting the things we wish weren’t true is one of the hardest challenges, but it’s better to accept them sooner than later because otherwise, we’ll be wasting our time and energy. False hope has rotten roots and nothing good can come out of it. 

I mean, realizing that the person you wanted to spend the rest of your life with didn’t feel that way about you can certainly crush your ego, but you’ll be thankful for that in the future for you’ll learn how not to let your guard down too soon and you’ll learn so much about self-respect, maturity, and individuality. 

You will learn a thing or two about self-worth and you’ll put yourself first. 

One person’s rejection or approval does not, I repeat, does not define your whole life. Your talents, your personality, your achievements. 

You are a special cookie and you’ll find someone who is going to love you for you and you’ll feel it in your gut that they are the right one for you. As humans, we have a way of sensing those things.

If that person decided that you are not right for each other, then you need to stop idealizing the relationship you had with them because obviously, that relationship wasn’t perfect. Far from it.

When you in a relationship some feelings should be mutual. If someone decided to be honest with you and set you free, take that chance to get out of there, slam the door to the past, and seal it. 

You may not find love when you’ll be looking for it. It may take months, years, but it’s better to search for that person who will be happy to have you – alone.

Holding grudges never helped anyone because everyone is just trying to find happiness for themselves. So, don’t take rejection personally. You’ve probably rejected someone or something yourself down the road because it wasn’t what you needed at the time.

True, right? Well, you get my point. Now cheer up and make use of what you already have in front of you. The right person for you will pop up when you least expect them and it will feel right.

The Secret Benefits Of Joining Secret Benefits Or A Similar Site

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Sugar dating has long ago stopped being unusual or weird, and people have become quite more open and straightforward about it. So, if you have thought about becoming a part of a sugar relationship, then I say you should go for it, just as long as you are absolutely certain that you want it. Of course, it would be a good idea for you to get some more info on how these relationships work in the first place if you aren’t informed enough about it. That way, you will get a clear picture on what it all looks like, which will certainly help you decide if it is the right thing for you or not.

If you are now in the process of making that decision, then there is something you should know about. To say it simply, there are now websites out there created precisely for the purposes of connecting those people that are looking for a sugar relationship. Whether you want to be a sugar daddy, or you are looking for one, the first thing you should do is join one of those sites, such as the one called Secret Benefits and similar ones.

The mere mention of the word “benefits” has probably made you wonder one thing. What are the actual benefits of joining sites like those? After all, you certainly don’t want to waste your time on all kinds of platforms if you cannot benefit from it, am I right? Well, of course I am! But, let me assure you that your time spent on Secret Benefits certainly won’t be wasted.

You are highly unlikely to simply take my word for it and jump towards creating your profile on one of those sites. That is why I have decided to take it a step further and get you informed about the secret benefits of joining Secret Benefits or a similar sugar dating website. Oh, okay, those benefits might not be that secret, and especially not for people that have been using sites like these for a while. Yet, if you are a novice, these could definitely turn out to be unknown to you. On the other hand, if you’re not a beginner, then you might need to freshen up your memory on the benefits of joining these platforms, so here we go.

If you’re a new sugar baby, you could perhaps also use some tips on how to be successful at it: https://thoughtcatalog.com/anonymous/2015/08/20-dos-and-donts-for-aspiring-sugar-babies/ 

You Can Be Completely Honest

People have had to hide who they are for a long time, especially when sexuality is in question and I am sure that you can think of some examples about that all on your own. Thankfully, those times have passed and now we can all be more open with our sexual preferences, as well as the things we want from any type of a romantic relationship. Yet, you cannot exactly go around telling everyone that you are a sugar baby, because that can still cause some people to give you some weird looks. Does this mean that you will need to continue hiding who you are?

Fortunately for you, it most certainly does not! Once you join the right websites, such as Secret Benefits and other, similar ones, you will get the opportunity to be completely honest about the things that you want from a relationship and basically about who you are. Instead of hiding your intentions and pretending that you want something else in order to get what you really need, your honesty will be rewarded on sites like these. So, that’s your benefit number one and it is a pretty darn good one if you ask me.

The Sites Are Filled With Like-Minded Individuals

Apart from the fact that you won’t have to hide who you are, another advantage of joining these sites lies in the fact that you will get to connect to a lot of like-minded individuals. This means not only that you’ll be able to find the relationship you are seeking for quickly and almost effortlessly, but also that you will get to hear the experiences of other sugar babies, or perhaps sugar daddies, which will make you feel as if you have sort of found your tribe. In short, you’ll get the support you need while also getting the support you need, if you get my drill.

Judging Is Not An Option

The great thing about sites such as Secret Benefits and similar ones is the fact that judging is basically not in the dictionary. To put it differently, you will never come across a person that will be judging you for your chosen lifestyle, because all the people on the platforms have chosen that same lifestyle. The same cannot be said for the people around you, as I am sure you already know. So, once again, lack of judgement will lead to you feeling supported, which is definitely a huge part of being able to maintain a relationship like this and benefit from it.

You Can Find & Meet Some Great People

When you take your time to read about the Secret Benefits pros and cons or the pros and cons of any similar platform, you will realize that one of the pros lies in the fact that you’ll get to meet some great people. As I have already explained above, these platforms will be filled with like-minded individuals, which will certainly bring you one step closer towards finding yourself a sugar daddy, or a sugar baby. Plus, by connecting to the people that have chosen practically the same lifestyle as you have, you’ll get the opportunity to meet some amazing people that could join your life with the aim of staying in your life.

People wrongly assume that sugar relationships cannot be honest and deep, but I beg to differ. What’s more, I believe that these relationships actually enjoy much more honesty from both of the parties involved, as there is no pretending and no playing someone to get what you want. You are both completely direct about what you want and you find that the arrangement is working well for you even though nobody is looking for emotional attachment and I believe that it cannot get any more honest than this. The bottom line is that sites such as Secret Benefits can help you meet some great and honest people that might become a part of your life.

And, Of Course, Financial Support Could Be On The Way

We cannot talk about sugar relationships without mentioning the biggest benefit of them all, i.e. the very reason why sugar babies join these platforms and entre relationships like these. I suppose you have guessed what I am referring to already, but let me make it clear. By joining the sites such as Secret Benefits, you will get the opportunity to obtain that financial support that you need rather quickly.

On the other hand, sugar daddies will get the opportunity to obtain that other type of support that they need. In any case, it will be a win-win situation for everyone. And, the best part is, Secret Benefits and similar platforms can lead you towards that perfect relationship rather sooner than later.

A Real Man Treats His Lady The Same Way He Wants Another Man To Treat His Daughter

A Real Man Treats His Lady The Same Way He Wants Another Man To Treat His Daughter

A real man always puts his lady first. He always treats her with love and respect. She is the priority in his life.

Here are some quotes about how real men treat their ladies.

“Being a good husband is like being a good stand-up comic: you need ten years before you can even call yourself a beginner.” –Jerry Seinfeld

“You spend time with your family?” Good. Because a man who doesn’t spend time with his family can never be a real man.” –Don Vito Corleone, The Godfather

“A real man won’t date the most beautiful girl in the world – he’ll date the girl that makes his world beautiful.” – Anonymous

“A real man loves his wife, and places his family as the most important thing in life. Nothing has brought me more peace and content in life than simply being a good husband and father.” –Frank Abagnale

“If you want to be a real human being – a real woman, a real man – you cannot tolerate things which put you to indignation, to outrage. You must stand up. I always say to people, ‘Look around; look at what makes you unhappy, what makes you furious, and then engage yourself in some action.’” – Stephane Hessel

“The real man is one who always finds excuses for others, but never excuses himself.” – Henry Ward Beecher

“You can’t be a real man if you don’t look out for your kids. They need you.” – Bill O’Reilly

“Remember those black-and-white films with Frank Sinatra? Those guys looked like men and they were only 27! Listen to Otis Redding singing ‘Try A Little Tenderness.’ That was a man who understood what a man has to know in the world. Show me a real man now! Where are they?” – Chrissie Hynde

“Having two daughters changed my perspective on a lot of things, and I definitely have a newfound respect for women. And I think I finally became a good and real man when I had a daughter.” – Mark Wahlberg

Women Who Don’t Love Themselves Tend To Have Trust Issues

Women who don’t love themselves have trouble trusting someone because they cannot see why anyone would want to be with them and what they see in them.

When they discover that someone has a crush on them, they immediately think that they have hidden motives. They think they are leading them on, that they are playing them. They think the person who is interested in them is lying to them only to hook up with them and then leave.

They question everyone’s good intentions because it is so difficult for them to open up and trust that someone will love them because they don’t even love themselves.

Even when they are in a serious relationship, they are not calm. They easily get anxious when their partner goes out with friends and comes home late or forgets to return their call. They also feel insecure and not good enough almost every time a good-looking woman passes by. They worry because they think their partner will leave them for someone better.

And it does not matter how good the person is and how much they promise they are never going to hurt them – these women are still going to look out for red flags and signs of lying and betrayal. They can literally be their own worst enemy.

Women who don’t love themselves don’t trust other people as well because they cannot see the beauty and the goodness that lies within them. They only see their flaws and mistakes. They think they are unlovable and therefore when someone shows they love them; they are not sure what to do. Their first instinct is to escape because they think they are going to end up hurt and betrayed.

That’s why it can take some time before they start opening their heart and trusting again. They must first learn how to love themselves and accept them as they are. They must learn their value and trust that they deserve love and good things. And they deserve someone who will be patient with them and will stay with them on their path towards self-love.

5 Tips to Help You Break the Ice on a First Date

Going on a first date can be a nerve-wracking experience, especially if you’re not sure what the first words out of your mouth are going to be. Unfortunately, the longer you think about what you’re going to do next, the more awkward the situation can become. On the other hand, not saying much at all isn’t a good move, either.

Sometimes, it isn’t what you say or do, it’s how you approach the date in terms of appearance and demeanor that matter the most when it comes to positioning yourself to break the ice. If you can set the tone and create a positive initial impression through visual and social cues, then you don’t have to come up with the coolest or funniest things in the world to say, as you can lean on the preconceived image that you’re already projecting. With that said, here are five effective tips you can use to break the ice more easily on any first date:

1. Wear the Right Footwear and Clothing

While you might be hoping to find someone who “loves you for you” and doesn’t care how you dress, the real world usually doesn’t work like that on a first date. In fact, numerous dating and social surveys have revealed that people base their initial opinions and perceptions of others primarily on their outer appearance, which is mostly influenced by the shoes and clothing you’re wearing and how well-groomed you are. Of course, you’ll probably get a warmer welcome if you’re wearing a brand new pair of Givenchy sneakers than if you were to show up sporting decrepit ice fishing boots from your storage shed – after all, we’re not literally trying to break ice (frozen H2O). Why not check out SSENSE and see what designer pieces catch your eye?

2. Use Fragrances in Your Favor

Science has proven that pheromones and other natural scents are cues that the body uses to attract mates. While you don’t want to go back to the caveman times and utilize your body’s natural stench, you can still leverage the same concept by choosing an appealing cologne or perfume. There have also been social experiments done where people who had neutral or offensive odors were treated worse than people who had an attractive scent. However, be careful not to overdo this tip, as excessive fragrances could nauseate or annoy your date.

3. Don’t Talk Too Much

Your goal is to break the ice a bit, not completely melt it into a boiling lake of awkwardness. Don’t put yourself in the hot seat on purpose with long drawn out lectures. Try to think of breaking the ice like ice fishing: you put a line out there and wait a bit to see how the fish respond – you don’t just keep throwing lines out all willy-nilly. To bring the analogy even further, one properly placed line is all it really takes to put your catch on the hook. In more basic terms, the more you talk, the more likely it is that you’ll say accidentally something stupid or offensive, so try to keep your opening lines and responses short and sweet.

4. Choose the Right Setting

No, we’re not talking about your smartphone settings here. Instead, we’re talking about the environment in which the first date takes place. Naturally, it’s harder to break the ice in some places than it is in others. To build upon the previous analogy, you don’t want your date to take place in a frigid area where breaking the ice will feel like chipping away at Antarctica with an ice pick. Instead, you want to choose a warm and welcoming temperate zone that will ignite a heat wave which softens the ice just enough for you to gently break through it. In general, “warm” places are secluded, serene, peaceful, or entertaining, whereas “cold” places are crowded, hectic, noisy, or boring.

5. Be the First to Open Up or Ask a Question

You don’t want a horde of crickets standing in your way when you’re trying to break open the ice with a shovel. In case you’re socially clueless, “crickets” is the term used to describe that horrible void of silence that happens when neither person can think of something to say or muster up the courage to say it. Thus, the first step to breaking the ice properly should always be to clear the crickets out of the way. Of course, in the real word, you’d probably never encounter a horde of crickets swarming atop an ice sheet, but hey, you get the point – somebody’s got to be the big enough person to open up or start the discourse. You should never feel hesitant during this step because, in all actuality, your date expects you to say something, so don’t let them down.

Be Ready to Answer Questions, But Not Over-Eager

Eventually, after a few dates you can cut loose and not really give too much thought to how you’re answering questions, but for the first date it’s always best to look at it like a job interview – try to sound good without disqualifying yourself. When it comes to answering questions, sometimes less is more. You don’t want to be that person who tells their entire life story when someone asks them what kind of restaurant they want to eat at.