When someone says that you are not the right person for them or that they would want to move forward with their life without you in it you can do a lot of things. You can certainly start crying and yelling or you can try throwing your phone at them.
But don’t. First, because your phone is more valuable than they are at the moment and second because you should respect their decision.
Peacefully accepting that someone had a change of heart is the most grown-up thing you can do. You respect yourself by showing that you understand the decision and you do yourself a favor when you walk away.
You take a deep breath, you smile, and you accept. And then you move forward.
Accepting the things we wish weren’t true is one of the hardest challenges, but it’s better to accept them sooner than later because otherwise, we’ll be wasting our time and energy. False hope has rotten roots and nothing good can come out of it.
I mean, realizing that the person you wanted to spend the rest of your life with didn’t feel that way about you can certainly crush your ego, but you’ll be thankful for that in the future for you’ll learn how to not to let your guard down too soon and you’ll learn so much about self-respect, maturity, and individuality.
You will learn a thing or two about self-worth and you’ll put yourself first.
One person’s rejection or approval does not, I repeat, does not define your whole life. Your talents, your personality, your achievements.
You are a special cookie and you’ll find someone who is going to love you for you and you’ll feel it in your gut that they are the right one for you. As humans, we have a way of sensing those things.
If that person decided that you are not right for each other, then you need to stop idealizing the relationship you had with them because obviously, that relationship wasn’t perfect. Far from it.
When you in a relationship some feelings should be mutual. If someone decided to be honest with you and set you free, take that chance to get out of there, slam the door to the past, and seal it.
You may not find love when you’ll be looking for it. It may take months, years, but it’s better to search for that person who will be happy to have you – alone.
Holding grudges never helped anyone because everyone is just trying to find happiness for themselves. So, don’t take rejection personally. You’ve probably rejected someone or something yourself down the road because it wasn’t what you needed at the time.
True, right? Well, you get my point. Now cheer up and make use of what you already have in front of you. The right person for you will pop up when you least expect them and it will feel right.