Have you ever felt what is like to lose the spark in your relationship?
Don’t be afraid. This is a sensitive matter, but it is something we should all learn to face.
So, tell me. Do you feel bored of making love to your partner?
I know it feels unpleasant to talk about, but this happens to everyone.
Regardless of how passionate and loving your relationship, regardless of the fact that you’ve finally found your forever after person whom you love and cherish more then words can say, experiencing a lack of sexual interest is something we all eventually face.
Whether it’s after 5 months, 3 years or a whole century, it is still happening.
However, our problem it’s not because it happens. Our real problem is the fact that most people often interpret their lack of interest as “falling out of love”. They fear that the connection they once shared is now gone forever. But, they are wrong.
We’re human beings. We experience emotions. And as much as some of us hate it, we face changes. So, it is only natural to fall out of lust and into boredom. But, that doesn’t mean that all is lost forever.
Your relationship may be a real Disney fairytale love, you may have the kinkiest, hottest and naughtiest bedtime activity and still lose the spark after a certain period of time.
You may love your partner more than words can say, and still experience a trouble performing after a certain point in life. Cases may vary.
I’ve heard of people who after retirement suddenly lost their interest and will to engage in any sexual activity with their partner. I’ve heard about people who faced a difficult and challenging dry-spell after having children. But, then again, I’ve also heard about young people who experienced the same issue in every relationship they had.
This doesn’t mean that you’ve lost the fire forever.
And it most certainly doesn’t mean that there’s nothing you can do to put the sexual spark back into your relationship.
Changes, as I said, are a vital part of our lives. We cannot predict them and sometimes we cannot prevent them. But, regardless of the fact the some of us try hard to resist them, changes are a good thing.
So, what is the solution when it comes to sudden shifts and unwanted changes in your sexual life?
First, you need to acknowledge the current situation and accept the fact that you no longer feel the way you once felt. I know that it terrifies you, forces you to cry your heart out, makes the hairs on your neck stand up and I know you’d rather jump off a cliff than facing them with the truth, but listen.
Ignoring this issue will only make it worse.
Second, this may be a bit unsettling, but it is essential to understand whether your issue is caused by stress, tiredness, existential crisis or you’re dealing with a much deeper, emotional problem. This way, you’ll be able to easily address the issue and find a solution to your problem.
And third, you have to do your best to dive inside yourself and rediscover the love and passion for your partner. That is, of course, if you still love them.
Be open with them. Express your emotions and let them know what kind of problem you’re dealing with, but make sure you show them how much you care for them and how determined you’re to make this work.
Remind yourself how much you liked them. Remind yourself how much you liked their breast, their soft skin, their thighs, their legs, their back, their lips, their eyes.
How irresistible and provoking they look laying on the bed with nothing but their undies on. Remind yourself how drawn you were to each other.
Remind yourself how the smell and the warmth of their skin made your knees weak. Remind yourself of their natural and alluring beauty when they laid beside you after making love.
Start by accepting the changes between you and your partner and do your best to understand what’s happening.
Nobody said it would be easy, but if you’re both open to communication and if you’re both willing to overcome this heavy obstacle, you’ll most likely achieve a positive outcome.
To all of you out there who are going through a rough and challenging period of your life, I wish you nothing but the best in breaking those barriers, reconnecting with your partner and reigniting the fire that was once lost.
Don’t lose faith.