The trouble with being in a toxic relationship is that you never really understand how bad it is until you’re out of it. When you’re trapped inside of it, you may spot the red flags but be so overcome with love that you see things through rose-tinted glasses. Unfortunately, it’s an easy trap to fall into.
Moving on and finding someone new who treats you right will show you what a healthy relationship really is. Although you may still struggle with some of the trauma of being with your ex, you’ll finally be able to move on.
These are 7 things that happen when you find a healthy relationship after leaving a toxic one:
1. You’ll Overthink Everything
In your previous relationship, your ex always kept you on your toes. On any given day, you never knew if they were going to be happy and make you smile or be angry and leave you in tears. That sort of stress is difficult to get over and won’t leave you as soon as you find someone new.
2. You’ll Feel Guilty a Lot
How many times did you have to say sorry in your old, toxic relationship? It was probably so many times that you couldn’t even guess a number. Your previous partner made you feel guilty constantly, even if whatever happened wasn’t your fault. Because of that, you’ll find that you’ll still feel the need to apologize constantly in your new romance.
3. You’ll Have Space to Grow
At first, you may not even realize that you’re changing as a person. Whereas your ex stunted your personal growth, your new partner wants nothing more than to see your blossom. Finally, you’ll be given the space and support that you needed for so long.
4. You’ll Be Waiting for Problems
There was always some big issue going on between you and your toxic ex. No matter how good the day was going, there was always a storm brewing in the background. Even if everything in your new relationship is perfect, you’ll still have some trouble relaxing in it for a while.
5. You’ll Feel Weird
For a while, you’re going to have a strange feeling that you just can’t put your finger on. Maybe it will feel inherently negative, maybe it will feel amazing, or perhaps it will feel completely neutral. Although you may not understand it at first, the reason that it’s there is that you’re finally in a happy, safe space. That kind of feeling is still relatively new for you.
6. You’ll Slowly Learn to Trust Again
You’ve built up your walls to stop people from hurting you again. Of course, you’re not just going to immediately throw them down, even if you are in love with someone new. Despite that, slowly but surely, those walls will begin to fall as you realize that you are with someone that you can really trust.
7. You’ll Feel Truly Loved
Although you’ll know now that your old relationship was toxic, you wouldn’t have been in it if you didn’t think that you were in love. The idea that you had of love, however, was completely wrong. Now, you’ll have the amazing opportunity to experience real love in its most beautiful form.
It’s going to take time for all your negative behaviors and fears to fall away. After that, you’ll be able to open yourself up to the love that your new partner wants to give you. After all this time, you’ll be able to let go of the pain of being with someone toxic and experience something truly beautiful.
Do you know someone who’s left a toxic relationship? Share this article with them and let them know that one day, they will find a healthy, happy relationship.