At some point in their lives, most people will end up in an on-again, off-again relationship with someone. For almost a year, I was in a relationship like that and could never quite comprehend why. I couldn’t understand why we kept getting back together after all the times we’d said goodbye.
After a lot of reflection, I realized that there were so many reasons that this could be happening. If you’re in a relationship like this, it could be for one or for all of these 5 hidden meanings of an on-again, off-again relationship.
1. The Relationship is Stuck in Pull-Resist
Everything is very one-sided in the relationship. One of you is clingy and controlling while the other is distant. Because of that, there’s always someone holding onto the relationship while the other is trying to let go. You can’t stay apart because one of you always pulls you both back together.
2. You Think You Can Change Your Partner
They’re not really the right person for you, but you still love them. Despite all the problems that you two have, you still think that you can salvage the relationship. No matter what they do to hurt you, you look past it all. On the occasions where you do finally end it, you always end up giving them another chance.
3. You Fear Being Alone
Some people love being single but others are terrified of it. You worry a lot about what will happen if you end up alone. Your biggest fear is that if you break up with your significant other for good, you won’t be able to find anyone else. Because of that, you always try to get them back when things end between you.
4. You’re Still Hoping
There may be a lot of problems in the relationship, but you still hope that it can be saved. Your feelings for them are overshadowing the reality that it just isn’t working for either of you. No matter what happens, you’re willing to look past all the problems that you both have and hope that you can still make it work.
5. You Lack Self-Love
Perhaps you feel that you don’t deserve better than a relationship that you’re obviously unhappy in. Despite all the problems, you still keep getting back together with your partner. Whether it’s consciously or subconsciously, you think that you can’t get a better relationship than this one.
Being in a relationship like this is heartbreaking. It will never work out, no matter how much you want it to. The best thing that you can do for yourself is to end it. You don’t need to waste your time being with someone that you’ll never be fully happy with. If you can break your ties with them, you’ll open yourself up to a whole new, happier, love.
Share this article with a friend who keeps breaking up and getting back together with their partner. They need to know the reasons why before they can be ready to finally break it off for good.
