It’s not easy to move forward after having your heart broken. People end up scarred for life. Some of them don’t even know how to cope with the pain of being brutally hurt. So, they usually do what they know best. They take the easier way out.
They hold the grudges. They live with despair. They seek revenge.
But, while I truly sympathize with those who suffer, I genuinely believe that revenge is not the way out of that nightmare.
People say, “Holding a grudge is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.”
And, I couldn’t agree more.
It’s natural for us to feel the need to harm the people who’ve hurt us the most. We’re human beings, after all. Our emotions are real and very powerful. We look after ourselves. We’re over-protective when it comes to our wellbeing.
But, the true way out of that madness is through forgiveness.
Forgiving someone doesn’t mean forgetting what they did. It doesn’t mean that your relationship will go on like nothing ever happened. Forgiving means freeing yourself from all the pain, breaking from those chains and moving on.
Here’s why you should always forgive the people who hurt you the most:
1. You cannot expect to move on and experience the good things life to offer if you are constantly focused on the bad ones. You don’t need that negativity in your life. Revenge might make you happy at the moment, but it won’t bring you peace. Believe me.
2. As I said. We’re all human beings with a palpitating heart and intense emotions. We’ve all made mistakes. We’ve all hurt someone. It’s just the way life goes.
3. More importantly… don’t you think that you’d eventually like to be forgiven for your mistakes? I know I would. We’re nothing more than imperfect and peculiar combinations of different traits. It’s only natural for us to make mistakes. But, that is how we learn our lessons. Failure. Acceptance. Forgiveness.
4. Holding on to anger is painful. Plotting revenge is prolonging your suffering. Don’t let your grudged imprison you. Simplify your life. Let go of the poisonous past and experience the beauty of the present moment.
5. Withholding forgiveness and keeping the toxicity inside your own world will only make more drama in your personal life. You don’t need more of that.
6. Staying frustrated keeps you stuck in the past. Holding on to anger makes you forget how to breathe. It makes you blind. Handicapped. No matter how bad someone hurt you, the best thing you can do about it is to forgive.
7. When we focus more on the things we don’t like about someone, we immediately attract those same qualities. It’s the basic rule in the Law of Attraction.
8. But, when we decide to come to terms with ourselves and forgive someone, so we can free ourselves from the excruciating pain, we also attract forgiveness through the Law of Attraction.
9. After all, who wants to be known as a person who holds grudges and hurts others? I’d rather be recognized as the woman who was hurt, but still found it in her heart to forgive and move on, instead of the one who wasted her life on plotting revenge.
10. No matter how bad we’ve been hurt, we all have good inside of us. I truly believe that.
11. At the end of the day, we are the only ones responsible for our happiness. Whether we’re going to waste our life seeking revenge or forgive, it’s up to us to decide. The time is now.