The thing you experienced is not your fault. The trauma you went through wasn’t something you deserve. It was never fair. You were only an innocent person who became collateral damage to someone else’s wrath.
Yes, we are all traumatized, some of us more than others. We all bear some lingering pain and trauma. And regardless of the source of that trauma, we all should remember that we have one life and we must do everything in our power to make the best of it.
Because, even if you are not responsible for the trauma you experienced, you are responsible for your healing.
Healing is your responsibility because if you don’t heal, your life won’t have a meaning. You won’t be able to feel and experience true happiness and joy. You will be living but you’ll be merely alive.
Healing is your responsibility because if you want to change your life and accomplish everything you’ve ever wanted, you must make a move. Instead of waiting for conditions to improve or expecting someone else to help you, you must do it yourself. And to do it, you must first heal from all the things that keep you stuck and bounded.
You have the power to heal yourself. Don’t listen to what others tell you. Everything you need to heal is within you. You only need to look after and you’ll find it – hope, love, warmth, healing…
Healing is your responsibility because you must do it for yourself. You must understand that healing is becoming stronger and better than before, not returning to the way you were before.
When you heal your heart from the trauma, you will become the person you were always meant to be. Your whole life will change for the better. Your connection with other people will improve and you will feel greater than ever.
You will be able to handle whatever life throws at you because pain is not a new thing for you, and you know how to deal with it in a healthy way and heal. You will also become more self-assured and self-sufficient, able to do everything yourself. You will take more risks and dream bigger.
The truth is, when someone does something to us that hurts us to our core, we often sit still, waiting for them to take away the pain, not realizing that we cannot expect to heal from the person that hurt us. Instead, we must face our pain and realize that it was necessary for us to grow.
Because we aren’t meant to live this life unscarred. We are supposed to get hurt in many places and get stronger in those same places.
What we should never do, however, is allow the trauma to become our life.