When your relationships don’t last more than a few months, you might feel bad and get the wrong picture about yourself. You might think that the problem is in you. That you are the one that has commitment issues. And I can see why you might be feeling that way. Because society and the people around you are judging you and telling you that you are not serious about settling down and having a long-term commitment.
They don’t realize that sometimes the reason why your relationships fail and are short-lived is that you don’t want to waste your time with someone who is not right for you. When you notice red flags, you terminate the relationship. This is not like you don’t give people a chance. You give them. Actually, you might date them for a few months and give yourself and them a chance to build something meaningful. However, the moment you realize that the connection isn’t going anywhere, you put an end to it because you don’t want to waste your time and energy on the wrong person.
But of course, there are times when you question yourself and your decisions. Times when you wonder why your relationships never last long. You wonder whether you are doing something wrong, especially when you are seeing your friends having serious relationships. But then, you realize that you opened your heart to people. You allowed people to get close to you. It’s just that you haven’t still met someone with whom you can imagine your future.
Don’t worry. You are ready for a relationship. You are ready for a commitment but not at all costs. You will never force yourself to be in a relationship that doesn’t make you happy and fulfilled. And that’s okay. It will happen spontaneously. You will feel it in your heart when it does. Because with the right person everything will go smoothly. You will never doubt whether you two are meant for each other.
You are not too picky. You are not too afraid. You are not too fickle. You have standards. You know your worth. You know what you want, and you won’t settle for less. You are on the right path. You are doing the right thing. Everything will fall into place, don’t worry.