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When You Destroyed Me Emotionally, I Became A Better Person. Thank You For That

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Imagine this scenario: a woman sitting on her bathroom floor, banging her fists onto the ground as she tries to silence her sobs, calm her beating heart and make sense of the breakup. Her heart is broken, her hopes shattered. She has lost the love of her life. The one she loved more than life but became her worst nightmare.  

Now, what I want you to do is imagine my face. Because that woman on the bathroom floor was me. I was that woman after you emotionally destroyed me. After months and months of feeling not good enough. After months and months of you choosing other people over me. After you – taking me for granted.

And I want to tell you that I don’t hate you. Instead, I want to say – thank you.

Because after months and months of you emotionally abusing me, I realized that it is not that I wasn’t good enough for you – it was you. You were the toxic one.

I am finally coming out of that dark place that you’ve put me in. You no longer have power over me. I remind myself every single day of my worth and that I am enough.

I deserve better than your fake honey words that completely distorted my perception of true love. I deserve better than someone who takes me for granted and ignores me. I deserve better than someone who has broken my heart without a second thought.

I deserve someone better than you.

Now, I am not the same heart-broken woman sitting on her bathroom floor trying to stop the tears from coming. Now I know better than to give someone complete power over me and my emotions. I have regained the lost control over my life and I am not willing to give it away anymore. I won’t ever feel worthless. I won’t allow anyone to make me feel less.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that you are a bad person. You are indeed a good person, but you were toxic to me. And if sometimes you start thinking about me and wishing to reach out to me, please remember the woman on the bathroom floor and stop yourself from calling me ever again.

Because you have put me in a dark place. I was surrounded by negativity. The sun just didn’t shine for me for a long time because you were my only source of light. I was drowning and then, suddenly I was done. I decided to be there for myself because you never were.

I know you are not a bad person, but next time you feel like you miss me and want me back, please remember what you did. Think of the woman who spent so many sleepless nights in agony trying to figure out where she went wrong. Think of the woman who lost her appetite and who made her life a living hell.

Think of all the damage you’ve done and back away.

But before you go, I want to thank you for shaping me into the woman I always wished to become.

Thank you for making me stronger.

Thank you for making me take control over my life.

Thank you for pushing me so below the surface that I had no choice left but to go up and transform my life.

Thank you for helping me realize that I don’t need to seek validation from others ever again.

That I am enough.

And finally, thank you for all the great things that have come after the darkness with you. If it wasn’t for you I wouldn’t be able to see the light now.


I am currently writing my first book titled “Inside The Narcissist’s Psyche: His Ability To Make Victims Stay With Him Even Though The Pain They’re Feeling Is Unbearable.” If you are interested to take a glimpse at it, follow this link and tell us whether you like the subject so that we can send you a free chapter after we publish it.

Mary Wright