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To Every Woman Who Has Been Too Strong For Too Long – You Are One Of A Kind


I want you to know that you’re one of a kind. I want you to know that you’re strong because when something went wrong or didn’t turn out like you expected, you gave your best to handle it. Even when life knocked you down, you always tried to find a way to stand on your feet again and move on.

You’re strong because…

Life has never been easy for you.

You weren’t born under a lucky star. You had to work hard to get where you are now. You had to withstand all the challenges, problems, and pain life threw your way. You fell down time and time again, but you always found a way to lift yourself up. Surrender is a word that doesn’t exist in your vocabulary.

For you, giving up would mean not existing. Confronting anyone and anything that stands in your way to your happiness and success is your only option in life. And that’s why you’re strong.

You’re strong because you never play the victim and make yourself look pitiful. Because you always find the strength within yourself to stand and deal with any hardship.

You’ve always been there for others.

No matter who asked for your advice and support, you did your best to help them. Even when life got tough for you, you never ignored their problems, but you stayed by their side. Because that’s who you are – you’re selfless and compassionate, and you never leave the people you love deal with their problems alone.

You are not afraid of failure.

Failures are a part of life and when we face them, we have two options: we can let them discourage us and make us feel weak and unworthy or we can use them as a motivation to work harder in the pursuit of our goals. You always choose the second option.

You use failure as a reminder that you’re strong and that if you really want something, you can always get it.

You don’t point fingers.

We all make mistakes and say things we don’t mean, and so do you. But, you don’t blame others for your wrongs. You’re not afraid or ashamed to admit when you’re not right about something  or to apologize to someone you did wrong. You take responsibility for your actions and do your best to correct your mistakes.

You are not afraid to be single.

Yeah, it’s easier and nicer to walk through life with somebody who understands and emotionally fulfills you, but you’ve neither been nor ever will be in a relationship just for the sake of it. Because you know what you want and you know your worth.

A woman like you has no time to waste on a guy who has mixed feelings for you and who doesn’t know what he wants in life. A guy who is not entirely yours or who is unsure whether you’re worth settling down with. A guy who isn’t aware of your value.

Unlike others, you know it’s always better to be single than in a crappy relationship. And you’d never be with someone who can’t connect with you on a deep emotional and spiritual level and who can’t keep up with you.

And last but not least, I need you to know that it’s okay to cry.

You don’t always need to be the strongest one. You don’t always have to be the go-to person when someone needs attention, advice, support, or love. You’re allowed to have bad days – days when you feel down in the dumps, days when you’re worried or angry.

You’re allowed to cry. Crying is not a sign of weakness – it’s an indication that you’ve been strong for too long.

On the outside, you look tough, determined, and resilient, and that’s true – you really are. But, at the end of the day, when you find yourself lying in bed, wide awake at 2 a.m., staring at the ceiling, your mind starts racing. You get overwhelmed by emotions.

Because you know you have a burden from the past you carry on your shoulders every single day. Because you’ve been through many heartbreaks and loses. Because you know you still have many issues to take care of.

Because even though you’re strong and you know your worth, in moments like these, you have doubts that somehow you might fail or hurt your loved ones.

But, you’re allowed to break down when you need to, and you shouldn’t feel ashamed or guilty because of that.

Tears don’t make you less of a woman. They just remind you how strong you’ve been and how much capable you are of enduring anything life throws your way.

Riley Cooper