Let me tell you a story. I was seeing a guy on and off for almost an entire year. He was good-looking, fun, and had that bad boy charm that’s so easy to be drawn in by. Despite all that, he made me miserable. I won’t lie, when we were together it was fun, and most of the time I just wanted to be with him. But he strung me along, played with my heart, and was never the man that I really needed.
It took a while, but I finally realized that a guy like that isn’t worth my time. Now that’s something that so many girls just like me need to learn too. So, this is a letter to every girl who needs to realize that he’s just not worth it.
A Real Man Will Show You That He Cares
What’s this guy got that other guys don’t? Is he gorgeous and cool? Does he give you butterflies whenever you’re around?
Well, those things are great but they aren’t the real foundations of a strong relationship.
When you’re with the right person, they will give you everything that you truly need to create a healthy, happy relationship. Trust, compassion, mutual respect, and effective communication – these are all things you need.
You can find a man who’s handsome and fun who also knows what it means to really love someone. Although this guy may seem alluring now, he’s not really providing you with anything besides looks and charm.
Know You’re Worth
Although you may not understand it now, you deserve more than a guy like that. Don’t be afraid to stand up for what you want and need when it comes to love.
Learn the confidence that it takes to know that you deserve so much more than a man like him.
Maybe the first step in growing that strength is to learn to love yourself. You are a beautiful, smart, kind and wonderful woman. Everyone else believes that and so should you. Everyone else knows that you deserve real care and love.
You’re worth a guy who always texts you back, who makes time for you, who doesn’t just ditch you when something “better” comes up. Likewise, you’re worth someone who sees you as their priority, not as some silly little game.
Take Back Control of Your Life
You may be blind to it right now, but he has you wrapped around his little finger. With a few words or a simple text, he can make you drop everything and come running to him. However, you need to ask yourself “Would he do the same for me?”
If the answer is no, then you need to back up. Make the choice to control your own life once again.
Don’t put your life on hold for him because you’re waiting for him to mature.
Don’t ditch your friends for him or ignore your family.
Most importantly, don’t keep waiting for him to change. Trust me, he’s not going to, and if he does, it’s not worth the heartache that it will take to reach that goal. Instead of trying to make him a better man, simply find a better man.
Ladies, trust me, you deserve more than a guy who plays with your heart like it’s a toy that he can just throw away whenever he’s bored. A man like that isn’t worth your time or effort, and he’s certainly not worth your love. So, ditch him and move on with your life. Find someone who you can say for absolute certain is worth it.
Do you know a girl who’s been wasting her time on a man who doesn’t treat her right? If so, share this article with her to let her know that it’s time to move on from him.
If you have any questions or would like to ask for advice on a topic that is important to you, please write to me at [email protected] and I will be happy to answer it for you.