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To All Of You Who Aren’t Married Or Expecting A Child, Don’t Worry, You Are Okay


Hey, people? What is with this marriage shaming thing going on lately?

Why do we enjoy pressuring others into doing what’s socially acceptable and shame those who chose to live life differently than it is expected?

Every day, everywhere I turn, it feels as though people are more and more caught up in doing things that other people do as if that’s something that we all have to accept in life to be happy. Hey! Getting married and having children are not the ultimate goals in life. At least not to all of the people out there.

Don’t get me wrong, finding love is one of the most life-changing and wonderful experiences in life. Having kids of your own are a big blessing as well. But the reality is, not every person out there is born with the same dreams and same goals in life. Not every person aspires to become a parent or to get married. We are all free in our choices. And that is not something that should be shamed or frowned upon. Being different does not make us wrong. It simply makes us different. End of story.

I know how it feels. To be pressured, to be pitied in front of everyone, to be convinced that your choices are wrong, to be looked at differently, to be a subject of ridicule, to be cast out, to be shamed. I know it all. I’ve seen those looks. I’ve felt people judging me. I know what it’s like to be shamed for wanting different things in life.

But you know what? I don’t care. And you shouldn’t either.

You only get one life. You get one shot at it. So to spend it on something else than searching for your happiness is madness. Why do that? To satisfy someone? To stop people from talking? To fit in like the rest of the world?

Guess what? People will always talk, no matter what you do. They will always have something to say. So, at the end, it all comes down to what you want to do in life. What is your opinion, what you feel like doing, what makes your soul flourish, what makes your heart smile. Those are the only things that really matter. The only things that you need to pay attention to.

The truth is, it’s never early, nor late to do what you want to do. When and how you choose to that depends on you only. No one else. Not even your parents. Not even your loved ones. Only you.

So, do it. And keep your head up. Know that as long as you are happy with your life, you are on the right path. And if you are still struggling, that’s fine as well. Give yourself a break and take the time that you need. There is no rush. It’s all up to you.

Remember, you are perfectly normal. It’s fine to want other things in life. It’s fine to not try to fit in. It’s fine to be different. Keep walking your path and keep believing in yourself. Good things will always come to those who have faith.

Stephanie Reeds