My dear friend, I look at you and I see that you’re completely blind.
There was a time when you had strong boundaries and you knew your worth. Back then I knew you as someone who never hesitated to stand up for their rights. Someone who fought for the things that mattered.
But now it seems to me that you’re trapped in an extremely vicious pattern, and no matter what you do, you cannot find your way out.
You are drawn to a man who is inarguably bad for you. A man who has hurt you in the past and left you when you needed him the most. A man who never kept his promises. A man who made you question your sanity. A man who made you wonder whether something is wrong with you. A man whose greed for dominance almost tore your soul apart.
And yet, there’s something that keeps pulling you towards this man. Call it a force, deep energy, an inexplicable attraction or whatever. This invisible force is blindfolding you and it is leading your way towards another emotional disaster.
Because, let’s be honest, deep inside, you know that you’re going to burn yourself from the same fire that almost destroyed you the last time you approached it.
You promised yourself that you will never give this man another chance. You swore that you would never let him come anywhere near you again. You said to me that you are over. You left him in the past and moved on with your life.
But I guess you are a fool in love. Or maybe just a fool.
For the love of God, just WAKE UP! Open your eyes and let the truth slap you in the face once and for all. Let it leave a red, hurtful mark on your cheek so that you can finally understand what is going in here.
A man like him doesn’t change that easily. You know how the saying goes, don’t you?
Once a manipulator, always a manipulator.
So, please, enlighten me, why do you think that he will change for you?
You say he’s different. You say that he’s more mature now. You even dare to convince me that he finally got his shit together, and he’s finally ready to settle down.
That he’s honest now. That he’ll do anything for you. That he will never let anyone hurt you. That he will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. That he wasn’t aware of your worth until he’d completely lost you.
And of course, you believe that. After all, that’s what you wanted him to be from the very first moment your eyes met. But the truth is, he is playing a game with you. And deep inside, you are aware of this. The thing is, you don’t want to admit it.
You choose to give him another chance because unconsciously, you are used to this.
A part of you kind of needs this.
But, let me tell you something. This relationship pattern you’re stuck in, this toxic attraction you have with this person, it will destroy you. Trust me.
You cannot keep doing this to yourself thinking that one day this person will truly change and genuinely fall in love with you. Because he won’t. I’ve learned this from my experience. People barely change. And even if they do, they always do it for themselves. Not for another person.
So, please don’t make the same mistake twice. Because I’m telling you, you will suffer for it. You will regret the day you let him back into your life.
Instead, let your past mistakes be a lesson to you. Accept your destiny, make amends with your past, cry your heart out if you need to, isolate yourself, learn to love your scars and search for the happiness within you.
For that is the only place you’ll find it.