To all the women who choose not to have kids… society may attack you, but I salute you.
I really do.
In a world where everyone constantly pressures you because you are a woman, you have the courage to stand up from the crowd and confront the orthodox way of thinking. In a world where everyone expects you to go down the familiar road and create a family, you choose to be who you really want to be, regardless of the price that you have to pay for that.
You are not afraid to be exactly who you are, no matter what people have to say about that.
And because of that, I salute you.
Having the strength to not succumb to society’s pressure and to live life by your own rules is a truly difficult ordeal, but you are able to withstand it all.
Have you any idea how incredibly strong you are?
Having children because that is the right thing to do, because your family wants to have grandkids or simply because you would make a great parent are not valid reasons for procreating. Women should become pregnant when they want to and most importantly if they want to. They should give birth because they want to raise children of their own. They should do it purely out of love. And they should most certainly do it when they are ready. Not when they reach an age that makes them socially obligated to bring more children to this world.
Women who decide not to have children are not immoral and sinful. They are not the devil. And they should not be persecuted by society as if they were the greatest enemy the world has ever seen. Women have the right to decide what they want to do with their bodies.
If they want children, they should have children. But if they have other visions for their life, they shouldn’t feel bad about following that road. They shouldn’t have to compromise their morals or belief just because finding a husband and making children seems like the right thing to do.
It’s really simple. No one has the right to tell them what’s right and what’s wrong for them. No one has the right to point the finger at them and tell them that they are making a huge mistake. No one has the right to label them as sinful and make them feel guilty for leading a life that makes them genuinely happy.
Just imagine what the world would be like if every person did things in their own way without negatively impacting other people. We would all live our dreams.
Bottom line is, humanity needs all kinds of human beings. As much as it needs nurturers and people who would procreate, it also needs people who would be strong enough to tackle other vital tasks. Yes, the pressure that society puts on women who choose not to have children exists, but it isn’t valid. People don’t have the right to decide for these women. Only they themselves can choose their own journeys.
So, I say thank you. Thank you to all of you brave, strong and independent ladies who have chosen to go down the road less traveled. Thank you for choosing happiness. Most importantly, thank you for being you.