With all the articles about what women want, how hard can it be for a man to finally understand and give his woman what she wants? Of course, we might have intimidated them, and we added more pressure with our ‘toxic masculinity’ label and the #MeToo movement, but if men want to love women right, it is not rocket science. We women really are simple.
As for me, other than a man having his shit together, I also want and expect these 6 things from him:
1. I WANT HIM TO BE OPEN, VULNERABLE, AND EMOTIONALLY AVALIABLE
I am tired of dating emotionally unavailable men. The type of man who plays games because he is “scared” to be in a relationship. The type of men who think that if they open their heart to someone they will get hurt. Well, I am done with these men. I want someone who will be emotionally open and available. I want a man who won’t be afraid to show their vulnerable side and express his feelings towards me. I want a grown man who is in touch with himself, not a boy who is running away anytime things get too “serious.”
2. I WANT HIM TO BE WILLING
Willing to open his heart. Willing to tell me his fears. Willing to fight with me. Willing to compromise. Willing to repair what is broken. Willing to listen intently to me. Willing to have deep conversations with me. Willing to say, ‘I am sorry.’ Willing to hold my hand. Willing to love me intensely and passionately. Willing to be there for me when I need him. Willing to grow and become a better person. Willing to do the work it takes to build a solid and stable foundation for our relationship…
3. I WANT HIM TO BE SINCERE
I want honesty more than anything in a relationship. I think it is vital for forming a healthy and strong bond. I would rather have someone tell me he is falling out of love with me, but he is sincere about it and wants us to work together to reignite the spark, instead of having someone who will tell me he loves me every day but will cheat on me behind my back.
4. I WANT HIM TO BE PRESENT
And I don’t only mean to be present only in the physical sense of the word. I don’t only need for the man to be right there sitting next to me and think that that is enough. I want him to be fully aware, attentive and focused on me. Because there is an enormous difference between eating dinner with someone and thinking about your work and the things you need to get done and checking your phone versus really being present with them.
5. I WANT HIM TO BE AWAKENED
I want an awakened man. A grown-up man. Someone who is aware of his fears, challenges, emotions, and issues. I want a man who will challenge me with his perception of things and make me grow mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. I want someone I can turn to when life gets hard. Someone who will inspire me to become a better person for him and myself.
6. I WANT TO FEEL SAFE WITH HIM
Physical and emotional safety is a must for me. I can’t be in a relationship in which I don’t feel safe. I can’t live in constant fear of him abandoning me. Overthinking exhausts me. I just want a real man next to me. Someone who will make me feel at peace and show me that life is beautiful and love is a divine thing.