A woman who is living with Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) is a truly brave and inspirational person. She struggles with her condition each and every day with immense strength and courage.
PCOS is a condition that doesn’t only affect her fertility and physical health, but also her emotional well-being, self-esteem, and relationships with her family, friends, and partner.
If you happen to be in a relationship with a woman living with PCOS, you need to know that she’s giving her best to keep her condition under control and prevent it from interfering with your relationship.
More importantly, you need to remember that she needs your unconditional support and help. She needs you to be patient and caring. She needs to know that you accept and cherish her despite her condition. She needs to know that she’s not alone in the struggle with her condition.
Because it’s hard for her to control her emotions. One minute she’s cheerful and the next she’s sad. She feels like she’s constantly on an emotional roller coaster.
There are times when she behaves irrationally and lashes out although she doesn’t mean to. She acts that way because her moods take over.
There are times when she has a craving for delicious food and chocolate, but she knows she can’t always eat the things she wants, especially sweet food and desserts.
There are times when she feels like she’s not in control of her mind. Her thoughts are racing through her head and she feels like she’s trapped within her own mind.
Some days she feels better than others, but every morning when she wakes up, she makes the same decision over and over again – that she’s not going to let her condition get the best of her. And at times when it’s really hard for her to keep the symptoms under control, she tries to hide her physical and emotional pain behind her gentle, cheerful smile.
And you can’t help but notice how afraid she is that she might not be able to conceive. She’s terrified by the fact that she might not be able to have children – your children. She’s afraid that if this happens, you’ll be disappointed in her. She fears she might ruin everything you’ve built together so far.
Yes, her greatest fear is losing you.
And this fear often makes her compare herself to other women – women that are skinnier than her and that don’t have to deal with hair loss, excessive growth of facial or body hair, or acne or worry about gaining weight every time they want to eat something sweet.
And sometimes she is even tired of cherishing hopes that you will always love her and want to be with her despite her condition and bodily imperfections. She often struggles with questions, such as:
Will he be able to accept my condition?
Does he know that I’m doing my best to keep my condition under control?
Is he going to stay by my side every step of the way?
Won’t he lose his patience and get tired of me and my condition?
Will I lose him to someone else that is better than me?
But you know what?
She’s also immensely grateful for having you in her life. She’s grateful for having such a caring, patient, and loving man by her side.
So, I hope you are always there for her. I hope you always give her your unconditional support and love.
Believe her when she says that she is doing everything in her power to control her condition. Believe her when she says that she truly loves you and needs you.
Lift her spirits when she’s feeling down and listen to her attentively when she’s sharing her problems and fears with you.
Treat her with kindness, compassion, and tenderness, and spend quality time with her. Show her that you understand her problems and that you’re more than willing to help her heal physically and emotionally. Let her know she can always rely on you.
Let her know that her condition doesn’t define her and her worth.
And last but not least, love her wholeheartedly and unconditionally.