We all have preconceived notions about love and relationships, most of which turn out to be completely untrue. The joy, the hurt, the sadness, we think that we understand it all. I, like so many other people, thought that the worst pain that you could feel was to fall in love with someone who didn’t feel the same way. As it turns out, there’s a much worse fate.
When someone doesn’t love you back, you can grieve and move on. It’s far worse when they do love you, but destiny has decided that the time isn’t right for you to be together. The cruelest joke life will play is making two people meet at the wrong time.
You Can Fall Madly in Love, But Not be Ready
I thought that I had found the love of my life, my forever person. We had met over two years ago and instantly sparked. It seemed like the kind of love that you’d only see in movies, except that behind closed doors, things were much different.
At that time, I was still so young. My future was ahead of me and approaching fast but I had no idea how it would turn out. I didn’t know what I wanted out of life yet, or even who I was. Being in a relationship with someone that I really cared about was wonderful, but I didn’t have the chance to learn more about myself.
When I eventually worked up the courage to break it off, I wasn’t really sure about it. I wondered if I was making the worst mistake of my life by leaving someone I truly loved just because I didn’t know myself. In the end, I realized it really was the right choice. Love is blind, but I didn’t want to be blind anymore.
Life Throws Whatever it Wants at You at Any Time
Maybe you’re like me, maybe you met someone before you really understood yourself. It’s a harsh circumstance, but there is an infinite number of ways that love can be destroyed. There are so many times in our lives that we can be unready for love, and you can be sure that’s when you’ll find it.
You could find the person of your dreams a week before you move overseas for work or study. Perhaps you’ve just gotten out of a major relationship and aren’t ready to start dating again. You could meet someone who’s still trying to find themselves or isn’t in the right headspace to be with someone.
In a perfect world, love would find us when we’re ready. As sad as it is, that’s not the reality of it. Only the luckiest people meet their soulmates at the right time and often they don’t realize how lucky they really are. For the rest of us, love will come when we can’t accept it. All we can do is wait and hope that when we’re ready, it finds us again.
Have you met the right person at the wrong time? If so, share your experiences with us.