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Stop Explaining Yourself – Your Life Is Nobody Else’s Business But Your Own

Stop Explaining Yourself – Your Life Is Nobody Else’s Business But Your Own

What is it about people that makes them overshare personal information with others?

I’ve never understood that. What drives us? Is it the need to boast about our possessions or we are so desperate to fit in that we would literally do anything to be validated by people?

It is crazy just how much of our life we’re willing to share with just about anybody for just a small sign of approval. The only reason for this submissive behavior is our fear. The fear of not fitting in. The fear of being cast away. The fear of not belonging somewhere. The fear of being alone…

Why don’t we just stop explaining ourselves to others and accept the fact that our lives are nobody else’s business?

It is your choice what you do with your life. Don’t let your fears and insecurities convince you otherwise. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for these 5 things:

1. Your physical appearance. We all go through many physical changes throughout our lives. Some we control and some we don’t. Still, no matter how we look, whether we’re fat, skinny, tall, short, pretty, weird, chic, old-fashioned, our physical appearance is our own business. How we look is often a reflection of how we feel. You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone.

2. Your relationship status. What goes on between you and your partner should only concern the two of you. No one else has the right to judge you for your choices, let alone your sexual preferences. You can be single, wait for marriage to have sex, do one-night stands, have open relationships, be gay, bisexual or not get married ever… Whichever road you choose, it is your life. Your rules. Your journey. Don’t ever let people shame you for it.

3. Your living situation. There is no such thing as a socially acceptable living situation. We each walk a different path and experience different journeys. No one else, except you, knows how it really feels to be in your shoes. Whether you’re renting a small apartment with your friends, cohabitating with your new boyfriend or still living with your parents, you don’t owe anyone an explanation for your current living situation. If you are fully aware of where you are in life, that means that you have strong reasons for those choices.

Stop Explaining yourself

4.Your priorities in life. We are all unique human beings with different values, priorities, aspirations, dreams and different sets of skills. So, naturally what makes me happy, might be the worst nightmare for you and vice versa. But that doesn’t mean that my preferences or priorities in life are right, and yours are wrong. It’s all a matter of taste.  

5.Your religious or political views. Whether you are a Muslim, Christian, Catholic, Buddhist, Hindu Protestant, Democrat, Republican, that is your natural right and no one can take that from you. Your beliefs, no matter how different or unacceptable to others, are a part of you. They are the essence of your being. If someone refuses to respect you because of your differences, that is their personal issue. The people who want to be in your life will accept you no matter what.

Stephanie Reeds