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Soulmate – Your Perfect Fit Or Your Worst Nightmare?


“What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined for life … to strengthen each other … to be at one with each other in silent unspeakable memories.”
— George Eliot

What is a soulmate really?

Some people say that a soulmate is your perfect fit. Someone whose keys fit the lock of our heart and someone whose heart lock matches our keys. Someone with whom we feel so comfortable and safe that we want to share everything with them, including our deepest secrets and desires. Someone with whom we can be honestly and completely our true selves.

And there is certainly some truth behind this concept. There are people who experience an instant connection at the very moment they meet each other. A connection so strong that it feels surreal to them.

Your soulmate completely changes your definition and view of what love feels like. And you start wondering if you ever loved someone before meeting your soulmate.  

You feel understood. You feel calm. You feel happy. You feel really loved.

Not anyone is able to fulfill and complete you the way your soulmate can. Sadly, people don’t always end up with their soulmate. More often than not, your soulmate and your life partner may not be the same person.

Your soulmate makes you feel alive, intact, healed, and entirely whole – like they are the missing piece from the puzzle of your life.

On the other hand, your life partner is the person who lacks some element to fit perfectly into your life. They could be an amazing husband or wife, great supporter, and faithful companion, but they can’t seem to enrich your soul like your soulmate can.

Sharing a life with a soulmate can be the most wonderful thing that can happen to anyone. Living with someone whose soul matches yours is a heavenly experience, and only few are lucky to experience it. A true bliss, outstanding passion, deep love, and serenity. 

But, this doesn’t mean that there won’t be any issues and conflicts that need to be sorted out and resolved. But, you know in your heart that you two will solve anything and overcome any obstacles without losing respect and love for each other.

There are also those people who believe that soulmates are not meant to stay together. And those people have valid reasons as well. They think that a true soulmate is a person who challenges you. The one who acts like a mirror to you and shows you everything that is holding you back in life.

They will tear down the walls that you had so carefully built over the years. They will touch your soul and smack you awake. But, it is almost impossible to live with a soulmate forever. Why? Because even though sharing a life with your soulmate is very beautiful, it is also very painful.

A soulmate is also a person who can shatter your world in a matter of seconds. They can break your heart and the pain will be greater than anything you’ve ever experienced.

It will hurt so much that the only thing you can do to save yourself is to change your life. And you will. And you’ll become a better person afterward.

That’s what soulmates do, after all.

What do you think? Could you live with a soulmate forever? Do you believe they are your greatest love or your greatest lesson?

Mary Wright