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Some People Come Into Our Lives Just To Teach Us A Lesson And Leave

Some People Come Into Our Lives Just To Teach Us A Lesson And Leave

I’ve never really understood why some people come into our lives, leave a great mark on our entire existence and then just vanish in thin air…

I’ve never really gotten over these losses…

My heart breaks into pieces when I think about her. My dearest friend. The one and only person in my life who knew me so well… And him. My greatest love. The only man in my life who was strong enough to keep my head above water when I had no strength to do it myself…

Don’t get me wrong. They are alive and well. They just left me…

I still don’t quite understand what happened back then. All I know is that these people had and will always have a very special place in my heart.

In the end, I guess it doesn’t matter why they left, but how much them leaving me has affected my life. So here we are. It is what it is. They’ve moved on. I’ve moved on.

And after all those years, the only thing I have to say is…I guess it was all for a reason. I guess, everything that life put me through happened to me because at that moment I was meant to suffer. I was meant to experience the darkest side of love. And I was meant to get my heart broken.

The truth is, there was a time when I didn’t buy this, but now I know…

There is a reason why God brings us closer to some people and then lets them go.

There is a reason why our paths cross with certain people and why we get strangely drawn to them more than to others. These people are meant to teach us a lesson. To open our eyes and push us forward. To lift us up. To motivate us. To bring us down. To take our hopes away.

To make us stronger. Braver. Wiser.

All the encounters in life, no matter how insignificant they seem to us or how much they mean to us but don’t last, they all have a purpose. Everyone we meet is here on a mission. And even though it is hard to accept, most of these people are meant to stay for a very short time. They come into our world, get attached to us, make us develop certain feelings for them, shape our lives, impact us in every possible way and then leave us.

The worst part is, we don’t quite understand the reason for their change of heart. We don’t even try to. Both our hearts and egos are broken… And in moments like those, the only thing we care about is surviving the hell of a period ahead of us.

Until one day, we wake up feeling completely calm and it dawns on us that maybe these people were here to teach us something that we’ve been struggling to learn.

That maybe letting go was the only thing that we were strong enough to do. And that maybe, regardless of how much it hurts, we’re better off without them.

One thing is for sure. We may go against it and try to make those temporary encounters our forever relationships, but if these people are not meant to grow old beside us, we can’t do anything to change that.

And in the end, it all comes down to that. Some people come into our lives just to teach us a lesson and then leave. Nothing more. Nothing less. 

Stephanie Reeds