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People, You Need To Start Paying Attention To Your Partners, Not Your News Feed


If I ask you what’s the first thing you do when you open your eyes in the morning, will you be honest enough to admit that you immediately grab your phone and check your reach on your fresh stories?

I just can’t help but notice that the rise of technology messes up with our sanity and therefore interferes with our interpersonal relationships. So, I decided I’m not going to idly stand by and pretend this isn’t happening.

Instead, I will dare to speak up and hopefully talk some sense into your heads.

Just yesterday I sat in my favorite café for a quick brunch. Spring is finally in town, so the weather was nice. The café had the coolest jazz band that played some of the finest retro tunes.  All in all, the perfect after work “party”.

Yet, there was something that kept bugging me. Everywhere I looked, there were young couples with their faces stuck in their iPhones. No one except me and my friend actually enjoyed the magic of that afternoon moment.

People, where did the old-fashioned, fun and exciting dates disappear?

Do we really need to stalk the hell out of everyone just to have just to have a chuckle?

There was a time when relationships were all about attention and affection. People bothered to hold hands, to look into each other’s eyes, hug and make out. They appreciated being in the company of their loved one.

Don’t get me wrong, there are still individuals who respect these essential values, but the sad truth is, the majority of people have already accepted having dinner with their phones instead of their partner and texting instead of communicating.

Don’t you think that this whole generation needs to be taught a valuable lesson about priorities?

People are constantly whining about their relationship issues, yet they fail to realize that the answer to their questions is in front of them.

Relationships must be based on communication and affection in order to grow.

You can’t possibly expect your relationship to move forward, when every time you go out, you have your face stuck in your smartphone. You can’t really bond with the person when you focus on social media more than on your real life.

You have to make it work. You have to make an effort and show your partner exactly what you feel. Don’t argue over text. Stop using emojis as a way of showing affection because you’re too afraid to let your heart speak.

The priceless joy of holding hands, gazing into each other’s eyes, sending flowers and cute notes should never be forgotten.

When it comes to love, we need to be vulnerable and open.  We have to be able to perceive this feeling the way children do. We have to give something in order to get something in return.

And that can only be achieved in real life. Not on Instagram. Not on Facebook. Believe me, if you lack communication and passion, posting pictures on social media and pretending to be happy won’t help you get it.

You have to log out, look at your partner’s eyes, and see what’s really out there. Appreciate their presence, show them how much they mean to you and just enjoy this life.

Stephanie Reeds