How many of you have been involved with someone who acted differently than their age? Maybe they were over 30 but they were acting like they were 16.
And if you are wondering why some people refuse to “grow up” and act their age – there is a reason for it and it goes back to their childhood.
People have a deep innate need for love and attention. And some never got the amount of love and attention they needed while they were growing up.
And those people whose needs were never met by their parents are likely to have difficulties making contacts with other people and connecting with them on a deeper level.
This is because it is very hard for them to just walk out of that time in their life where they were vulnerable and unfulfilled, the time when they felt that they are not loved. Therefore, they find it hard to trust people and open their heart to them.
They also feel vulnerable and helpless when it comes to intimate relationships. They cannot bond with anyone, so their connections remain shallow and immature.
But, of course, no two people are the same and every situation is different. The neglect can affect everyone differently.
The issues that are most common for people who were emotionally rejected are:
A fear of failure. People who have doubted their abilities when they were young will have difficulties trying new things and following their dreams because they feel as if their abilities are not enough and that they will surely fail.
Trust issues. They spend their whole life being left out in the cold. Unlistened to. Unspoken to. Always left down. That’s why they don’t believe that people have good intentions towards them.
Co-dependency issues. People who had their parents do everything for them are growing up to be always dependent on them. They may be ashamed of this, but again, they never learned how to take care of themselves since their parents never taught them how.
This list can go on and on. There are many more things that can make people emotionally stuck at a certain age, usually the age that they felt abandoned and left out in the cold.
And many of them don’t even realize that they are stuck. They don’t realize that they have issues which date back most often to their childhood. The sad thing is that these problems are very hard to overcome especially when the person is not aware of them.
Do not get me wrong, sure they are many people who even though they are stuck at a young age they are very successful and independent people, they are not living on their mom’s sofa. Many of them have a job, are financially stable, but on an emotional level, they are still acting childish.
Experiencing trauma can also lead to this situation.
Luckily, there are some strategies and things that these people can do to help themselves improve their psychological and emotional state.
The first thing they need to do is to become aware of their situation, to be completely in touch with their emotions and be curious about why they feel the way they do.
Watch the video below for more information.