Yes, I know – it’s difficult to ignore the calls. The texts. It’s hard to resist the temptation to constantly check their Facebook profile to see if they’ve posted a selfie with another girl or guy. It’s difficult to let go of something that once meant the world to you. It’s hard and painful to let go of someone who once you loved from the bottom of your heart.
Yes, all of this is hard, but not impossible.
Therefore, don’t get back together with them when you’re feeling weak and vulnerable. Don’t get back together with them when you’re feeling lonely and only looking for someone to comfort you. Don’t get back together with them when you are drowning in tears of sorrow. Don’t get back together with them when you are evoking memories of them and longing for them.
Don’t run back into their arms because you think that you will never find someone better.
Never get back together with the person who broke your heart because they’ll never be able to glue the broken pieces back together.
Never get back together with them because they’ll never change. They’ll never fix the damage they did to you. They’ll never heal your wounds.
Never get back together with them because they’ll never make things be different between you, no matter how many times they swear that they’re no longer the person they used to be and that they’ve grown and changed.
Because the truth is that some people never change. Some people don’t want to be changed – they just like themselves the way they are.
And if you get back together with them believing that everything is going to be different this time around, chances are that you’ll get hurt once again. Yes, at first, you’ll probably think that this time they really want to make things work out between you and that they’re invested in the relationship. But once they get tired of pretending, it won’t take them long to remind you why your relationship failed the first time.
If you get back together with them, you’ll only make them think that no matter how many times they make a mistake and hurt your feelings, you’ll always forgive them. You’ll make them think that you’ll always justify their broken promises and lies. You’ll make them dependent on your forgiveness. You’ll make them think that you’ll never leave them no matter how poorly they treat you.
You don’t deserve to be with a person like this. You don’t deserve to be treated this way.
What you need to remember is that you aren’t weak for loving them. You aren’t naïve for believing that they can change. You are just a human and you think the best of those you love.
Yet, you can’t get back together with someone who is fickle, selfish, and irresponsible. Someone who keeps letting you down and breaking your heart. Someone who destroys your happiness and inner peace instead of bringing happiness into your life. Someone who makes love feel hard and painful.
Trust me – I know that it’s very difficult for you and that you miss and long for them. But you can’t get back together with someone who doesn’t reciprocate your love. Someone who can’t see your value. Someone who couldn’t care less whether they’ll break your heart or not.
Therefore, let go of them and know your worth. Remember that your happiness doesn’t and can’t depend on them. Remember that you deserve someone who will love you the way you love them. Someone who will reflect your soul. Someone who will know how to take care of your heart.