There’s no doubt. Life is a tough journey. You come into this world and you are on your own. You are supposed to fight in order to survive. To fail over and over again, but never give up. There is no instruction manual, no cheat sheet, no nothing. You just follow your own footsteps and hope for the best.
And it’s hard. It is too damn hard if you ask me. Personally, I’ve been through moments in life when I thought I’d never make it. But here I am. Alive and well. A bit exhausted and bruised, but much wiser than before.
Life may be difficult, but it shapes us into the people we were always meant to be.
Here’s what life taught me in 2019:
1. LIFE GOES BY FASTER THAN YOU THINK
Nothing lasts forever. Relationships, jobs, friendships, opportunities… they are all a part of you for a limited amount of time. One day you have everything that you’ve asked for. But the next one, you may end up with nothing. That’s life. It gives and it takes. Today may be your happiest day ever, but you will never know if tomorrow brings you joy or sadness. Unfortunately, life goes by faster than we’re aware of. People change. They move on. Some leave us forever… So, please. Don’t take it all for granted.
2. YOU CAN’T LOVE SOMEONE WITHOUT LOVING YOURSELF FIRST
We’ve all heard this before. But it is something that you can truly learn and understand as soon as you experience it yourself. If you don’t accept yourself the way you are, if you don’t learn to love yourself, to be gentle with yourself and to forgive yourself for your mistakes, you will never be able to love another human being. Because you will never feel that you are worthy of being loved.
3.LOVE ISN’T LOGICAL
It’s simply… love. It doesn’t always make sense. And it doesn’t always help us make the right decisions in life. Because it has nothing to do with logic and everything to do with our emotions. If you’ve ever been in love, you know what I am talking about. It is never the brain that makes the decisions for you, but your emotions. There is nothing impossible or difficult when you are in love, for love liberates and makes everything seem easy.
4. YOU CAN’T CHANGE PEOPLE
It took me a lot of time to acknowledge this and make my peace with it. It is true. You cannot force someone to change for you. You cannot bend someone to your will because no one will ever change unless they want to. It’s selfish and silly. The only thing you can do is accept people the way they are or let them go. So, let go… If someone isn’t meant for you, let them go and move on. There is no point in trying to make that person fit your mold.
Life is hard but in the end, there is nothing you can do but learn the lessons it faces you with. These are all inevitable life truths that will always haunt you until you finally accept them and let them shape you into the person you were always meant to be.