I had a friend once. She would always make fun of the TV shows I watched or the clothes I wore. She never took me seriously, but all that time while I was a kid, I thought I was the problem. I thought I need to make better choices; I thought I wasn’t cool enough.
In retrospect, I understand what happened. My “friend” did not appreciate me enough. She got comfortable disrespecting me because I let her. Now, I know we were kids and all that, so no hard feelings. It’s fine. But that has taught me a valuable lesson in life.
Don’t let people get too comfy disrespecting you. Stand up for yourself. Stand your ground. People can say and do us whatever they want, but only if we let them. Stop finding excuses and show everyone how they should be treating you.
I mean, if you don’t do it, my dear, who else will?
Stop justifying yourself for your choices or preferences. So what if you want to read books on a Saturday night instead of getting drunk like the rest of the world? So what if you want to drink a whole bottle of wine on a weekday by yourself with no rhyme or reason? So what if you want to wear your hair short and dress like it were the 70s? It’s a matter of choice. And it’s called freedom.
Tell all those bullies that you don’t care what they think of you, show a little character. Cut their poisonous tongues and live your life with those you appreciate you, those who love you. Those who do not judge you and those who find your quirkiness charming and adorable.
Putting up with awful human beings is only weighing you down – stealing your self-confidence.
It’s an act of self-care to stop such people who have no boundaries. Set those boundaries for them. Once you stop letting people walk all over you, you’ll see the real beauty of life. A life where you are the action taker, the leader of your own happiness.
We are here once, and we deserve to make our life count. Cheers!