Have you ever looked at your partner and wondered… Could he ever change in the future and become different as time goes by?
The truth is, we’ve all done that. We’ve all had these thoughts obsess our mind. After all, no one can really predict what the future will be like. The only things that we are left with are guesses.
The real answer to this question is positive. Yes, he will change and so will you. Maybe for the better, maybe for the worse. However, even though there is no way on earth for you to find this out now, you can still try and figure it out on your own. All you have to do is notice the way your partner treats the most important woman in his life – his mother.
Even though this may not always be the case, a man’s relationship with his mother is undoubtedly something that could have a big influence on how he will treat his partners.
A mother is the first person a child sees. The first person a child connects with. She is the first nurturer and the first teacher. The first love and the greatest support. Therefore, everything that we give to people later in life is pretty much the same thing that we’ve been given as children. If we grew up loved, we will share love. On the contrary, if we grew up neglected, we will treat others the same.
Here are a few things that you should pay attention to if you want to learn more about him:
If he grew up with a mother who always provided him with unconditional love, respect, kindness, and understanding
It’s simple. A man who has been raised by a loving mother will learn how important it is to share that love with his romantic partners. If he’s been used to having an open and loving relationship with his mother, he won’t find it hard to develop open and loving relationships with his partners. The only downside is the fact that these men are usually pretty much attached to their mothers. Up to the point where they are convinced that “Mother knows best”.
If he was raised to never show affection towards his mother, or communicate his emotions
Men who grew up with mothers who weren’t that much affectionate with them are most likely to struggle to open in romantic relationships. They were never used to receiving affection from their mothers. Therefore, receiving that love and reciprocating back to someone are new territories for these people. That is why, most of the time these men need reassurance and a bit more time to open emotionally and really show how they feel. It’s not that they don’t know how to love… They just need more work and understanding to get there.
If he isn’t close enough and doesn’t want his mother to be a part of his life
Men who were raised by mothers who never showed them any form of love neglected them and even abused them, grow up convinced that women don’t deserve their respect. Later on, they develop the perception that every woman out there is the same, which convinces them that they are nothing more than just a source of pain. This is the reason why they have troubles opening up and as a result, they betray, hurt, mentally torture and disrespect the women close to them. These are the type of men who get women stuck in toxic relationships. They don’t know what love is because they’ve never felt it.
All in all, this is something that you should always pay attention to. Believe it or not, the relationship your man has with his mother says more about him than you can imagine. If a man dares to disrespect his mother, it is most likely that he won’t hesitate to treat his partner the same way.